If It's "Broken", Fix It

I know that everyone seems to view divorce as a terrible, troubling thing, that should be avoided at all costs, and that the "kids" are always expected to be distraught when their parents split up.

My parents split up when I was 12, and it was probably one of the best things to ever happen to us.

My father, of course, was determined that I was upset over the divorce ("because kids don't like divorce", he said), and would actually accuse me of lying when I told him I was fine with it.

Likely, my father doesn't know that one of the things that seemingly inspired my mother to leave him was my own confession to her that I couldn't stand him anymore, and wanted him gone. She then told me that she had been waiting to leave him for ten years...

I always wondered why she stayed, and often wish that she hadn't.

So, sometimes divorce doesn't make for a "broken" home, at all...

Magickintheair Magickintheair
2 Responses Aug 29, 2008

I understand your point of view and feel like you did the right thing by talking to your mom about how you felt about your father. Sometimes divorce can leave a child having to go through hard times after the divorce but it seams like you obviously were ok with it. You should be proud with your decision to tell your mother because she felt the same way and made he right decision to divorce him and made it better for both yourself and her. I feel that your father thinking that you are an upset child from divorce and wrong and that it is a common stereotype for children to be depressed if there parents get a divorce. Yes some children have a harder time then others but eventually they will realize that if its meant to be its mean to be.

Me too! They split when I was fifteen. I was so happy when they did! They (and other people) kept asking and wondering if my sister and I felt badly about it and we just laughed. I didn't care at all and neither did she. I was ready to fix my parents with other people and I looked forward to the future of the household without my dad being around. I just didn't like him... Maw.. I feel bad now. He's a human being. How could I be so mean to someone? He deserves love too.