Cheated On, But StayingI just discovered that my girlfriend and love of my life for the last year cheated on me several months ago, back when we were already in love but hadn't made our relationship "official" as it were. The person she was with was a convoluted emotional entanglement of two years, and through the whole encounter she was barely finding the strength to push him away and he kept coming onto her. By her account, she didn't enjoy it at all. She has since removed him entirely from her life.
She apologized through tears and tells me she'll never do it again. I was angry, I felt like I'd been stabbed through the chest, but I want to stay with her. I know everyone in the history of the world who has ever cheated has said "I'll never do it again," but I believe her. Or at least I think I do - it's all still too raw for me to know for certain.
I want to stay with her, the problem is I just don't know if I'm capable, and I don't know how to handle all this hurt and betrayal and work on rebuilding our relationship that I thought had been so solid these many months. She'd been trying to forget that the event had ever happened, hence why she waited so long in telling me, but for whatever reason that burden has recently become unbearable for her, driving her into depression.
I just don't know what to do. Help is welcome.
Blair 21-25, M 13 Responses 0 May 29, 2007