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I Have Been Cheated On

Tell Tale Signs

By: spellb0und
Written on May 10th, 2012
Age: 51-55
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  • excalibur921

    i feel your pain. i think that if you remain together, you have to discuss the possibility of therapy. if neither of you is willing to move on thru therapy, better then to discuss the possibility of a open relationship and accept that is who she is & wants to be.

    May 16, 2012
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  • TheLoneCharles

    Sadly, trying to forgive someones past actions as a "growing up" experience doesn't mean they actually learn anything from it. Like you, my ex had a history as well..but she made me feel like I was all that mattered to her. There were always little red flags, but it wasn't until we hit tough times and her interest waned that the red flags became too big to ignore.



    Even with all that happened I still love the girl, but she's gone. Your story intrigues me, because I always "what if" had I stayed....I was 8 years older than her. It sounds like the 'ladies' we were with were cut from the same cloth. Interested to see how this turns out for you.

    May 12, 2012
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    • spellb0und

      Well tho were still together but if i could rewind with the knowlege i have we wouldnt be. She never goes anywhere, she hates me
      going anwhere, to the point where i just dont in order to keep the peace, and i seem to live my life expecting her to let me down. Also why was,nt i enough in the 1st place? what if I had not discovered her tyrsts? my guess is she would have fallen in love with him and i,d have been dumped. Might have been preferable in hindsight instead of constantly dealing with her insecurities.

      May 13, 2012
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  • spellb0und

    when i say she only pleasured him thats because when they were about to f*** she had taken her pleasuring of him too far and he was too close to c***ing to be able to enter her, ive no doubt that had he not been so aroused she would have and wanted to f*** him. I should have known what she was like tho, the stories i heard ,but she made me feel like i was the only one she ever really loved so i thought her past behaviour would not repeat itself

    May 12, 2012
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  • TheLoneCharles

    At least your wife admitted it, I played the detective game for months with my ex until everything was pieced together. What I find interesting about your story is that only she pleasured him...doesn't that sound a bit strange? Like what was her motive? My ex lied over and over saying she just kissed a guy, but in reality the guy was in rehab for heroin/had sex with my girl unprotected/and came inside her.



    I'm sure you'll hear all kinds of crap that "you made her do it", but much like me, you were at work when all this was going down trying to take care of your family. When I went through it last October and heard all these bs excuses that it was my fault, I got the greatest piece of advice: "Did you go out and hand-pick a guy for her to fool around with?"



    Because I guarantee if you or I cheated, they would lay down the hammer. Hilarity ensued when my ex's next boyfriend cheated on her and she came crying to me about it. No remorse for what she did to me, but flabbergasted someone could actualy cheat on her.

    May 11, 2012
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