My boyfriend has been doing crack cocaine behind my back for months. He also has bipolar disorder to make things worse. I have never done a drug in my life nor do I even know what most of them look like so I had no idea. I should have known since we never had any money, not even a dollar a day! But I thought since he gets section 8 and can't get a job on the books and gets an ss check a month that maybe it's because the money just all went to bills and that's why we had no money. I was very wrong.
It turns out all the money was really going to his drug addiction. He was out all day/night and acting different maybe about a month or 2 after we started dating. He has had a drug problem in the past but I thought he was past that. One day a couple weeks ago the cops were called on him because he was seen at a rest area all drugged out begging people for money (presumably for drugs) when he actually told me he was going on a job interview :o(. Now he has been arrested for this and he has a bad previous record for things such as weapons charges and assult when he was younger.
He is 33 years old now. I even got pregnant by him (on purpose) because we planned on marrying and starting a family because that's how much we love each other-I just didn't know he also was in love with crack cocaine too. As it is I lost the baby because of all this :o(. We have no idea when he's going to get out, he says he still wants to marry me, have a family with me and that he's not going to let me down and he'll do whatever it takes to be with me and get better.
But I've never been with an addict before, and he has relapsed before...how can I help him and make sure this never happens again? Is rehab the only option or can I also do other things for/with him to help him?