Vera Farmiga

 The blush is long gone from the rose and I hardly feel I even look like myself any more. Sometimes when I look in the mirror it seems that my aunt, my dad's older sister, is looking back at me! I've tried to age gracefully, accepting the inevitable changes, taking care of myself but not trying to seem younger than I am and end up looking just plain foolish. I knew from early in life that this day would come, but it is still a bit of a shock. My children continually assure me that I don't look anywhere near my age, but I know they are just being kind.

Just when I needed something to perk me up the most delightful thing happened! I was at a retirement party a couple of weeks ago and I noticed a strikingly unusual man looking at me each time I happened to glance in his direction. He was a really interesting looking guy, very stylish, very thin and lithe, wearing  tight pencil jeans with a 6 inch cuff and an artsy black silk screened long sleeved shirt and beautiful handcrafted boots. He had a perfectly trimmed beard and hair and lots of good jewelry. He was not the sort of guy you see in these parts and I wondered why he would be at this small town party.

I was chatting with a group of people when the honoree's sister rushed up to me and gave me a big hug. She had the striking man by the hand. "I don't think you've ever met our other brother, C.", she said.
Then I remembered that there was another brother. He lives in LA now after a time in both Paris and London and works as a stylist and make-up artist in films and TV. I checked him out later on The Internet Movie Database (IMDb)--he does indeed have a page!

He shook my hand ,studied me with intense dark eyes and said, "You probably get this all the time, but you look just like the woman from the movie Up in the Air."
His sister, my friend, chimed in,"He pointed you out to me and said you looked just like her and I told him I knew you."

I was amazed! No--I don't get that all the time. I have never got that before! Just to be sure I had the right woman, I stammered, " You mean the woman George Clooney had the fling with in the movie?"
"Yeah, Vera Farmiga. You look just like her."

Even though I don't think I look just like her ,I beamed! I had been quite taken with her in that movie, she was appealing and charismatic. I didn't mind at all that he thought that I looked like her. I was quite flattered. Quite.

When I got home I was googling photos of her to look for the resemblance that I didn't really see. I noted from her bio that she's only 36 years old, a great deal younger than I am. I beamed some more! My son, who heard the conversation at the party, came into the room and chuckled because I was looking at her photos. He told me that when we went to see the movie a few months ago he thought I looked like her too. I wish he had told me that before now... I could have been beaming all this time!

I guess I see a slight resemblance. But I'll tell you what--the whole incident did wonders for my morale, especially since another birthday has just increased my numbers. Someone who works in Hollywood thinks I look just like  Vera Farmiga! Maybe I don't look so bad for my age after all!









datura datura
56-60, F
45 Responses Jul 21, 2010

Congratulations! Is it maybe because of your eyes?

I have somewhat of a girl crush on Vera Farmiga ;-) She oozes class and sophistication so if you have been compared to her at all, you would very likely share these characteristics. She is a quality lady.

My sister-in-law once said I looked like Daniel Craig, and her comment had, and continues to have, much the same effect on me. I try to disregard the fact that she was a bit drunk at the time and was trying to annoy her husband. I thought VF was unbelievably gorgeous in Up In The Air but, compared to the way she looked in The Departed, she was positively dowdy - I'm sure that was the film your friend really had in mind!

Hi Q! (Wasn't that the name of the scholastic TV quiz show?) ...Anyways, I do have a photo of me when I was younger that looks almost identical to this avatar! <br />
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Tee hee, brother b! I just knew you would say that!<br />
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Justmeonline, You have a wonderful attitude toward aging and the woman you love is blessed to have you! <br />
I love the ancient concept that a woman's life has three stages--maiden, mother, and crone ( or wise woman). I have always looked forward to my crone years and intend to accept them gracefully. I find that as I have aged there is an increased intuition, a desire to grow spiritually, an inner knowing, a sense of psychological peace. It's a small thing to give up some of the physical aspects of youth in order to feel the effects of these empowerments! Our culture can seem to place an emphasis on youth and beauty, but more and more, older women are seen for their worth by all but the most shallow among us!

I never knew the story behind the avatar ( I missed this. Sorry). Anyway, I was struck--especially by the photo you chose--the profile. I am unfamiliar with her (never saw the movie), but I too Googled. You DO look like her--the features are the same, and from what I have heard and read she is quite a nice person. Perfect.<br />
In fact a friend asked me if your avatar was a picture of you and I said yes, pretty much, pretty close in any case, and that was before I knew who she was. I thought the picture was you when you were younger.

if you were not soooo gorgeous, .................<br />
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I would be saying - "what!!!!! again!!!"<br />
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love

Justmeonline, I think that is one of the nicest , if not the single best, comments I have ever received. Thank you! I wish you could see how I'm beaming right now!<br />
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You just made my day!

I loved your comment, JoyceAnne! It did make me really happy. Still does! When I look in the mirror and start to be critical of myself I remember this story and it still makes me beam! Ive come to realize that I look a whole lot better beaming than frowning :D

I so enjoyed your post and you honest and open opinion about aging. I too am trying to age gracefully. I have decided to quit coloring my hair and just let the grey come in. It is just now starting to show through and I am fighting the urge to run to the salon. I also loved the humble way you admitted how happy this made you feel!

Aww, thanks Spring! I think the resemblance is mostly in the long nose, cheekbones and mouth. And eyebrows. I definitely have her eyebrows. And forehead, yeah, I've got the big forehead too.<br />
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I hope your husband doesn't blame me if he didn't like the movie........ ;-)

No dear lady. In oceans 11 and 12 they get away with bad deeds. Now these movies were made pre-2008.<br />
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In 2010 movies, the baddies are losing and good triumphs over evil. balance is restored. I'm ok again.

ooooh, so naughty<br />
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no, no, no at all. <br />
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I have to teach you draw the correct assumptions. EISH

....."like the first morning....Blackbird has spoken, like the first bird"......<br />
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Oh, I do love Cat Stevens, Sir b!<br />
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....So, if I understand you correctly, you are telling us a parable about rebirth! In one life, say Oceans 11, he does bad things so that in his next life, Up in the Air, his karma must be paid!<br />
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Interesting, but I didn't realize you believed in reincarnation!

* shakes her head and sighs *

I am ignoring the ladies who are prodding and poking at me. To my mirror - I love the world, what a wonderful world. Sings off-key "Morning has broken......................"<br />
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I have noticed, dear friends that the moral of the story in movies has seem to come full circle. For a while there, bad people were getting away with doing bad things - Oceans 11, Oceans 12, Lord of war, etc.<br />
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Now, though, the sting in the tail bites the perps in the butt. I like it because it makes my job of teaching morality to the young ones, a little easier - you know - bad deeds brings bad karma, etc.<br />
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Haha....Oh, Maiden! You're really going to get us in trouble now ;-)

What a sweet thing to say, Maiden! Thank you!<br />
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But of course you know that your comment will get Sir b all stirred up again!

Yes, it was crappy and I left the movie feeling terrible!

Haha--it's been quite a journey from "Been down So Long..." to "Up in the Air"!<br />
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I seem to be heading in the right direction.

Hehe....just remember Destry....I only look like her! <br />
Did you have it figured out what was going to happen when he went to her house? I did.

hehe....sure! Why not :-)<br />
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love you, you little troublemaker!

Are we still praising her?????????????<br />
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love you big sis!!!<br />
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It was very cool to me, too, Destry :-)

Hahahaha, Ladee! I knew you'd understand the important stuff!

Thanks for the nice comment, thornyasarose. So glad I could help with the release valve!<br />
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You're a real sweetie too, Cabcraft!<br />
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And, resident! What a nice thing to say!<br />
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I'm still beaming :-)

I love your story! What a lovely boost, I think Vera is stunning! Revel in it and hold your head up high! X@

Datura, how inspiring! What a wonderful experience to share! In this day and time, with SO much emphasis placed on not just physical beauty, but near perfection, aging often seems to be more than just a physiological process. The pressure mounts, and often doubt arises that as our youthful appearance "deteriorates," so does our value.<br />
I thank you for turning down the temperature of the pressure cooker I have been hiding in recently :-).

hehehehe<br />
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you are right. just researched it now.<br />
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http://www.imdb.com/name/nm1024264/<br />
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love <br />
me

There! *grin*

Awwww, Juan. If I was there I'd give you the biggest hug! Thank you, I will try to remember that when my aunt stares back from the mirror ;-)

Remember: others don't see us as we see ourselves. You'd be surprised to know how much the beuaty of mature women is appreciated by people of all ages.

Ummmmm....brother b....I just looked up the movie Hitch and Vera isn't in it. So, nutjob is out of the question....whew!!!<br />
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hehehehe<br />
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You should watch it as it is good fun!!!!!!<br />
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love, big sis<br />
b

Oh Josie, you say the sweetest things!!!! Thank you, my friend!

Thank you Trailguide....even if i had to drag it out of you...hehe....<br />
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Sir b, I didn't see Hitch, but I hope you don't associate me with a two- timing nut job now....oh my....

Datura, the beautiful, sexy, gorgeous, wonderful, amazing, witty, intelligent, classic beauty of international renown! Yes, I'm luck she's a friend.<br />
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Oh by the way my friend ... you look better than her! She is but a mere imitation of the original beauty. YOU!

Hmmmm - means that she is gorgeous, but I did not like her character in this movie and I think that she played the (nut job) girlfriend in "hitch".

Hi Tummie. Yeah, just picture me sitting next to George Clooney...hehe....<br />
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Hmmmmmmmm, Sir b.....<br />
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What about the interesting guy, Tassie????

Hehe .. there is definitely a resemblance <br />
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But what about the interesting guy????

Hmmmmmm!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hehe...you really do!!! The resemblance is actually striking ;)

Wow! She is very pretty! I got an image of you now ;)

Thank you, Imathinkin!<br />
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So, Trailguide.....make my day.....tell me I look just like her ;-)

Nice! :) Now i know why she made an impression on me for some reason when i watched that movie ;)

You write well.