My Screwed Up FamilyIs your family so stuck in the past that their ideals are totally messed up? My parents are in their late 60s and had a very strict catholic upbringing. So my entire family believe that appearances are everything. They would give up their own daughters happiness if it meant it didnt bring shame to the family. Let me start from the beginning.......
My name is Ami and i was sexually abused by my brother in law for about 8 years. Of course i didnt know what was happening cos id never had a sex talkfrom my parents or teachers. i worked up the courage to tell my sister when i was 15. She immediately took me home. I was relieved because i thought it was over.....boy was i wrong.
My dad told me that these things happen all the time. That i made my sister very upset. She had already had one divorce. My dad stressed how important it was for this marriage to work. This news would devistate my sister. 'Think of her kids' he told me'they need a father'. So i agreed to tell my sister and mother id had a nightmare. It wasnt real. They so easily believed me. I returned back to my sisters house where my brother in law tried to continue the abuse.
Im now 23. 6 months ago i brought up this issue again. I told my sister and parents seperately, so desperately searching for the care and sympathy i deserved. Instead my parents asked why i was bringing this up again. They thought it had already been dealt with.
My sisters reaction was much worse. She was devastated, said she was sorry, she would leave him, was scared for her kids, told me she would support me if i decided to press charges. Then, after a couple of months, her attitudechanged. She now says she cant leave him. She loves him. She has said she knows staying with him means she'll lose me but she's willing to do that. My parents and sister have also begged me not to go to the police. 'Think of what the community will say'dad said.
Now dads dying and we have to put on happy faces so our family wont know whats really going on. My parents and sister have hurt me so much and while im suffering my brother in law is living it up. No consequences. Free to see his children when he likes.
Life is unfair.
Im really hoping someone can understand what im going through. Please feel free to.comment.
Violet86 22-25, F 7 Responses 4 Jun 10, 2011