What Cancer Actually *can* Take From You.Back in September, I was diagnosed with a rare and aggressive form of cancer called IBC. They don't mess around with you, they throw you right in to treatment, and I responded very well.
But, I lost my best friend, and a few other friends over it. I guess they just can't deal with it - there are people I haven't heard from since September when they learned I was 'sick'. Others have stepped up and been wonderful though - some folks really surprised me with their support and have been so fantastic! And then while talking to other cancer patients I found out this is really common. A lot of people can't deal.
The thing is, that except for an initial month of freaking out, I have been fine. To my way of thinking, I'd have to be an idiot *not* to be fine when I saw the chemo working. I am not depressed, sad, scared...I'm really happy to feel so great, and have my wonderful man, and children, and pets, and plants...life is great. It is. I laugh every day. I had 7 months of chemo without throwing up once. What is to complain about?
But, one thing I won't do - spend a lot of energy making someone else feel ok about my cancer. Come to terms with it or not, on your own.
So, that is something that cancer can take....and does take. Friendships.
Don't do that to your friends. I am strong and will do what's best for me, and that is to let this friendship go. But, it still hurts.