It's Not The End Of The World

I've been married for almost four years. She is the love of my life and has been. She cheated on my when we were enaged, which I didn't count, it took two years for her to tell me and she was so upset, I let it go.

The second time she cheated, it didn't take as long for her to say something, though she was still just as upset, she couldn't understand how I was able to be so calm.

For me, it was simple, I asked, did she love the guy, she did, it was an old friend and former boyfriend. Alcohol was involved on both sides. My next question was did she want to leave me to be with him. The answer to that was 'No', that she didn't care for him that way and it would never work. To suit her words they fought and had arguments and now no longer are in contact.

Was I angry? Yes, undoubtedly so, I wanted to shake her, ubt it wouldn't have done any good, so instead, I treated her with the same balanced fair attitude and forgiveness I would ask of her, and in return, our marriage is that much more secure and close, and I'm not worried about it becoming a habit.

Cheating is not the end of the world, and if you can weather it and resolve the problem, sometimes you come out better.
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Sep 17, 2012