When It Rains It Pours

Well my story was moving along just fine for the past four years until November of 07. Thats when my wife left me and I am still in shock. About a month later I was diagnosed with TC. I had to sign my divorce papers on Christmas eve and have surgery the day after Christmas, then I had three weeks of radiation therapy. My mother was also diagnosed with cervical cancer around the same time. I feel like I'm in a bad dream and I can't get out. My treatment is complete and the cancer did not spread, so that is good news. I miss having a companion that supports me, I am having a hard time coping with the changes in my body. Its hard for me to tell people about my problems so this is a big step for me. I will try to stay up beat, life is not always easy but a warrior will conquer all his demons and become a stronger man!

pablo1977 pablo1977
26-30, M
4 Responses Feb 15, 2008

How are you doing now?

my mother died of cervical cancer last july 6, 2008.her cancer was gone but later on metastasized to the lungs.her doctor is so irresponsible not checking up on her body every month.before we were not aware that cancer can move to another parts.i was ignorant about cancer.doctors should educate their patients.we could have been more vigilant. we could have tried alternative medicine, there is one naturopathic doctor who recommends taking wheatgrass juice in powder form as a supplement for cancer patients and i believe it can cure cancer because i heard a lot of people get cured just by taking this. but for us, we were late, 2 days after we bought the said juice she was gone and she was not able to try it. i think you should try it because wheat grass can really help you win the battle. or maybe try other alternative medicine. i heard bad things about chemotherapy and i can prove that is all true because that is what happend to my mother so please study your options and get well soon to you and your mother.

My husband once told me that the changes and scars I now have were gained in my fight for life. He said that makes them "beauty marks" I hope you can view the changes like that. I wish you the best. Hugs, CMR

I know how tough it can be. I'm 28 and been fighting colon cancer since the age of 25. Unfortunately mine spread first to my liver and has been in my lungs since the beginning of last year. It was my first day back at work yesterday after having 12 tumours removed from both lungs in mid January. Sad thing is four weeks after my op they did another CT scan and I have two new tumours in my lungs one 3.5cm and one 2.6cm. So I'm back on chemotherapy and a little scared.<br />
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I'm glad to hear yours hasn't spread anywhere. If you're looking for some inspiration what helped me a lot was reading Lance Armstrongs book "It's Not About The Bike". (If you haven't already) It really helped me focus on what was important and what wasn't.<br />
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The problem is trying to stay positive. Most people say I dont' look like I've been fighting Cancer for 3 years. My attitude is what has kept me going. I hope you can do the same. I'm happy and I'm not scared of dying. I take every oportunity to tell the people in my life how much I love them. Yes your wife has left you but would you want to spend the rest of your life with someone that doesn't want to be with you? You deserve to spend your time and energy on someone who loves to be with you, who wants to be with you. I hope you find that someone.