Older Woman - Younger Man
I married a younger man with very small children. We have been married 10 years now. My children were all out of the house except 1 when we got married and respect her step father very much. The problem is that I have been in his children's lives for over 10 years and they have no respect for me. They were 2 & 5 when I married their dad. The day after we got married the oldest (girl) told me her mother told her that I wasn't her mother and she was to never call me mom either. So I never ask nor did expect them to call me mom. Now the problem is we have custody of the 12 year old boy and the girl 15 lives with her mother. Their mother is no good at all. She has been married I think 7 or 8 times and has no morals. The daughter is now living her footsteps, but has not been married but has no respect for herself or me. We over heard her and her bother talking one nite about how they hated me and called me names and a lot of other hurtful things. We confronted them about it and now she has not been back. She says if she appologizes to me her mother will make her come back every other week end. I do not want her back. Now the brother stays on the video games 24/7 is ADH and treats me like dirt. He told me the reason he treats me this way is because he takes his anger out on me because of the anger he has toward his mother and if he told her she would cry, so he takes it out on me. Great huh? Now as for the father where does he stand, well he has finally stood up to the mother of these kids, now that he has custody of the boy, but before what ever she wanted he would deliver. I have taken care of these children for a long time and don't understand the hate they have for me. I have done without a lot of time. All I want is to have time with their father and to be the way it used to be in the beginning. I would love to give they boy back to his mother, but don't think she would take care of him and his needs. She has neglected them alot with only herself at her best interest. I am getting to old for this. I have lost my job and tired of no respect from these children. All of my adult children do respect him and his children and I have always treated them as equals. Lost in space!!