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I Finally Had To Leave...

I thought I had finally met the greatest man.  I had already been married before for 10 years to the father of my children.  We met on an on line dating website and dated for almost two years.  Everyone said we had the "perfect relationship"  and I thought we did too.  My kids loved him and I had no doubt I would be married to this man for the rest of my life.  Boy was I wrong!  About 6 months into the marriage things went downhill.  He became jealous and started calling me names.  I could not go anywhere without him.  He was so critical of everything I did and constantly was putting me and my children down.  Then at about the 1 year mark it happened, he slapped me across the face.  I just could not believe it.  To make a long story short, over the course of four years the name calling, put downs, and slapping became more frequent.  The end game though came one night when out of no where and really over nothing he punched me repeatedly in the jaw and chest.  That was a first.  I left him a couple of months ago.  It is still hard but I am much happier and so are my children.
gingerhead21 gingerhead21 41-45, F 5 Responses Nov 6, 2011

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I feel like it is impossible to leave my verbally abusive husband. I keep saying I will eventually but can never bring myself around to actually do it I dont know why I just cant actually do it!

I feel like it is impossible to leave my verbally abusive husband. I keep saying I will eventually but can never bring myself around to actually do it I dont know why I just cant actually do it!

Wow!!! some of that sounds so familiar to me, I have also been in an abusive relationship. I was married very young to my abusive ex husband who verbally and physically abused me. He literally tore my spirit to pieces until I was a shell of a person and would grab and push and hit me. He was also very jealous to the point that he would check my grocery store receipts for the time lapses between stores and say that I was with a man instead of shopping and wanted me to copy my time card at my job if I had to stay late and work longer hours because he didn't believe that I was working, and once I worked a retail job and was alone through the whole shift with a guy he would make me quit my job. It is a form of control, that is what abuse is!!!! Control!!!!!! they will use whatever control they have over you to give them power. They prey on your kind heart and crush it.

That jealousy **** is insane! I'm going thru the same here. I tell him that's so 5th grade-ish, get over it. I don't understand the slapping. I spent 26yrs with a verbally and mentally abusive Man. Sometimes I wish he would've put his hands on me.....That would've deff made me walk away without ever turning back! I'm glad to hear ya left him for good. You or the kids didn't need that in your lives. I'm sure he's moved onto his next victim. Sad but true.

Sorry you had to go throug that. It hurts to know the person we love and trust hurts us the most. You did the right thing by leaving. I hope you heal well, and continue to grow and prosper.