I Have Better Things to Do Than Focus On Negativity
I am not an optimist...far from it. Sometimes I am as crabby as can be and embrace the "whoa is me" attitude. I am not proud of it. But, I am aware that I am allowing myself to drown in my own sorrow and then I pick back up and proceed. I don't let negativity dictate my daily existence and as time moves on...I visit that "bad place" as little as possible.
I have a friend however who is so saturated with negativity that it makes it physically and mentally exhausting just to be around him. I spoke to him on the phone tonight. It was a draining call because he holds so much rage and self-pity that my mood improved just by hanging up the phone. He is one of those people that you have to go over the same thing OVER and OVER and OVER until you feel you may need to cut your tongue out to avoid reviewing things again. When I say he is negative....I mean his cloud has a black lining. Everyone else has it better than him and it is "not fair". He has nothing. Sure, he has friends and a good family....but he has nothing. All I can do is sit home....boo hoo....it is besides the point that he has a barrage of fun things he can be doing when he is home and there ARE hobbies out there that do not involve a financial investment. For every reason I give him to try...he gives me two reasons why it would fail. When I ask how he expects to succeed when he puts through zero effort...he replies with a "what good would it do anyway?" There is NOTHING he says that can be perceived as any form of positive. I realized once I was done talking to him that I could not recall the last time he said anything that was not filled with contempt.
He is a single guy and devastated that he does not have a girlfriend. He is very concerned about what people think of him and constantly has a score card out so he can compare where he rates amongst the population around him. 23 hrs. 59 min. of each day is filled with him feeling sorry for himself and he wonders why he is alone? What person would want to deal with something as dark as that? I try to support him and I always lend an ear...but it is exhausting. I am a very busy person and I have better things to do than to constantly try to talk him off the ledge. Especially since he doesn't seem to want to do anything else but jump. Ugh! It is frustrating.
I have a friend however who is so saturated with negativity that it makes it physically and mentally exhausting just to be around him. I spoke to him on the phone tonight. It was a draining call because he holds so much rage and self-pity that my mood improved just by hanging up the phone. He is one of those people that you have to go over the same thing OVER and OVER and OVER until you feel you may need to cut your tongue out to avoid reviewing things again. When I say he is negative....I mean his cloud has a black lining. Everyone else has it better than him and it is "not fair". He has nothing. Sure, he has friends and a good family....but he has nothing. All I can do is sit home....boo hoo....it is besides the point that he has a barrage of fun things he can be doing when he is home and there ARE hobbies out there that do not involve a financial investment. For every reason I give him to try...he gives me two reasons why it would fail. When I ask how he expects to succeed when he puts through zero effort...he replies with a "what good would it do anyway?" There is NOTHING he says that can be perceived as any form of positive. I realized once I was done talking to him that I could not recall the last time he said anything that was not filled with contempt.
He is a single guy and devastated that he does not have a girlfriend. He is very concerned about what people think of him and constantly has a score card out so he can compare where he rates amongst the population around him. 23 hrs. 59 min. of each day is filled with him feeling sorry for himself and he wonders why he is alone? What person would want to deal with something as dark as that? I try to support him and I always lend an ear...but it is exhausting. I am a very busy person and I have better things to do than to constantly try to talk him off the ledge. Especially since he doesn't seem to want to do anything else but jump. Ugh! It is frustrating.
By:
evolving2010
Age:
36-40
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Male
