Probably For The Best

My parents were divorced when I was around 3 years old. My mother was and is a great lady who did not deserve the ******* she married. He was an abusive, functioning alcoholic who tried to control every move my mother made. I'm actually glad I didn't have to grow up in a dysfunctional home with 2 people who hated each other. THat makes my current situation all the more ironic (click on my "stories" and read about my current situation). But I'm a differnet man from my father. I was always my mother's son and she taught me well. I grew up in a house with a mother and an older sister, and had to assume the male role in that household. I think I did that well, and along the way picked up many feminine qualities as well. Not only could I mow the lawn and gather the firewood, I also learned how to cook and how to tend house. I learned so much from my mother and, subsequently, from my sister. I picked up on the best of female qualities and was able to also assume a male "leadership" mode when things went wrong. I developed a strong bond with my mother and my sister, and that continues to this day.

I saw my father on occasion. He married soon after his divorce from my mom to a total ***** much younger than himself. I hated her from the start and always did. I never really hated my father, but never really loved him either. He did provide for us financially, and for that I give him credit. He put me thru college, though there conditions to that. I had to major in accounting, like he did. I could DO accounting, I just really didn't like it all that much. It did provide me with a good job for a number of years though. At his death 10 years ago, I inherited enough from him that, put together with my own money, I was able to go into business for myself in something I actually loved and had a passion for and have done quite well in.

My poor mother never did re-marry, though she had a number of boyfriends thru the years. I think the experience with my father had soured her on marriage, and that's a shame. She's such a great classy...and would've made someone a great wife. I will eventually be divorced myself in a few years, but my wife and I have decided to stick it out for our daughter, though we are miserable together. But we're determined that, unlike us, our daughter will not be messed up by a dysfunctional home. It's a quandry laden with life's ironies, but it's the path we've chosen.
biboi biboi
41-45, M
Jul 28, 2010