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I can hardly move due to lots of stuff. Of course I don't think it is junk but it is a problem and I would like to know how to cure myself of this.

cupee cupee
2 Responses Aug 23, 2009

This is very good method zabou, i will read this a few times and even take a copy and i will hang it on my fridge.

It's really hard - I come from a family of hoarders, so I totally understand the need to keep 'things'. The things that you will fix when you have a spare moment, the things that you have been meaning to put to good use, the things that will come in really handy if.....but it's all just 'stuff'. I've been going through my house visciously over the last six months, doing exactly this, getting rid of the stuff that clogs the cupboards, the hallways, the edges of rooms, and it's finally getting there, I am getting rid of all the 'stuff' that I have realised I don't need to keep near me.<br />
I ask myself a couple of questions when I pick things up, or look at them.<br />
1) Why do I have it in my house?<br />
2) Why do I want it in my house?<br />
3) Why do I want to keep it in my house?<br />
4) Do I really, truly need or value it?<br />
(Sometimes it comes down to deciding between two or more similar items. Almost always, YOU ONLY NEED ONE!)<br />
It means you have to examine what you need in your life, what you value beyond all else. You can't just tidy over the top, you have to empty out the cupboards, empty out the boxes, and free yourself of the detritus of your past. <br />
There are always going to be some things that you don't use often or at all, but are very precious to you, for sentimental reasons. That's fine, but make sure that you only keep what is truly precious TO YOU. Don't keep things just because you love the person who gave them to you, even though it's ugly, broken or useless! Honour the value your special items have for you in the way that you store and display these items in your home.<br />
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I know the impulse to keep things that are 'still good', 'interesting' or 'useful', but unless you have a specific need and/use in mind, GET RID OF IT!!!! Sell it, give it away to a charity, or just dump it! Sort out a 'picking pile' and let your friends and family take what they can use.<br />
Think very hard - what do you use in your everyday life, and what just takes up space until you find it every few months? Which cupboards and drawers haven't you taken anything out of for a year or so?<br />
What did you put away, because you didn't really need it right now, but still liked it? What do you still like? <br />
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Truthfully, it's really, really hard to let go of the strings that tie you to your stuff, the memories that each slip of paper or knick-knack holds, the hope that you'll find a place or a use for that box full of 'bargains', the illusion that you are going to turn that pile of broken stuff into functional items of value.<br />
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Be harsh, be real with yourself, be honest. How much stuff do you really need?<br />
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Good luck Cupee, I hope you manage to de-clutter your home and feel the weight of attachment lift off your shoulders.<br />
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Take care.