I Have Been Single For Way Too Long

Think I Might Be Miserable? Think Again

By: 5hadow

Written on January 17th, 2012

lets see... I've been single for..2 plus decades! Yikes! you say? perhaps.
Over that time I've discovered that I really am a very good person (now) and I just don't need anyone to "validate" me or my life.

I have friends who I speak with and see occasionally. I'm gregarious and I believe am of average intelligence so I am perfectly comfortable striking up a conversation with anyone including complete strangers. I've been told I am not too bad on the eye (which I guess helps a lot).

So, yes, I have been single way too long, but it doesn't bother me, not one bit, and now my life has more fulfillment and meaning than it ever did in the past.

I like myself (others seem to like me too). I'm confident, I like to read and learn new things. Mostly I am perfectly comfortable in my own skin.

By: 5hadow

Age: 51-55

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10 responses

formerWarrior

Cheers! I can relate to your story! Single for quite a long time, happy and comfortable!

Learning new things keep me pretty busy. :)

Aug 10, 2012
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Keywee

Good for you, 5hadow!

You sound like a very cool man, and I wish there were more guys like you (someone who is always willing to learn and not just getting into relationships for the sake of being with someone)! :)

GOD BLESS! (If you believe there's a god.)

Jul 24, 2012
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- 5hadow
  :) thank you. I DO believe! the thought of the world just randomly spinning out of control is...well its frightening!
  More people like me? hmmm.... idk if that's a great idea, I can be a bit of a stick in the mud and over the years I've gotten even more puritanical. Heck I don't know if I could tolerate a world full of ME's. lol I'm far from perfect (just ask my daughter, who currently isn't speaking to me).
  
  Jul 24, 2012
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- Keywee
  Puritanical? Even better! The world needs more people who are pure and moral! >< Doesn't it?
  Aww no... I'm sorry to hear that things have turned sour between you and your daughter... What happened?
  
  Jul 24, 2012
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KingofSwords

You may not be single too long at all. I was single longer than I would have liked but am happy because God blessed me with the right person at the right time. I just got married Dec. 31, 2011. I believe one is never too old for love. It is really good that you are comfortable with yourself. It makes life good.

Feb 29, 2012
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- 5hadow
  From your lips to G-ds ears! but if not, then I have been blessed with a daughter, and I just couldn't imagine being any happier
  
  Feb 29, 2012
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guitar68

Thank you for your story. It puts one's own identity above the validation of others. I have been single for some time that I count the time between Summer Olympic Games as 1year.LOL

Feb 13, 2012
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- 5hadow
  Never give up hope. I gave up and I was given the greatest gift ever. so miracles DO happen
  
  Feb 29, 2012
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doejohn2043

That is so terrific. You ARE a win-win situation. Should you choose to attract a partner, it will surely be someone who is equally at home with him/herself. Should you remain alone, you will continue as you are - well-adjusted and satisfied with your life. Thank you very much for sharing your mature point of view - quite an encouragement for others.

Be well.

Jan 20, 2012
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- 5hadow
  Thank you. I can be a bit insufferable at times, so any mate would have to be extremely tolerant lol (so I hold out little hope) If I do or have helped anyone, I glad and happy to do it. thanks again for your kind words
  
  Jan 21, 2012
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I Have Been Single For Way Too Long

Think I Might Be Miserable? Think Again

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