Gay Mum

My mum and dad split up when I was about 6 and I carried on living with my mum although visiting my dad. When I was about 11 my mum told me that she was having a civil partnership with a 'friend' who had been close for a few years and my young self just thought of as a friend. I was schocked but didn't really know what to feel after.. I was happy for my mum for finding love ad happiness again but I also felt slightly embarrassed at what my friends or others may think. My life carried on as usual but I just never found the need to tell anyone, and I don't know what would happen if I tell a few friends but the whole of my town find out... I somehow wish that everyone knew and I didn't need to tell anyone but they don't and I feel that I can't have friends around as freely as those who live a 'normal life'. I don't know what to do and I don't want to tell my friends. Would a small lie be acceptable and should I wait until I gain a true best friend to tell which may be years? Any advice would be grateful and I just wanted to let it out really.
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1 Response Jan 16, 2013

Dear one (i don't know your name),
i don't know how you feel exactly, because i didn't have the experience you're writing about,
but as i did have some experience in my life of feeling i have to hide something from the society and fearing that people could react in a bad way if i told them,
i guess i will speak from there.

It sounds like you're having a hard time...

So what my inner gut says is - if you can, talk to your mum about it.
You didn't mention how close you are,
but if you feel you can, go and tell her how you feel.
She, as a person who has a gay relationship must have gone through the 'coming-out' process with someone at least, and knows how hiding feels.

If that is not possible,
then find somebody loving (grandmother? grandfather? a teacher that you feel as compassionate?) and try to talk with them.

Hope this helps at least a bit!

:)