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I Got Dumped For What I Couldn't Change

I know, you hear it all the time...I got dumped just because I couldn't change. Most people are referring to a physical feature or a little quirk, not me. My boyfriend dumped me because he couldn't handle the disease I have. I was born 17 years ago with a genetic disease called Ehlers Danlos Syndrome. Unfortunately it isn't well know and took years to diagnose. It doesn't appear until your teen years, a time that is already hard enough. January of my eighth grade year my entire life changed in moments. I was just walking in the basement and next thing I knew I was on the floor. These "falls" as I called them began happening more frequently and I was forced to give up what I loved most, running. At school I was bullied so severely for having to wear braces on my legs that I didn't want to go to school anymore. One day I decided to go without my braces, little did I know I would pay for it later. Getting a name put to the problem helped a lot, I finally felt assured that those doctors had all been wrong, I wasn't crazy. It was very hard to cope with having Ehlers Danlos Syndrome as both my sister and I are adopted from different birth parents and only 18 months apart. I am sick. She is not. I met him February of 2011, the hardest year of my life. At the beginning of the school year in September I started getting a terrible pain that required constant sedation. I would not have gotten through that time without my mom who is one of eight and the only to be born with Type One Diabetes. By the time I had met him I had been given yet another name, Thoracic Outlet Syndrome. We started dating March 24th, and a few days later I was given a date April 11th. I was going to have a double surgery for Thoracic Outlet Syndrome and I only had a little over a week to prepare. Throughout all the surgery and the pain that came after wards he stayed only to propose a month later, the night before my 17th birthday. I was overjoyed to think that someone loved me enough to see past the imperfections, the diseases, and the deep scars from all the bullying I received at school and from the doctors. Our four month is in a little over a week. Today he dumped me and broke of the engagement almost four months into our relationship because he decided he couldn't handle my Ehlers Danlos Syndrome. After I got the text, yes he did it through a text, I ran for my sister and mom. I dropped to my knees and began to cry. I would have understood being dumped for something like cheating or being abusive but having a genetic disease? I just didn't understand until a good friend asked me what I said back to him. I had said nothing back after he dumped me. Then I realized what was I supposed to do, say sorry that I was born with a genetic disease? People don't apologize for terrible acts like blowing up buildings and killing people, why should I have to apologize for having bad genes.
jussygirlie16 jussygirlie16 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 13, 2011

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You sound like an amazing person to me sweetheart,that geaser ain't worth losing a tear over.Stay strong!.

Wow you are a hero! You deserve a lot better. I have some kind of a genetic problem also but unfortunately the symptoms are worse :/ whats even harder is that I don't know anyone who has the same problem and is in my age. I see in the comments two poeple that can relate to you, thats a good thing. Anyways I wish you all the best. If you want to talk you can talk to me :) have a good day.

I have Ehlers Danlos Syndrome to I have learnt to deal with it in the best way I can ,but when it comes to relationships it seems to be me who does the heartbreaking :( I hate myself for it but it gets so far Into a relationship n they start asking personal questions about my scars and soft skin etc ,iv always chose to keep my condition to myself and deal with it in my own way ,so when my partners start asking questions I seem to push them away because I'm scared of what they might think etc :/ I'm the most lively person in the world and I choose to treat the condition as nothing I go to the gym ,I play Footie I do alsorts so the thought of telling people why I have these scars and soft skin etc is bad because I feel they will start looking at me differently and treating me differently :/ it's a awkward situation but life goes on and I won't change for no-one !! I'm sorry to hear about your story you sound like you deserve alot better ! I hope it all turns out well

I'm really sorry that happened to you.. :( I have ehlers danlos too, but in a diff form, I really hope that stupid guy knows what he's missing out on.. You seem like a very nice person. And I wish you the best of luck.. And btw.. If you want that dude "taken care of" just ask me.. ;-)