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I've Been In Two Abusive Relationships.

You would think I would learn from the 1st abusive relationship, but it really was a different situation the 2ND time.

When I was 18yrs I became pregnant and chose to marry.  At that time we were both clean & sober.  On the night my child was born my husband went out to celebrate and I never saw him sober again.  When my child was 3 months we moved into a trailer house in SD on no man's land with no neighbors for miles.  I had no phone, no vehicle and no one to check-up on me. 

He would beat me & rape me and then leave to go to town.  He'd come back with some food a couple days later, and it would happen all over again.  We lived on the land of a large cattle ranch.  Three months later someone left one of the pick-ups at our place.  I grabbed my baby (6 months old) and a few things we needed.  I drove 250mi to the nearest large city with an airport & a plane to take me home.  5 months later I experienced a lot of pain.  I lost so much blood I almost passed out on the way to the hospital.  And then this & that & this & that and I went into labor.  The Dr.'s said they couldn't stop the labor and the baby wouldn't survive.  It's 1977 and they could not save the baby.  I prayed to God & he  stopped the contractions.  I still call her my miracle baby.  I tell you about her only because it was the abuse that I almost lost her.

The second time was as horrible.  We would drink tequila and smoke crack.  And the abuse continued to get worse.  My addiction was so bad there was a time I chose to stay anyways.  When it reached a point of no return, I left as of 2yrs ago last Dec. 2ND.  I've been clean & sober ever since.

WarriorMom WarriorMom 51-55, F 21 Responses Dec 7, 2008

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I feel sorry about you.

Thanks God.

I have been where you are I am a survivor of two domestic violence marriages. The first serious but the second became deadly it ended with me in ICU unconscious and almost dead. I was in ICU for a month and a half and rehabilitation for a year. I had 6 stab wounds, a fracture to the left side of my brain, broken ribs and one had punctured my lung, a broken arm and fractured leg. I looked literally like I had survived a horrific car crash. He plead no contest to 21 charges. He was facing many many years in prison. When it was time for him to be sentenced he just walked away and was never came back to court. He has yet to spend one day in prison. I have gone on to get my bachelors degree and now my masters in criminal justice. I am going for my law degree; I want to make sure these men just can not walk away. You are an angel.

I am so proud of you. I wish the best for you career.

Your awesome! Thank you for sharing. So many people are in despair & your story gives hope for a better way of life!

I have been where you are I am a survivor of two domestic violence marriages. The first serious but the second became deadly it ended with me in ICU unconscious and almost dead. I was in ICU for a month and a half and rehabilitation for a year. I had 6 stab wounds, a fracture to the left side of my brain, broken ribs and one had punctured my lung, a broken arm and fractured leg. I looked literally like I had survived a horrific car crash. He plead no contest to 21 charges. He was facing many many years in prison. When it was time for him to be sentenced he just walked away and was never came back to court. He has yet to spend one day in prison. I have gone on to get my bachelors degree and now my masters in criminal justice. I am going for my law degree; I want to make sure these men just can not walk away. You are an angel.

Update on my life. I'm still clean and sober with Dec. 8th being my 5 yrs. of sobriety. I'm also in a very loving relationship of 10 months and have never known the depth of this love before. Although life has brought some hardships to share, we only became closer. I've reread all the great comments and thank you once again. Love, WM

I am so proud of you.

Thanks :) I now have 6yrs of being clean & sober.

I am so proud of you. I pray that you find righteousness.

my heart goes out to you.......i too survived two very abusive relationships but i also had some awwwsum relationships and im not angry or bitter because just because some men abuse i dont compare them to all and im thankful i dont. Some of my friends in the same situation HATE men, like one is the same as all. ...Im glad im not bitter or hateful, sometimes im too peaceful and agreeable andi dont like that , either. :(

Isnt there a halfway place? LOL

God bless you

Wow that is scary warriormom the pic of xena fits you perfectly you are toughfer then her though im glad you have survived and made this far congrats on being a grandma you are mieracle youre self you got out of an abusive relationship and overcame addiction you are such a strong wowan youre grand-kids are going to look up to you as an insperation and i think they have every reason to you are a hero in my eyes im sure youre kids are more then proud to look at you and tell people thats my mom you are so awsome more then any words could posibly describe my best wishes to you i wish there where more people like you in the world it would be a better place if there where

I am really happy that you made it out of that situation. If you ever need someone to talk to I am here.

and i thought i had it bad....

It' all good now. It's been 3yrs now clean and staying single.and I wouldn't change a thing. I'm glad you shared and I'm not surprized cuz it must be another reason why we click so well. It's cool we can support each other with this. Hugs & Love :)

awwww honey, that's so sweet. I believe its in you, too. I'm no different than you. you have all the strength you need. Thank you for such a sweet compliment. :)

I am proud to call you friend and my inspirator. Because of your strength, I know you will continue to inspire us here at EP. Thanks for sharing your experience with us and help us to be better human beings.

You already have Sweetie

It was very surreal. I'm really happy your here. {{{Smile}}}

Thanks unicornn, freedom feels good! But now I get to focus on my grandchildren.

Well...I think you are a living, breathing example of "what doesn't kill us, makes us stronger." Congratulations on your freedom, from both a loser, and drugs....Now, you can focus on being a mommy....

*Smile* Mizz, friends like you really make a difference in my life.

Thanks for sharing these painful memories [hugs]. I am so glad that you are clean and sober. It is great to see that you survived all of that and are such a strong and wonderful woman today :)

Thanks Marji.....*Smile*

*Smile* Thanks BlueGeorgia

Well I think you have learned some hard lessons.

I am proud of you for your victory over the addiction.



I wish for you all the happiness you deserve in the future.

You have certainly had your share of pain.



Congratulations on your miracle also.