I Left Out Details
Posted April 3rd, 2008 at 11:38AM
that surface every now and then, even today. They are the details that repeat in the form of unanswered questions and unexplained actions.
My dad had taken a job 2 hours away at a highschool, mid-year, and only returned home on the weekends. It was between January and June that he had met this other woman, yet when June came, the entire family still moved - uprooted - to this new town. My mom left all her friends behind, and so did we.
Two months later, at the end of the summer, the new school year upon us in September, my dad told my mom he was leaving her. He left us all in a half-built house 7 miles from town - where his new girlfriend lived and where he would now be living.
He would be my new music teacher, and guess what? His new girlfriend was to be my new math teacher. He wanted me to get to know her! Needless to say, it didn't work out, and after a few over-turned desks and her attempt to discipline me, I was in the principal's office awaiting a transfer into another math class.
What was my dad thinking when he thought he could just move us all to another town and then leave? It's still baffling and years have passed.
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Hmm. Have you trying talking to your father about all this after all those years?
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I wonder why your mom agreed to it.
My parents divorced when I was much younger and I still feel the after affects...but you know this since we discussed it when I said I had made the decsion to divorce my husband -
my heart goes out to you.
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no, not about that. That summer, he had even introduced my mom to his new girlfriend and we had all gone on her boat for a little ride. He was hoping they would like each other. My mom thought my dad was just introducing her to the new town and this woman would be helpful in getting her to meet new people and get her comfortable and oriented.
I think his actions over the years have indicated the kind of person he is, although I'm not sure I really know him all that well. -
iwm: my mom thought we were just moving...as a family. We sold our old house, and my parents asked us, how would you like to live (where we cottaged every summer?) and of course, we all say YAAAAA, and the plans were made...dad got a job there, and mom thought she was just following the plans. It took 6 months to actually move, and mom still didn't know about this other woman until he told her just before school started.
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OMG that is crazy. I mean I thought I heard it all, but that is pretty out there.
I am so sorry you had to go through that. That is just terrible.
I personally think you need a new school if possible. I would be making a fuss, and if need be blow the whistle on the whole deal to get accepted into a new school.
That is hard to ignore, when your in the same school together.
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Man, thats tough. Hang in there.
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Really, you should just respect your parent's choices, and get to know the Math teacher, and allow him some happiness.
That would be the Liberal answer.
He should of course, be taken out and horsewhipped for his actions, disgusting that he has attempted this wicked action. -
I think your father moved you all so that when he got a divorce he would not need to drive too far (for him) to visit you and have visitation. He was totally selfish in all his plans and decisions. If your mother and the Other Woman had been friends well what was his point in arranging that? He is mean. Hope you can find peace with this but My advice is do not trust your father, He is not a man of good character. Sorry. Hugs,
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They possibly all knew what was going on. Your mom did not care
she was not gonna start fighting for a little piece of sausage. -
They possibly all knew what was going on. Your mom did not care
she was not gonna start fighting for a little piece of sausage. -
They possibly all knew what was going on. Your mom did not care
she was not gonna start fighting for a little piece of sausage.
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