I Have Divorced Parents

My Dad Doesnt Care

By: crazyy123

Written on May 10th, 2010

well im 21 years old since ive been younger ive never really had a close relationship with my dad. never really been included in his family..

things started going wrong from when i was a baby my mum and him had problems and ended up divorcing so i chose to stay with my mum because i never had anything in common with my dad . i had to go down on weekends because a court order said so and aslong as he wanted me there i didnt have a choice. when i got older he reliased that the forcing me to be there was pushing me away and arguments happened all the time.. if ever i did anything wrong he would blame it on my mum even though it wasnt her fault.

when i got to about 15-16 i decided to give him a chance and hope that we could be close.. things went well for a couple of months i always asked him could i go down and see his side of the family and all he ever said was next tim eyour down but the next time i went down it was the same story..

last year he phoned up to tell us that he had just found out he has another daughter who is 25 that he had never knew about and wanted us to meet her ..

i wasnt keen on the idea of her being in the family but i gave it the benefit of the doubt and decided to go along. there she was an okish girl seems polite

after a few months i got engaged things changed then again he never bothered to call to wish me congratulations or to see how i was.

i then fell pregnant a month or two later and seen him once through the whole thing,., since the baby has been born he has seen him once but not botherd for the next couple of week. he has only knew my ""sister"" for a year and has already seen her more than he has seen me or my brothers in he whole life he has told us that he cant get down because of money problems but has no problem in spending all his money on pot for him and her to smoke

i cant help but feel as tho my dad doesnt care about me or what happens to me i have my sons christening coming up next month and i dont think he will come if she is not invited i wont invite her after some arguments she has started with me over my son.

i just need help to be able to get over the fact i havent got him there and he doesnt care.

i just want to be able to let go but i keep thinking he will change

By: crazyy123

Age: 18-21 , Female

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stacey4u2luv

Just forget them if they truly do not love you. I have 4 parents my adoptive mother in reality my grandmother if I was not adopted, my sister who is my real birth mother, my adoptive father in reality my grandfather if I were not legally adopted and my birth father that I met years later and that I am now regretting even ever meeting as I feel he only wanted to meet me and see I grew up and then brushed me aside as much to say on a k....... ( his last name here) site that I was not a K...... and so I could not join.

It is a long and very twisted story but I indeed know I want no dealings with any of them as I do not view any of them as real family and am content in raising my children I have and acknowledge now THIS IS MY FAMILY. This is why I am here and I will NOT turn my back on them and I hope they realize this and I have told them this too that they are my family now and forever.

Live for yourself and for your future and forget the past. You do not only learn from your mistakes, but you can learn from others and refuse to do the same.

You are young and one day you will have your own children too. Live for that day and give them that love.

Sep 9, 2011
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hpcrazed001

Hi, i just wanted to say i know how you feel (kind of). You see i need help in this situation too. My dad gets mad at me easily, and when he gets mad he uses that as a nexcuse to not talk to me or see me. I feel betrayed not only by that but because he didn't even tell me he was getting married , no invite or nothing. I actually had to find out from my nana i think. Im just a sixteen year old and i know you need help with this too, but do you have anyadvice for me. I mean i just don't want to end up with no dad at my wedding. Sorry if i bothered you.

Jul 28, 2010
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