Dating Someone With Dissociative Identity Disorder
I am currently seeing someone with DID.The man I am seeing is wonderful!Lets call him Gavin.Gavin is happy-go-lucky, easy to talk to, understanding, optimistic, and so many more things…We have an amazing bond, unlike any I have ever shared with another human being.It is so comfortable being with him.He feels like home.There is a lot going on in my life, and he has been a pilar of stability for me.Like I said AMAZING!!!However-
The other night we were talking.I told him I feel like sometimes he loves me more than anything in the world, and sometimes I feel like he could care less.I asked him if he wanted to be with me or what was going on.He looked at me with so much love in his eyes, reached for my hand then BAM!!! (lol) His face changed and he told me he could care less about being with me.He started going on about how he was bored and that was the only reason that he was around and just horrible horrible things.I decided after listening to him that I was going to make sure he couldn’t contact me again.I started deleting my number and all other information in his phone, and out of nowhere there were tears in his eyes and Gavin was back.He started trying to explain without actually telling me he had DID.I guessed it and told him I had thought he might have had it for a while but wasn’t sure.He broke down and confessed everything to me.
He was actually Brad.When Brad was in grade school he couldn’t cope (never told me with what) and created my Gavin.Gavin is the one everyone knows around here.The one everyone Loves.After spending some time talking to Gavin about this I asked if I could speak to Brad.Brad said he is in love with a girl from back home (I know it is selfish but thank GOD she is across the country) and doesn’t really have any feelings for me at all.However, he said he wants to get to know me if Gavin and I are going to be together.The problem is Brad and I don’t really connect… at all…
Gavin and Brad HATE each other.They are both ready for the other one to be gone…I promised Gavin I would be there to support him… but what should I do.Should I try and help them work it out and possibly lose Gavin… Or should I help Gavin get rid of Brad… eve though he was originally Brad…I’m so lost and I want to understand and be there for both of them… but I don’t want to lose Gavin.