I Have Gay Friends
Why are parents so annoying? Why are they so judgemental and at times so dumb? Yesterday I was sitting eating dinner with my dad talking over baseball. My dad is usually not too talkative at the dinner table so I can tell by that look he wants to talk about something and it is not one he wants to talk about. He clears his throat a few times and then says to me are you gay? I laugh. What and why are you asking dad? is the response I give. I know why he is asking. My best friend just recently told me he is gay and is just coming out. He said he just talked to my best friends parents earlier and they are very upset. He says it is not a good idea to hang with him anymore. My dad is a homophobic. I tell him no I am straight and Anthony is not going to change me.
I am speechless, I tell him come on this is Anthony not some stranger....you have known him like half of his life already. My dad is not listening but says to stay away from him and he is no longer welcome here. I am 22 years old I tell him and I think I am old enough to choose my own friends meaning no disrespect to my dad I say but I am not a child.My dad then says to me that if I want to do as I please maybe I should leave.After all he points out it is his home, and I need to abide by his rules. I am like what? He is serious he says. I tell him I pay him rent and pay half of the bills. It's not like I am living there for free.
Then talk about bad timing!!! There is a knock at the door and it is my best friend looking so sad and crying. I tell my dad to please calm down.My dad is getting really mad and says his parents had told him they were throwing him out. I at this point am feeling really bad for Anthony, and my dad is saying leave him be, he needs to go, he is not staying here. .He says next I need to leave, to move out I am not welcome I am like fine then, let me just get my things and I am going to leave, I tell my dad he is ridiculous and I tell Anthony to just wait outside for me; My dad is silent and I am already in my room packing what I need most and can carry. My dad is not relenting but says to take what I want he is changing the lock and not letting me back in until I give up this friendship, that I am being stupid. I tell him I love you dad and when YOU are ready to talk and ready to be rational, I will listen. Until then, he is asking me for the impossible, I will not give up my best friend because he is gay. I hug him good bye, he looks surprised that I have chosen so easily and that I am leaving. I will call him later tonight. He says I am fired, I work for him. I say its ok I will find another job. I know I will,
I go outside to my car and I tell him my dad threw me out. He says to apologize and just go home he will be ok. I say no, he has nowheres to go, he has no family that lives here in CA. I tell him we can stay with my grandparents, which is true, I called them and explained everything . They are ok with it, they are my dad's parents.
Why are parents so stupid at times? They teach us to accept everyone but when it comes down to there own child they are hypocrites about the very lessons they teach us. My grandparents are open minded and say we can stay as long as we want, they are happy to have the company, they are elderly and have a hard time getting around so I know I will be running errands, I don;t mind. I am frustrated. I see my best friend sitting there with my grandma fussing over him and I smile. He is going to be ok and I will too. We will get through this together.
I am speechless, I tell him come on this is Anthony not some stranger....you have known him like half of his life already. My dad is not listening but says to stay away from him and he is no longer welcome here. I am 22 years old I tell him and I think I am old enough to choose my own friends meaning no disrespect to my dad I say but I am not a child.My dad then says to me that if I want to do as I please maybe I should leave.After all he points out it is his home, and I need to abide by his rules. I am like what? He is serious he says. I tell him I pay him rent and pay half of the bills. It's not like I am living there for free.
Then talk about bad timing!!! There is a knock at the door and it is my best friend looking so sad and crying. I tell my dad to please calm down.My dad is getting really mad and says his parents had told him they were throwing him out. I at this point am feeling really bad for Anthony, and my dad is saying leave him be, he needs to go, he is not staying here. .He says next I need to leave, to move out I am not welcome I am like fine then, let me just get my things and I am going to leave, I tell my dad he is ridiculous and I tell Anthony to just wait outside for me; My dad is silent and I am already in my room packing what I need most and can carry. My dad is not relenting but says to take what I want he is changing the lock and not letting me back in until I give up this friendship, that I am being stupid. I tell him I love you dad and when YOU are ready to talk and ready to be rational, I will listen. Until then, he is asking me for the impossible, I will not give up my best friend because he is gay. I hug him good bye, he looks surprised that I have chosen so easily and that I am leaving. I will call him later tonight. He says I am fired, I work for him. I say its ok I will find another job. I know I will,
I go outside to my car and I tell him my dad threw me out. He says to apologize and just go home he will be ok. I say no, he has nowheres to go, he has no family that lives here in CA. I tell him we can stay with my grandparents, which is true, I called them and explained everything . They are ok with it, they are my dad's parents.
Why are parents so stupid at times? They teach us to accept everyone but when it comes down to there own child they are hypocrites about the very lessons they teach us. My grandparents are open minded and say we can stay as long as we want, they are happy to have the company, they are elderly and have a hard time getting around so I know I will be running errands, I don;t mind. I am frustrated. I see my best friend sitting there with my grandma fussing over him and I smile. He is going to be ok and I will too. We will get through this together.
By:
lifesanadventure
Age:
22-25
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Male
