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No One Believes You.

Emotional abuse is so hard, because no one seems to take it seriously. Like, if he didn't hit you, then you shouldn't be complaining. That... I tried to leave him dozens of times, and somehow I would end up back with him. It was so hard. It's been two years now, but I still get flashbacks to how it felt. How he would manipulate me into to begging to be with him, when I had started out trying to dump him. Months and months of this. It was such an easy trap to fall into, and I'm so glad it's over, and I'm so glad I'm with someone who treats me right now!
Euterpe Euterpe 21-25, F 7 Responses Dec 4, 2007

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any advice on how to heal from emotional abuse?

I think you have to realize that you didn't do anything wrong. They are sick. Nothing that happened is your fault, and you can't be forced to suffer just to try to make them happy when you know they never will be.

You have to really understand that there is really never enough you can do to "prove" to this person that you love them enough. They are sick and delusional. The best you can hope for is just to move on and eventually the pain heals. And eventually, you do feel better. Sometimes, I still think about what he did to me, and I still get little pangs of anger, but at this point I can shrug it off and move on with my day. It gets better.

Glad you figured it out. Actually, emotional abuse is worse because since it cannot be seen, people tend to ignore you when you complain about it. Lack of community support it a significant factor in any abuse and with emotional abuse, it is the main factor. Glad you are OK.

I'm so happy for you that you are free from that and found some peace and love.<br />
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Peace and Light....

Hey hun, <br />
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I think you should change your title to "emotionally" abused because people who search for this won't find it, as you spelled it wrong. Not trying to be mean, just practical. D.

Hey hun, <br />
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I think you should change your title to "emotionally" abused because people who search for this won't find it, as you spelled it wrong. Not trying to be mean, just practical. D.

I'm so glad U mentioned about a man not hitting U because a man should not be hitting a woman in the first place. Some ppl think because a man is not hitting U, that U should stay in the relationship. It's more to a relationship, like feeling respected, not mulipulated, and knowing that U R the only one he has eyes for. As U can tell I'm having some issues that I'm trying to shake! All I can say is good for U for knowing when to call it quits!

I'm so happy to read that you got out and you are now with someone who treats you right! Nobody deserves to be emotionally abused. I know for me, it was my birth father. The court system refused to believe he was emotionally hurting me and I had to deal years of being manipulated against my mother, and told horrible things about myself I still can't shake from my psyche today. I know I still get flashbacks too and I haven't spoken to him in almost 6 years. <br />
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Again, I'm just happy to read you're out of the situation and with someone who treats you good :)