How Do You Learn To Trust Again?

After giving your heart and soul to someone....how are you supposed to learn to trust them again? I trusted my husband before he cheated so much. I never felt like I had to question anything...which now makes me look and feel like a fool!We've done the marriage counciling thing...I just can't get past it. All I see is him with that woman. I hear that you never get over it, and if you stay in the relationship, the wound keeps opening over and over again....do I want to hurt forever?
HunnyPoohM HunnyPoohM
31-35, F
2 Responses Dec 5, 2012

I'm not sure that I agree with the guys below, how the hell can you just forgive someone for breaking arguably the most important vow a person takes? Why the hell would you want to? Do what women do so well and just cheat on him right back. You are a pretty girl; I can promise you that you wont have a hard time finding someone to give you a solid rodgering. Once you've done it, it will hurt a hell of a lot less when you think about him doing it.

Don't be such a jerk! Getting even but having affair isn't going to solve any problems.

I know what you mean. When I look at him I imagine him looking at her and hanging on her every word like he used to do to me. I imagine him ADORING her. Now I am just his wife. I am a fixture in his life and he looks at me like a picture on the wall he has passed a million times that he doesn't find much interest in. He doesn't even know me anymore. He doesn't care to know. I will never be the same person again after what he has done to me. We are forever changed.