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How Could She Do That to Us Kids?

A personal story in the experience: I Have Gay Parents
M y mum was raised by a foster family who were rather conservative - Dad works, mum stays home with children sort of people. She was always a tomboy, riding bikes, climbing trees and stealing cigarettes while her female peers were out shopping and painting nails. Mum met my dad when she was about 16. She had my sister, then me. Dad used to beat her. He was an alcoholic. They separated. She then met my stepdad, had two more kids. He used to beat us.  He was an alcoholic too. When I was about 10 they separated. My went to an adult school, and made friends with a woman who I will call Tina. Tina was very masculine. I actually thought she was a man with a high voice until my mum told me otherwise. Tine started staying over, and when we moved house she came too. Permanently. When I was 11, mum told me that her and Tine were in a relationship. I knew a feww lesbains through her, so I knew exactly what she meant. I couldn't believe it.  'How could she do that to us kids?' Was all I could think. I ran away. While I was running, I couldn't stop thinking about what she was doing, and what effect it would have on me and my siblings. Then I realised she wasn't doing anything to us. She wasn't hurting us, she was happier than I'd ever known her, she still loved us. I went home. I talked to mum, and we made up. when it came to school friends, we had mixed responses. Some parents didn't want us playing with their kids - They thought their kids might catch gay. Some parents couldn't have cared less.One boy at our school threatened, bullied, hurt and tomented us. It was hard, but We had an unusual surname, and a disabled sister, so were used to it. High School. We had friends who all knew, but weren't bothered. Some of them actually considered her cool, and most of our friends wanted mum to adopt them. Mum and Tina gave us all a great childhood, and even had a baby together. Baby number 5 for mum. Mum and Tina were together for about 13 years. They separated. My mum once told me that she didn't ever want to be with men, but was scared of her parents reaction. Funny, because they are so accepting, as long as mum is happy. My mum is my best friend. I can talk to her about anything I need to, she means the world to me. Her new partner, Holly, is an absolute godsend for my mum, and I am so proud of them both. I couldtalk about this all day, because it's something I'm passionate about, but I won't! My mum is gay, and I love her to bits.

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Posted Dec 8th, 2008 at 2:04AM
I read the title and thought this story was going to go in a completely different direction. I'm glad I was wrong and that your mother's sexuality did not negatively affect your relationship with her. Cheers!
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Posted Dec 8th, 2008 at 1:00PM
WOW! I love this story.I'm glad to see that you have such a good relationship with your mom now. Great story.:)
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Posted Dec 8th, 2008 at 4:21PM
Thanks so much for sharing your story with us!! It's great to know that you got over your initial shock and now have a great relationship with your mom. But people never cease to amaze me, how they can believe that being gay should be avoided at all costs and reproached. Urgh, it really annoys me. Anyway, I'm glad you're happy now :) more proof that gay parents rule!!
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Posted Jan 5th, 2009 at 2:49PM
thats so cute :D
     
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Posted Jan 9th, 2009 at 9:44AM
Nixta,
This is a wonderful story!! Thank you for sharing and I applaud you.
hugs:)
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Posted Mar 17th, 2009 at 9:47AM
Its a good story ,Thank you for sharing !
     
Posted Mar 22nd, 2009 at 10:23PM
wonderful story. glad u and ur mum get along so well.. good luck to you and ur mum.. cheers
     
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Posted Mar 27th, 2009 at 6:21PM
Thanks for sharing, this is a great thing to hear :)
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Posted Apr 3rd, 2009 at 9:24AM
HAVE A GOOD WEEKEND ALL!
     
Posted May 26th, 2009 at 11:16AM
this is the first time i read a real life story from the view of the children; it really amazes me. it is an eye opener for me. i can visualise two women living together; it could be platonic or even physical. women are very strong and can put up with things. but i am at a loss to visualise two men living together till their death. why would you want to call it a marriage? marriage could be only between a man and a woman and all others are just relationships. don't call it marriage and demean the meaning of marriage.
     
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