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I Have A Few Questions.

So I have DID, or at least I was diagnosed with it by a college student majoring in psychology. I currently have seven alters, and only one isn't older than me. I haven't lost time since I was little, so does that mean I have DDNOS instead of DID? Only a few people know, but not my parents. I'm telling them soon. I don't lose time or receive weird gifts or Christmas cards, but that's probably because I'm young. However, just the other day I met a little. She tends to age-slide, so I'm confused. But in order to have DID do you have to lose time?
GenesysFrog GenesysFrog 13-15, F 4 Responses Jan 28, 2013

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I have DID and I don't lose time. It never hurts to get another opinion though, especially since you're younger.

No. Losing time would mean my abusers (and myself) might find out. Being found out would have been absolutely devastating to me. It would have resulted from me being chained by my abuser to being ....like skinned alive. That's harsh, but a simple way of saying "The mind will do whatever it must to survive". I believe my alters pass bits of information along to clue me in. The worst was forgetfulness and/or of a sense of being scattered while under duress (I was switching at those times). It just made me look stupid which satisfied my abusers anyway. Now my life is full of love and safety. NOW they have let me in on things. Recovery is going very well, too. I am beginning to lose time as my alters are more comfortable and free to be themselves. Stick with the truth - the one you need to heal. The answer lies in "What gets you better?" Sometimes I still doubt but I know treatment and therapy for DID has been the most beneficial and helpful. In fact, I've never been happier. I look forward to being a whole person one day.

Hello, thank you for writing, I'm sure it isn't easy for you.

When you have a feeling that there are more than one "you" in yourself, this means that you've gone through some important experiences that you have not yet "digested". Your mind and your body have not yet "understood" or "accepted" these experiences. This is for good reason. Many such experiences are or were very painful, so your body and mind are protecting you by "just putting them away" into another personality.

So the first thing is to simply accept that your body knows best. It is protecting you, and this is a good thing. It is the first step to healing.

The second thing is to keep protecting yourself. You need the best possible inner peace to keep functioning and to keep learning. Find time in your day to do some quiet things, like reading and daydreaming. This will help you find your inner balance.

The third thing is to start "digesting" the difficult experiences that you've gone through. It is important do to that, yes, but there is no rush. Give yourself some time, not days, not weeks, but months and years. With time, you will start to understand and your body will want to heal itself. Spontaneously, slowly. As you carefully think about what has happened to you and about what is happening to you every day, you will start making links and you will start understanding. It won't always be easy, and you might find yourself crying and weeping, even though nothing is happening right then and there to provoke it. That's all very well. Go through the crying spell and feel the relief that comes on the other side. Those are steps to resolve the inner conflicts that your body has stored away for you.

Along the way, you will meet a few people who can help you. That will be wonderful. If someone can reach out to you with true understanding, there is nothing much better that that could be happening to you.

All along, keep well. You are a precious being, you have an important life to live, and much to give and offer us as you go along.

Good lord I went through the crying spell a while ago. Twas miserable. Thanks for the advice, by the way. And while I'm at it, thanks to everyone else!

not necessarily they (the altars) can sometimes work in sync and all work together as one. My wife has MPD/DID and she does lose time but I know of others from being on here that the altars can work together. Wish you well in the future and take care it really isn't that bad !!! firstly you are very brave at your age to be telling someone about it so I think you will be fine.