Be Careful What You Wish For

I, like many of the other people posting, have been reunited with my first love. We lived one street away from each other and became boyfriend/girlfriend almost immediately. We were both 13. We were together on and off all through jr high and hi school. We even got engaged when we were 19. I think God wanted us to follow different paths and I won't go into all the details but we broke up and it was bad, really bad. I never stopped thinking about him and even looked him up when I went to my 10-year HS reunion. As time went on, I realized I was missing something in my life but I couldn't quite figure out what it was. I contacted his son on Facebook on November 8, 2011 and he called the next day. Needless to say, we both knew what the outcome would be eventually.

Skip forward to now, January 2013, and there isn't a day that goes by that I don't thank God for bringing us back together. Word of warning, though. It has been the hardest thing I've ever done in my life. I left my husband of 21 years, who is a good guy and a great father, and never mistreated me. My kids chose to stay with him and so now I am here in my hometown back with my first love and at times I am absolutely devastated about the choices I have made. I love him so much and cannot imagine life without him now. But I miss my kids and my "old life". So for anyone thinking about making that first step and contacting your first love, be forewarned. It will be wonderful but it will probably devaste some part of your life also. I chose to follow my heart and I hope someday the people in my life I have hurt will understand how much we love each other and that we could not stay apart.
sjohnke sjohnke
6 Responses Jan 16, 2013

I agree wholeheartedly... I left my 20-year marriage due to reconnecting with my first love on facebook in 2010. I left my husband, who was a good man and a very responsible partner, because I felt lonely with him.. it is NOTHING compared to how lonely I am now... waiting for the "RIGHT" person, as my previous relationships started and married within 9-months. I've been married twice. I did lose family relationships as well...even tho he adopted my sons but we have an adopted daughter as well. My first love is still married and IDK how his relationship is because I've chosen to not communicate with him. In fact, I recently friended him on FB and he didn't respond within 24-hours so I deleted my request. The very next day he sent me one. We didn't talk like we did 3 years ago, but this time his wife did make him unfriend me I guess, and she suspected we were together.. This time I was innocent as I wasn't with him like I was the last time. Good thing was I did not sleep with him the last time we reconnected 3-4 years ago. I am very content with that choice however, the void in my life now is unreal!! There is no assurance that someone will leave their spouse for someone they knew years ago.. so walk away if you can and there is a marriage involved... hurting people is NOT healthy and the fall out is intense!!

did he have kids

I too have reunited with a lost love after 23 yrs. I understand the devestation as I am married to a good man and great father. I cant help how I feel about my first. I want to follow my heart. I know this will hurt so many others. Just want to say thank you for sharing and I truly understand.

excuse me buddy but it was not a bad comment. it was well thought out comment(a few spelling errors but whtever if u want to hate on that then ur just wasting my time). anyone with half a mind would see this story is just ridiculous. yes i feel your pain too. a first love always seems so special because its the first time u had tht type of feeling. hindsight is always 20/20 and a new experience that u enjoyed will always seem better that 1st time. just look at a veteran drug abuser. he/she will always say tht first time was just amazing but they never recaptured the feeling agn. its a survival mechanism that are brain uses that causes it. its so we can better adapt, and keep moving forward. but pple who just on whims like tht dont realize tht and they usually get burned. i wouldnt expect u to understand anyways...

You obviously haven't got a clue what your talking about! lol

Ya ok buddy. Let's give rise to a nation of people acting on stupid juvenile desires... we'll see how tht goes. It's funny to find people older then me who have about two brain cells of wisdom, but thanks for you 5 cents.....

The same thing happened to me!
After 21 years I found my first love on Facebook.
Long story short, 3 years later my wife and I split up and now I am trying to forge ahead with my first love.
I feel your pain... Ignore the bad comments. What you did was incredibly brave!!!

w.........t................f...................u left u husband of 21 yrs for ur old lifestyle. im really srry for this but i read this and i was just filled with rage which i will try to water down. what was so damn great about ur old life? u know this all might hav bee a midlife crisis thing. and u acted very stupid. unless u never loved him. if i had a chance with my first true love i would take it in a heat beat. I purposely blew her off because i was confused at the time, yet even after the 100th time she still talked to me. id suggest taking ur self right back to him apologizing and explaining why u did wht u did. just dumb. i dont even know what to say that isnt completely out of line, for petes sake. and u want to kno something about god... take the lessons from the bible and apply them to ur life (in fact the one where the son leaves his father and brother would b perfect for u) and if ur really down and out use god as a way to keep going but dont just make up random crap about god just this or god just tht... cause at the end of the day ur own actions will push u way further than god's will ever!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i dont mean to sound atheist (im a christian not a catholic, thanks to the catholic church )but the more i hear god just didnt want this or that the more i believe its just an excuse for someones weak constitution. religion only applies to life as a series of lessons and nothing else. anything else is just a load of **** distorted over the decades. good day to u ma'am.