Did and What To Do?

There are things that really confuse me about having this...

For example I love them (my alters) but I want to get rid of them, at the same time I don't want them to go away. Is that bad?

One of my alters brings me the most pain and yet he is the one I love the most.

What am I supposed to do? How am I supposed to feel?

Any advice?
fivealters fivealters
18-21, F
3 Responses Nov 29, 2012

My bf and his alter have a love/hate relationship too. It is like family. They might not always bring happy talks or moments, but they will/were there for you when you needed them.
They are your own personal little family. Maybe try having a family meeting talk, so to speak. And let them all say their feelings and what things they want/need for themselves. And see if there's a way I make everyone happy.
I've heard keeping a journal that everyone can write in openly and honest helps. :)

I have issues with this too. It's nice to hear I'm not the only one. Sometimes I get so frustrated trying to get everyone to get along and look out for the younger that I just want them to GO. But, I need them, and they're here for a reason. The guilt is rough, though.
One of my alters that gives the most pain is the one I've known the longest and I'm also closest too. I love her and it's so hard. I know that despite what she does, she loves me too.
Do your alters have safe places they go to? That's been really helpful for me when I'm overwhelmed and just need some space. Also, I have regular meetings with my alters where I assure them that even though I have these thoughts sometimes about wanting them to go, it's just frustration at myself and I don't and never will truly mean it.

I get confused too. Some days I wish my others would go away even though I know I couldn't survive without them. For me I just think of it this way.. They are just like any other part of my family or friends, some days they can get on my last nerve but I always love them and if they were gone I'd be devastated!