Divorced Parents And The Changes That Come

yes its really hard............to bear this feeling..........could understand

sorry to hear this

yes it sucks, and honey what you are talking about is what every child believes until they grow up..

that all parents love them..

the truth is NOT all parents do love you

a child can be in love with the "idea" of love of an absent parent

but the truth is.. love is a word that has so many meanings but for a child it means



SECURITY.. meaning your safe from true emotional and physical harm,

BASIC NEEDS are met.. food, water, shelter are provided for and Nothing is asked from you in return..

SOUNDING BOARD.. some one to listen to your problems.. let you vent with out judgement, or gives advice that can improve your quality of life

BLANK CHECK OF FORGIVENESS... this person forgives you when you screw up, are mean, disrespectful, deceitful, violent, lies, lazy, are a manipulator, cries wolf, is a wuzz, whines, *******, argues, steals, judges the blank check unfairly, greedy.. ect..

CHAUFFEUR. this person will bring to where you NEED to be and usually where ever you want to be, (unless the trips are not cost affective or can cause harm to you)

POLICE/COP,... this person keeps you from harm from other people and harm to your self.. even if it ****** you off and you feel this person's judgement is unfair..

COOK.. this person buys your food and cooks it or buys you food that other people cook

MAID.. this person cleans up after you, (even helps you by telling you have to clean it your self.. and even takes things away from you.. like places you want to go.. so you will clean up after your self.. this person also helps you learn what you have to do to keep maintenance of a home (mowing, weed eater ect..), even if its not your mess you clean up.. teaches you how to co-operate with others to keep a home clean and safe.

DOCTOR.. this person helps you when you are in pain by doctoring you with medical supplies, bringing you to the doctor.. tells maid to fix special foods, buys medicine at very inconvenient times and the meds are very expensive... keeps you contained even if it ****** you off so you will heal healthy and naturally.

CLOTHES SHOPPER AND DESIGNER... this person helps you buy the necessity clothes for school and its activities, and activities out side of school.. this person also helps design a pleasent room for you and the house, and buys those things needed and occasionally wanted.

MEDIATOR.. this person is the go between person for school, friends, doctors, out side activities, coaches and the occasional boy/girl friend and sometimes siblings and the other father or mother of that child

Financial adviser and accountant.. this person keeps the day to day finances that go in the bank and out the bank so all of the ^^^^ above can be taken care of. this person is also the person that tells you NO we do not have that money to do the activity you want or go where you want

DEATH SHIELD..this is the person that would stand in front of you, if someone tried to shoot you, unconditionally.. so you can grow up one day to be an emotionally healthy adult...

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all this above and many more things is what makes someone a Parent.. this is the person a child KNOWS he/she loves them...



truly now.. is there anymore questions???

Well, my dad lives in South America, as opposed to myself who lives in the USA. His girlfriend has three kids... two of them are young (8 and 9). Anyways, I just feel so jealous that they get to grow up with my dad... :(