I Got Dumped For What I Couldn't Change
I know, you hear it all the time...I got dumped just because I couldn't change. Most people are referring to a physical feature or a little quirk, not me. My boyfriend dumped me because he couldn't handle the disease I have. I was born 17 years ago with a genetic disease called Ehlers Danlos Syndrome. Unfortunately it isn't well know and took years to diagnose. It doesn't appear until your teen years, a time that is already hard enough. January of my eighth grade year my entire life changed in moments. I was just walking in the basement and next thing I knew I was on the floor. These "falls" as I called them began happening more frequently and I was forced to give up what I loved most, running. At school I was bullied so severely for having to wear braces on my legs that I didn't want to go to school anymore. One day I decided to go without my braces, little did I know I would pay for it later. Getting a name put to the problem helped a lot, I finally felt assured that those doctors had all been wrong, I wasn't crazy. It was very hard to cope with having Ehlers Danlos Syndrome as both my sister and I are adopted from different birth parents and only 18 months apart. I am sick. She is not. I met him February of 2011, the hardest year of my life. At the beginning of the school year in September I started getting a terrible pain that required constant sedation. I would not have gotten through that time without my mom who is one of eight and the only to be born with Type One Diabetes. By the time I had met him I had been given yet another name, Thoracic Outlet Syndrome. We started dating March 24th, and a few days later I was given a date April 11th. I was going to have a double surgery for Thoracic Outlet Syndrome and I only had a little over a week to prepare. Throughout all the surgery and the pain that came after wards he stayed only to propose a month later, the night before my 17th birthday. I was overjoyed to think that someone loved me enough to see past the imperfections, the diseases, and the deep scars from all the bullying I received at school and from the doctors. Our four month is in a little over a week. Today he dumped me and broke of the engagement almost four months into our relationship because he decided he couldn't handle my Ehlers Danlos Syndrome. After I got the text, yes he did it through a text, I ran for my sister and mom. I dropped to my knees and began to cry. I would have understood being dumped for something like cheating or being abusive but having a genetic disease? I just didn't understand until a good friend asked me what I said back to him. I had said nothing back after he dumped me. Then I realized what was I supposed to do, say sorry that I was born with a genetic disease? People don't apologize for terrible acts like blowing up buildings and killing people, why should I have to apologize for having bad genes.