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I Have Been Hit By My Father

Not My Father, But Close....

By: DietIcedTea
Written on March 31st, 2009
Age: 36-40 , Female
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  • DentedSyke

    DIT,

    My dad made a career out of hitting me (since I was the oldest, he explained) for every little thing. Perhaps being a male in a rural ranching community with old-school philosophies on child rearing made this seem normal to me (and to al others), but it hurt just the same. My dad was a good man who couldn't cope with an ever-changing world, and these frustrations led him to follow the path his father took, which meant the belt and the fist. After a few episodes of this, I became kind of immune to the event, accepting it as part of growing up.



    The silver lining in this cloud was that I never felt the need to resort to such intense (or any, as a matter of fact) corporal punishment for my kids. Both are well-adjusted, degreed adults now, making more money than I am, and they seem much happier than I was at their age.



    Parents do things for various reasons, but the hitting is unreasonable. I still remember the terror of the first few times my dad hit me, and I often wonder if he ever regretted his actions. I feel fortunate that I didn't grow up believing that hitting my children was an acceptable way to correct them. I don't think my dad saw this as abuse; he simply had no other ideas on how to correct what he considered unacceptable behavior. I pitied him for his deficiencies in this area, I resented the hell out of him for years, but I finally got over it and let it go.



    Kids don't deserve to get hit with fists by their parents. I'm sorry the man physically abused you. I sincerely hope that this was only a one-time event. **** like that can stay with one for years - even an entire lifetime. It's really up to us parents to break this deadly and destructive cycle.



    DS

    Apr 1, 2009
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  • euphoric

    You're brave.

    Apr 1, 2009
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