I Love A Lifer!!

Hello all im new at this forum thing, i met my boyfriend 11 years ago we were together for a couple months and broke up but stayed friends about 2 years later he ended up going to prison, he would write me and i went to see him when he was at the county jail, ive always loved him he was my first love my first everything so when i went to see him, it was way to hard for me i cried the entire time and he told me to go make my life since he would be in prison for the rest of his life, so i kept writing him but never saw him again so for the past 10 years we have spoke on the phone only on the holidays and we wrote all the time, i knew he had loved me this entire time because he never asked anything of me he always asked me to be happy, and gave me advice and secretly loved me with out telling me! i ended up married with 4 kids moved across country since my husband at the time was a Marine so i still wrote him even married.. ive always loved him even when i was with other men. Well i ended up going through the divorce so i out of no where decided to go visit him in prison after 10 years i would see him again, and i did in Aug and we have been together ever since,i realized i still loved this man and he is the one and only one for me, i have been to see him once a month since aug since he is 8 hrs away from me but i am looking into moving closer to him in feb so i can see him every weekend, i even thought about marriage what do yall think? am i crazy for giving my life up to a man that will never leave prison?
marielp85 marielp85
26-30, F
2 Responses Dec 5, 2012

im basically in the same situation , my ex boyfriend is in jail but weve been on and off for 3 years and i love him to death . hes in a local jail right now but he is never ever getting out not unless some miracle happens . i wanna be with him so bad and hes asked me plenty of times to be his girl and to hold him down but idk if i can i have a child and i am in college and would love to be with him but idk if it would be a waste of my life . i dont think your crazy at all if your in love with him then do what ever your heartt desires . just make sure your making the right decision for you and your chiildren . im young as well im only 18 years old but when he went to jail i was broken hearted i had detectives and everyone else at my house questioning me when i didnt know anything about it . we write to each other often and he calls me a couple times a day and he alwasy tell me he loves me and wants to be with me but this is the hardest situation to be in

This story was amazing, and it really made me think alot about my life, yes im still very young but in some ways i can relate to you so much i love a boy thats in prison that is doing a life sentence and i know that deep in my heart i love him very much and he is the only one for me and i believe that yes like you i will also get married and have children with someone else even though i love this boy in prison and i only want to be with him and just like you said in the beginning i know he loves me. But to answer your question i'd say yes! You have loved hom for this long, if he honestly makes you happy and smile and you are sure that he is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with then you have my support what do you have to lose? You are not crazy even though some may say you are. Follow your heart. Its hard when someone you love is doing life and if you do get married to him it will be hard, beyond hard but as you said " he is the only one for me" so please whatever you choose do not lose him or slip away from him. The fact that you were reunited with him again and all your feelings and emotions were still there for him, tells you something. Whatever you decide in the end is up to you and i wish you all the best xxxx