I've noticed that lots suffer with this. Is it common? (Though I dont suffer with it)
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5 Responses Jan 21, 2013

That's good, I hope it helped. A few people know about my BPD but I tend to not talk about it and the issues that entail. I agree it is very difficult to express how you feel to non BPD's and to be honest I haven't really tried to outside of CMHT, and have never tried with other BPD's. I joined this website 2 years ago, used it for a day or so and then completely forgot about it until now. I'm realising now that perhaps something like this will end up becoming beneficial, I hope. If you don't mind me asking, how do you deal with stressful periods? Have you found that you and your friend both having BPD has enabled you to become positive support for each other? Has it benefited when reflecting on your own difficulties?

I think the benefits of having a BPD friend have been huge for me. Its like my safe haven, no pretending, no judgement, no hiding away. We can be who we are without fear the other will leave because we understand. We make no excuses, we dont have to. Its incredibly liberating as we tend to lean on each other. Ones low times are supported by the others care giving.
I wont say it will work forever but for now Im the calmest i have been for a very long time.

It doesnt work for all BPDs, Ive read its sometimes a recipie for mutual self distruction. Its just a case of finding one on the same level i think?

Wow, I understand how difficult things can become and I'm really happy that both of you have managed to find that support. From what you have just said I can understand why it has been so beneficial. Right now I can't completely appreciate how that must feel but I guess it fills me with a little glimmer of hope.

I think Im very lucky.
If you find one, you will know instantly too. Its like a knowing on a subconcious level,a psychological connection.
You will know it when you find it.

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Thank you for your reply, it makes perfect sense now. Do you have anyone you can call at these times or do you feel you are best left alone? Not everbody understands and I find it difficult to explain to non BPDs anyway.

I couldn't tell you how many people who have BPD suffer with disturbed sleep patterns, but personally I have done for a long time. It seems to become more of an issue when I am anxious for a period of time about certain things, extremely bored so that I drift between thought tangents, and when I am in an Very low mood. It causes me to become irritable, I have to completely remove myself from mildly antagonising situations so that I do not explode at these points. It has created problems with work to the point of losing a job due to being unreliable. It inhibits routine which is something I place importance on, attempting to maintain stability. I haven't yet discovered a technique that works to help with this issue, so if yourself or your friend do then I'd appreciate a heads up! All the best

Hello, thank you for your message.
I think its not clear how I have worded my question, I was wondering if insomnia was a big part of BPD as my friend suffers with this too, although I dont.
I'm also BPD and we have a mutual support thing going on. This website is helping too.
I would be interested to hear how it affects you as it affects less men.

The Mind (UK) website estimates less than 1% of the population suffer from BPD.
It is also well known for about 75% of those diagnosed to be women...

Hope that helps (I was recently diagnosed)