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Just Had a Miscarriage At 5 Months.

I just had a miscarriage two weeks ago.  I was five months pregnant.  I was so happy about the baby when I found out that I was pregnant.  I waited a very long time to finally get pregnant and never thought anything like this could happen to me.  My two sisters never had any problems with their pregnancies and I guess I thought my pregnancy would go just as smooth.  But, a week before I had my last appointment at the OB/GYN I started to feel worried.  I kept thinking what if everything isn't okay with my baby.  I couldn't wait to go to the doctor so he could tell me i was just being silly and let me hear my baby's heart beat and let me see my baby moving on the ultrasound screen.  Instead, I was told my baby had no heart beat and there was no movement on the ultrasound screen.  At that moment I don't think I had a heart beat either and I feel as if it hasn't started beating again ever since that day in the doctor's office two weeks ago.  Now, every time I see a pregnant women I feel like I want to cry and I can't even look at a baby.  I don't want to ramble on too much. I just thought it might be a good idea to share my story and talk to other women that have had the same experience I have.

c2323 c2323 36-40 86 Responses Apr 1, 2008

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I know how you feel. At the end of 2010 I was pregnant with twin boys. On Dec 27th, I went into premature labor at 22 wks and 3 days. My 1st son was stillborn and my 2nd son passed away after 12 mins. I started hemorraging and almost died myself. We buried them Jan 4, 2011. It's the worst thing losing a child(ren). I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. But only people that have gone thru it can truly understand. If anyone who's reading this ever needs to talk, please email me at Gina 0521 @ gmail.com We can lean on each other. It's always good to know we're not alone.

I am so sorry for your loss no mother should have to go threw that. i lost my baby as well.. it was so tramatic. At four months its a horrible experience. Its been a year since it happened and i still get upset seeing a mother with a baby. Remembering his feet and little hands is a vivid picture in my mind. I just watched *19 kids and counting* and michelle had a misscarriage at 17 weeks and 4 days her words and her prayers hit home to me and to be honest brought closure to know i am not the only woman who has gone thew this and i wont be the last, which is s very sad truth.
Be strong i know how hard it is but know your baby is always with you. The bond between mother and child is unimaginable and will be with you for ever.

Love Makayla.
Xx

Hi! I am Aj from the Philippines. I know this post was a long time ago but I hope you were able to move on and tried to conceive again. I was just browsing looking for an answer why I had a miscarriage when I came upon this forum. I was also 5 months pregnant when I lost my baby. It has only been 6 days. After fireworks at midnight of Dec. 31,2014... I was rushed to the hospital coz I felt a really hard pain in my abdomen. It comes and goes and I didn't know that I was already in labor (having a contraction). When we arrived at the hospital my water haven't broke yet and the doctors tried so hard to stop my contraction. Worst part was, they listened to the baby's heart beat and it was still beating. I know he's alive! After about an hour they still couldnt stop it and the baby came out. I didn't even have to push. But after the baby came out he didn't make it. The doctor couldn't tell what was the cause of it. I still have to come back tomorrow for a check up. I still couldn't stop crying. Especially atnight when I miss him the most cuz it's the time when I usually feel him move inside me. I have waited so long to have a baby. I'm now 30. I still want it. I hope God would still grant me one.

I was also 5 months pregnant when i had a miscarriage. . . My boyfriend and i are 3 years apart so for him he was so overjoyed and we picked out a name... i am 19 but i was still living with my mom and i had no way to get sonograms or hear the heart beat or know the sex. . . to make it worse the fetus came out of me on his birthday i had no idea how to react i was so happy to have a little someone inside me, me protecting Conner/Audrey... that i didn't know i could've hurt them.. not knowing what i did wrong...

I know a few people who delivered still borne babies. That was very hard too. There are so many options for women who want kids that cant have them so don't give up hope. Talk to your gyno and tell him or her how you have been feeling since you lost the baby so she can help you through it. SHe may refer you to a psychologist or a help group so you can talk to people who have had similar experiences as yours. You are not alone, you just have to reach out to your dr and tell her you need help

not help group..I meant support group

A friend of mine had sixteen miscarriages before finally having three healthy babies. So don't give up!!!

I also lose mi baby at 5month wen a went to di dr to do an ulta sound only to find out dat their was no heart beat r no movement of mi bby. An nw am try so hard to get pregnant again but am not everyday I cry asking god y he had to take mi one son an den I can't have a nex one

Thank you so much Sisterkaramazov for your sympathy. It is much appreciated.

Clare

Hi Stephanie Sunflower,

Thank you so much for your sympathy. My heart breaks for you as well over your mom's loss. But, as you said, luck does happen and as luck would have it not long after my tragedy I did conceive again and give birth to a beautiful baby girl. She just turned 4 a few months ago! And I'm sure your mom felt lucky to to have gotten her beautiful little girl (you) in the wake of her tragedy. Thank you again for your post.

All the best,

Clare

Hi there. I just seen your post, my heart goes out for you, I'm sorry about your loss. You are not alone, I can tell you that, when my mom was pregnant with me and my twin, she lost my twin at 5 months, it was devastating for her. She went to the washroom, and a bunch of blood and stuff came out of her, she was crying and crying, and knew that she lost one of her babies. Luckily, the doctor told her that she was still pregnant and she had me, I was a miracle baby, and luck happens to everyone, don't worry my dear, you will have a beautiful baby boy/girl one day.
Keep your head up,
Stephanie.

hey I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone, today it has been 8 years since I lost my son. I was 5 months pregnant and I started bleeding, went to the hospital and they told me the news that I was no longer pregnant. I started crying and couldn't stop. I was 16 when I was pregnant. every may 29-31 I cry because even though its been 8 years still hurts. I wish I could have met my little man. but I think that he is happy up in heaven and when I leave this world I will meet him.

Hi diddothewrongthing88,

My sympathy is with you. I feel the same way in that even though it has been 4 years since I lost my baby it still hurts and feels like yesterday I was in the doctor's office hearing the news that my baby was no more. I can say that I did conceive again and I am blessed with an adorable little girl. She just celebrated her 4th birthday a couple of weeks ago. If you have not already conceived again you will soon, I'm sure of that. You are so young and have so many years left to be a mom. Please know that you are not alone either and I am here if you ever need an ear to listen every May 29-31st.

Good luck to you.

Clare

Hi Prfic,

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. The pain will lessen in time and you will conceive and give birth to a healthy baby. Perhaps, give yourself some time to just be a teenager. You are so young and have plenty of time to find that special someone and start a family. If you need to talk you're welcome to write in again to this post and I will be happy to listen. Good luck and take care of yourself. C2323

Hi my name is ashley im 18 years old i just had a miscarriage almost 3 weeks ago i was 5 months pregnant and i had to deliver my baby it was hard i understand how it feels

So they took yuhr baby out from inside yuh

Hi MilesMom,

My heart is breaking for you after reading your story. I was spared the trauma of having to deliver my baby after I had the miscarriage so I can not even imagine how you must feel after holding your baby and then saying goodbye. I can only say that time does help and you will conceive again and give birth to a healthy baby. It was my first pregnancy also when I miscarried and I was pregnant again soon after and my daughter just turned 3 in May. Believe me when I say that it will get better and you will be a mom, sooner than you think I'm sure. In the meantime if you need an ear to listen you're welcome to call. My number is 718-317-1889. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers daily.

Clare

Hi,
I recently had a miscarriage on Thanksgiving; noticed a little discharge and slight bleeding that night and called my doc just to be sure everything was ok. The nurse told me to monitor the bleeding and if it became heavy to go to the emergency room. The bleeding never got heavy but when I went to the bathroom I felt "something". I still felt no pain but went to the emergency room. After I was checked in, I began to feel cramps and later contractions. I was told I was having a miscarriage; my heart is and was so broken. I was five months and this was my first pregnancy. I delivered a beautiful baby boy with a strong heartbeat. He rested in my arms for about two hours and then passed. I don't think Thanksgiving will ever be the same.

hi its perfectly normal i think iv just miscarried on my first baby at 5 months and i also have polycystic ovaries so wen i came back from afghan and found out me and my boyfriend had caught the day we got back i thought it was a miracle. im due now on new years eve and im rele struggling to cope . im 21 years old and i am devestated i went into labour without even realising it waters had been leaking for about 12 hours then my waters fully broke early morning i went to the hosipital after bleeding very heavily where they then told me misscarriage or terminate . the day i went to terminate i miscarried any way and went into labour . the only thing im thankful for is having no pain at all ? for some strange reason. and trust me every day is a struggle and i wish i could tell u that it gets better but yet i am not at that stage . i hope you do get better . olivia x

Hi Nic1701,

My heart is breaking for you right now. You should tell your boyfriend and family right away...they love you and I'm sure they would support you. You shouldn't be alone at a time like this. It took me a long time to get over losing my baby and only after I conceived again did the pain fade a bit. Believe me when I tell you, that you will conceive again and give birth to a healthy baby. No words will ease your pain but in time it will begin to lessen. In the meantime if you ever need to talk to someone I am always ready to listen. My email address is cstark@kenyon.com and my phone number is 718-317-1889.

Hi Magturne,

I know exactly how you are feeling right now. I was depressed until I conceived again and you will conceive again too. Trust me, it will happen and probably sooner than you think. Please, never lose hope and always remember that you are not alone. If you need to talk about it please feel free to email me at cstartk@kenyon.com or call me at 718-317-1889. I am always ready to listen.

I feel so sorry for you. I was 5 months pregnant and just had a miscarriage. The baby had no heart beat. I'm very depressed. But I still believe God will bless me with another baby !!!

Im 20 yrs old and i just found out i had a miscarriage at 25 weeks. I went to my doctors appointment excited to see my little girl only to be crushed when told there was no heartbeat or movement. All i could do is cry and blame myself. I dont know what to do im so depressed my 1st baby is gone and i dont know how to tell my family and boyfriend please help

Glad to hear you have a baby God has blessed you. I lost my first little girl at 22 weeks my cervix started to open then contractions continued and I gave birth they said it was due to an infection because the sac and baby was infected. I then got pregnant about 6 months after and again at 22 weeks I lost my baby boy the same thing happened the doctors said they seen it once but not twice its very rare but now they say they will put me on antibotics I am quite scared about getting pregnant again but not sure how long to wait but to all of u my prayers are with you.

Am so sorry for your loss. I just lost my baby girl last month on the 19th of September. It's very hard for me as well. So I know exactly how you feel & what you are going through. It gets harder everyday since my due date was in February. My thoughts & prayers are with you through this tough time.

Hi sadmummywithfaith,

My heart is breaking for you right now. But, I am here to tell you that you are, indeed, correct and you will be blessed with beautiful healthy babies in the future and most likely the near future. I conceived shortly after my miscarriage and now have a beautiful little girl who just turned 3 years old. there is no doubt in my mind that you will soon be posting happy news of your new and healthy baby. In the meantime if you should need a shoulder or an ear to listen please feel free to email me at cstark@kenyon.com at any time. I can't access that email address on the weekends but if you should need an ear on the weekend you are welcome to call my cell at 718-887-1839.

My prayers and thoughts are with you and your husband.

Clare (c2323)

i too am sorry for your loss. i understand how you feel. i just lost our first baby of 22 weeks last friday. Delivering a baby with no heart beat was unbearable. He was a baby boy. While other delivering mothers could hear the first cry of their babies, ours was still&quiet. :( i was heart broken and i am thinking about him every single day. if he was still in me this week he would be 23 weeks old. i pray and hope that this wont reoccur and that we will be blessed with beautiful healthy babies in the future. i continously remind myself that he is at a beautiful place looking down at us.. and that someday we will meet again at the heavens gate.

Hi Ladyluck94,

I am so sorry to hear of your loss but very happy to hear that you are pregnant again and all is well. I have no doubt that you will give birth to a healthy and beautiful baby. I am equally happy to say that I too got pregnant again and gave birth to a beautiful baby girl and she turned 3 this year!

I wish you and your bundle of joy all the happiness in the world!

All my best,

Clare/ c2323

Hey there,
I know exactly how you feel.
I was a young mom, pregnant only about a month after my 16th birthday.
I had made arrangements for an open- adoption, but fell in love with my baby.
I was making preparations to have a baby, when all of a sudden me and the father went to the doctor for a measuring and heart check.. there was no heart beat and I had to give birth.. it broke my heart..

Think about it, talk about it, and in time you will heal.

I am now pregnant, the doctor said everything is perfect :)
Keep your head up girl, ill keep you in my prayers<3

i am so sorry for your lost,here i am pregnant at five months and wishing i wasn't just because i didn't get the girl i wanted.crying my eyes out.i wish i could exchange places with you.

Hi ChefAshes,<br />
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Let me start by saying how incredibly sorry I am for your loss. I too experienced the loss of losing my baby but I can't imagine the pain that you felt going through child birth and going home with empty arms. Please believe me when I say that soon enough your arms will be full. You will give birth to a healthy baby. I know the pain seems unbearable now and you probably feel there will never be an end to it. I am here to tell you the pain will fade and you will experience the joy of having your first child together with your husband. Nothing anyone can say will stop the pain you're feeling but sometimes talking to people who have been through what you've been through can make all the difference. If you ever need an ear to listen you are always welcome to contact me at my work number (which is where i usually am most of the day) 212-908-6227 or my email address at cstark@kenyon.com. In the meantime I will keep you and your husband in my daily thoughts and prayers.<br />
<br />
Clare (c2323)

Hi<br />
I came online looking for women who have gone thru the same thing I went thru. I was 21 weeks pregnant when we lost our first baby, a boy Evan James in May 22, 2012. On May 16 we were rear ended and everything was fine until I started bleeding on the 21st. I was rushed to the ER and immediately hooked up to all the montors. Little did I know I was having preterm labor. They did a quick ultrasound and said my placenta was detached and that my cervix was dialated 2cm. We saw our baby boy just a moving around in there. The. My contractions started coming within seconds apart. I ended up having an epidural needle stuck in me 3 times before they could get it in. Then 6 hrs later at 530 am my water broke. At 734am I gave birth and Evan was gone. We held a funeral 3 days later and have his tiny urn at home with us. This has the worst experience ever. We were looking forward to our first baby together and all of a sudden he was taken away so quick. It's only been 33 days but I just hope it gets easier for us to cope with our loss. We know he is in heaven and we know that Gor has a reason and a plan for everyone and we will see him again.

I understand exactly what your going thru. I had a miscarriage a week ago n I was only 4 months. My baby didn't have a heart beat. Its the worse pain anyone can go thru.I'm sorry for your lost..

Hi Melsf87,

I too am sorry for your loss as well. You will conceive again and give birth to a healthy baby. I just celebrated my daughter's 3rd birthday on Friday so I know that there is life after miscarriage. Right now your body and mind need to heal. In the meantime if you need an ear to listen I am always available. My personal email address is cstark@kenyon.com. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers.

Hi Milleib33,<br />
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I'm so sorry for your loss. Your heart will most likely break a few hundred times more before it finally heals. But, believe me when I say , it will heal and you will conceive again and you will give birth to a healthy baby. In the meantime if you need someone to talk to you you're welcome to contact me on this site or at my work email address (cstark@kenyon.com). I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

I was 5like mnths pregnant n lost my baby 3weeks ago reading this broke my heart again.. I felt the same way

Hi Marie,<br />
<br />
I'm so sorry for your loss and hope that you will find peace and comfort in the faces of your other children. You are absolutely right when you say that time heals. In time the pain will lessen and hopefully watching your other children grow up will help. <br />
<br />
You and your little boy are in my thoughts and prayers.<br />
<br />
Clare

I'm so sorry to hear about everyone's loss. I already have 3 children two are teenagers and a 5 yr. old. I do understand the ones that don't have any children it has got to be a nightmare. But never give up. I have also experienced two miscarriages the first one I was 7 months pregnant I delivered my baby girl December 2004, After this miscarriage I delivered a healthy baby girl in 2006 that now is 5yrs old. I became pregnant October 2011 and this past Monday I had my 5month check up that turned into a nightmare. The Dr. went to hear the baby heartbeat with the fetal doppler and I seen the look on his face and said to me everything is ok lets go into the ultrasound room. It was relieving a nightmare with my first miscarriage I know that look from the past. As soon as I seen Dr.reaction when he seen what was on the ultrasound monitor I knew that there was no heartbeat. How could this happened to me twice. I delivered my first little boy January 31, 2012 at 8:55 a.m. Tomorrow I will burie him. I know that babies are a gift of god. And time heals. <br />
<br />
Marie

Hi Davicho, <br />
<br />
I'm so sorry for your loss. My miscarriage occured in much the same way. We went in for an ultrasound, due date was off and then we were told our baby had no heartbeat. I was devastated. It breaks my heart that you had to deliver your baby. I was able to get the D and C. It is totally normal to be ok one moment and then an emotional wreck the next. I was the same way for quite a awhile after I miscarried. It only got better when I conceived again and carried to term. I delivered a healthy baby girl and I know that you will also conceive again and deliver a healthy baby too. Trust me, it will happen. I'm so happy that you have family and friends to support you. That is so very important. Talking to someone who understands what you're going through can help also, so if you need a fresh ear to listen you're always welcome to contact me. My home is 718-317-1889, work is 212-908-6227 and my email address is cstark@kenyon.com. I can only access the email during the week, however. I will keep you in my prayers daily...trust me, it does get better with time.<br />
<br />
Clare

Hi Pauli,<br />
<br />
I wish I could give you a big hug right now..my heart is breaking for you and your twins. I wish there was something I could say to make the pain go away but, sadly, only time can help. After I had my miscarriage I too noticed every baby, every pregnant women and felt the loss all over again. It was devastating and I will never forget the pain, but, luckily, time does heal all wounds. Talking to someone that went through the same thing really helped me alot and I finally did conceive and give birth to a healthy daughter. I tell you this so you will know that there is always hope and you too will conceive and give birth to a healthy baby too. It is difficult to stay positve, I agree but thinking of how happy I was going ot be when I finally did conceive again helped and talking about it with someone who cares was a huge help to me. I promise you, it will get better and in the meantime if you need an ear to listen to you you're welcome to call me at any time. My home number is 718-317-1889 and work is 212-908-6227. You can also email me at cstark@kenyon.com. I will keep you in my prayers daily.<br />
<br />
Clare

Hi i too lost my twin babies at 5 months, one twin died at 12 weeks and they didn't pick that up ,how could they not see, i was so heartbroken. I had so many dreams for them, i was told that the surviving twin will not survive because no amniotic fluid baby, oh it was a baby boy.I was told that my life will also be threatened if i continue pregnancy, then we ad to terminate because baby was in distress, I am so devastated, it has been 4 months now and still cry over them, so hard to look at other babies and not wanting your babies back,I had to deliver them through enduced labour.It was the hardest i ever had to do in my life.<br />
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I want to try again but so scared.I am just longing for my babies so badly.i am due for a visit to gynea with results of tests,please keep me in your prayers?<br />
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I am hopeful that this time around everything will go well, this was my second miscarriage, i have so many questions as to why, thought it was me but we might never know all the answers,<br />
At least i am comfort with the fact they are in heaven and i will see them one day and tell them how much i love them.<br />
How do you stay positive after all this?<br />
<br />
pauli

I just had a miscarriage at 21 weeks. It all happened so fast and I just don't know why. We went in for the 20week ultrasound on Friday, heard the heartbeat and saw all the little body parts. We then got a call from the nurse saying my placenta looked large, there was little fluid in the amniotic sac and the due date was off. We had to wait until Monday for the appt which was the longest weekend ever. We get there and they immediately do an ultrasound and there is no heartbeat. My husband and I were in shock. I couldn't even cry at first I was in so much disbelief. I know that I still am even after all that has happened in the last few days. They said the best option was to do a D and C but they couldn't do it for another week. That seemed ridiculous to have to wait that long. Turns out I did not have to. I started feeling cranky that evening-it was Halloween and it got worse. I finally called the nurse and they sent me to the ER for labor and delivery. It's just so surreal. I got an epidural and they induced my labor and 6 hours later my baby boy came out. He came out so easily and they took him away. I did not want to see him or touch him. That would've been too hard. We want a full autopsy done to figure out what happened andcmaybe guide us for future pregnancies. We have great support with family and friends and one moment I actually feel happy and the next I'm sobbing uncontrollably. I left the hospital Tuesday and it's now Thursday and I'm back in. I had blood clots and and high blood pressure so look out for that. Hope this never happens to anyone.

Hi Cheany and NA3537,<br />
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As always, let me start by saying that I am deeply saddened to hear of your losses. I wish there were some magical words to make the pain go away. Sadly, only time can heal these type of wounds. I truly know how difficult it is cheany to go on but as NA3537 said try to remain strong and don't ever give up. You are also right NA3537 when you say that it helps to talk about it with someone who understands how you feel. That is what really got me through the worst days after my miscarriage. Knowing that I wasn't alone was a great comfort to me. I'm here to say that neither you or NA3537 are alone either. You will both have beautiful, healthy babies one day just as I did and just as so many other women did. On the days that you think you can no longer deal with the loss and pain please know that I am available if you need a fresh ear to listen or a shoulder to cry on. My work number is 212-908-6227, my home is 718-317-1889 and my cell is 718-887-1839. Please feel free to contact me at any time. I don't have a voice mail set up on my cell but if you leave a message on the home phone I will absolutely call you back. During the week if you would rather correspond via email you can reach me at cstark@kenyon.com. I will keep both of you in my thoughts and prayers and hope for happier days to find both of you very soon.

Hi<br />
<br />
@Cheany - I am so sorry for your loss :-( I understand your pain, I so do. I lost my baby at 5 1/2 months last November. That was my 4th mistcarriage! My husband and I have no children as yet and I have just turned 35. I used to look forward to birthdays and now I just think that I am getting older with no children - when will God make it happen for us. It was such a sad day and for ages I just wanted to hide away. But let me tell you something, talking about it and concentrating on the positive aspects of your life does help. Give yourself time to mourn - its such a big and painful loss. All the dreams you had for this baby have gone in an instant and you have the right to be in shock. Talk to your husband about how you feel, maybe go away for a week. Relax and dont revolve your life around this issue, otherwise it will eat you both up - and thats no basis of starting a family. <br />
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I am determined to have healthy babies, and it is this belief, faith and positive thinking that will hopefully get me there. Keep strong please - a lot of people have suffered what you have and still remain strong - you must too. Your babies are looking down on you and want you to be happy - dont disappoint them x

Hi, <br />
I too went through 2 miscarriages, both at 5 months. It hurt so much. I'm 33 and DH and I have been trying for 11 years to have a kids. This past August 4th was our most recent miscarriage, I delivered our son Joshua after spending 4 days in the hospital. We thought I was going to be spending the rest of the pregnancy in the hospital, but I went into preterm Labor. It was the worst feeling ever. I feel like I failed my child and my husband. I have locked every one out. I don't have the strength or the courage to face anyone. It's a scary thought when I think of trying again, but DH wants to try as soon as the bleeding stops... How do I deal with that.. I want to have children, but I am afraid of losing them every time I get pregnant. I'm so confused right now. How do I really move on....

Hi, <br />
I too went through 2 miscarriages, both at 5 months. It hurt so much. I'm 33 and DH and I have been trying for 11 years to have a kids. This past August 4th was our most recent miscarriage, I delivered our son Joshua after spending 4 days in the hospital. We thought I was going to be spending the rest of the pregnancy in the hospital, but I went into preterm Labor. It was the worst feeling ever. I feel like I failed my child and my husband. I have locked every one out. I don't have the strength or the courage to face anyone. It's a scary thought when I think of trying again, but DH wants to try as soon as the bleeding stops... How do I deal with that.. I want to have children, but I am afraid of losing them every time I get pregnant. I'm so confused right now. How do I really move on....

Hi Jana,<br />
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It's never too late to comment and yours was appreciated. I am so sorry to hear of your loss but equally thrilled that you have two beautiful daughters in your life to help you through the tragedies. I wouldn't imagine that you could ever get use to losing your baby or that it would every get easier. On the days that it feels unbearable please remember that you are not alone and if you should need an ear to listen or a shoulder to lean on you're more than welcome to contact me. My email address is cstark@kenyon.com (I can be reached at this address during the week. On weekends you're welcome to text me at 718-887-1839).<br />
<br />
Good luck and enjoy those beautiful girls of yours!<br />
<br />
Clare

Dear Eloise,<br />
<br />
Words really can not express how heart broken I am for you over all of your losses, however, I am also inspired by you too. Your ability to carry on after so much tragedy is uplifting and a testament to what an amazing mom you will be some day very soon I hope. I will be 41 also and yes I do have a healthy baby girl who will be 2 in May and I am thrilled to be her mom but I will never forget the pain that I experienced when I lost my first child and can't help but wonder what my baby would be like if he or she were alive today. <br />
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I'm so happy that you're not giving up. Please remember that you are not alone. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers and hope to hear sometime soon all about the birth of your healthy baby boy or girl. In the meantime if you should need an ear or shoulder I'm always available. You can contact me via email if you like (cstark@kenyon.com). <br />
<br />
Good luck to you!<br />
<br />
Clare

Dear Clare, <br />
<br />
I was so sad to hear of your loss but as I scrolled down, I am delighted to hear of your wonderful news at your now 15 months old baby girl.<br />
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I have have had a tragic history. I started trying to get pregnant when I was 29, I am now 41. Over the last ten years, I have had 10 miscarriages; one of them included a baby girl born at six months who was alive and breathing but only survived for 20 hours; two weeks ago, I lost a little boy at 5 months because my cervix was weak and I went into premature labour. I believe that I too will have some good news to share one day as I am not giving up and in spite of what I have been through. Thank you for your encouragement.<br />
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God bless you and may you have many more.<br />
<br />
Eloise

i know i am a few years late to this convo but my name is Jana and I want to say to all of you who has had a miscarriage that I am very sorry for you lost I know EXACTLY how you all feel. I have had 9 miscarriages from 12 weeks to 21 weeks. First one in 1999 and my last in 2007. It never got easier and I never got "used" to it each time I lost my son or my daughter they took a piece of me with them. I have never been the same, I constantly wonder what they would be like now and i still find my self crying from time to time. However, there is hope-believe it or not! I have 2 beautiful daughters, through all my heartache and pain with all my miscarriages GOD sent me my two pillars of strength, w/o them I know in my heart I would not be here, they have seen me through the toughest of times. It may not seem like it now, but there is hope trust in God and his ability to provide and never put more on you than you can bare. you too will be blessed!

Hi Efine,<br />
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I'm so sorry for your loss. I was exactly where you are right now and my heart was broken too. There really isn't anything I could say to change that now but in time the pain does lessen and your heart will begin to mend. I'm so happy that you have two healthy boys already and a good husband to help you through this difficult time. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.<br />
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Good luck and any time you need an ear to listen I'm here.<br />
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Clare

I have just miscarried. My son Ace Evan Fine died Jan 27, 2011 and I delivered him Jan 18, 2011 at 11am. I'm most def on a roller coaster of emotions, my husband is helping me through this heartbreaking time. Some days it's like it was a dream, and others it hurts so bad I don't want to do anything at all. I do Have two boys already and I feel blessed to have them. This experience has truely made me appreciate them being on this earth. We want to try again, but only time will tell if I'll be able to handle it. Thank you to all who have shared their stories. Just reading through them has taken a lil weight off my recently broken heart.

Hi Lila,<br />
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Let me first say how sorry I am for your loss. And then let me say that I too had an irregular cycle after I had my miscarriage so I'm sure it's nothing to worry about. Also, I know it may not help now but believe me when I say that you will conceive again and you will give birth to a healthy baby. I did not believe I would ever get pregnant again after my miscarriage but I did and my daughter is turning 19 months this month. I know nothing anyone says now seems to really help. But I have been where you are and do understand how you're feeling so if you ever need an ear to listen or a shoulder to cry on please don't hesitate to contact me at any time. My email address is cstark@kenyon.com. In the meantime I will keep you in my prayers and just know that you're not alone.<br />
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Clare

I also went through a miscarriage in June. It was called a "missed miscarriage" because the baby died a day after i had my first ultrasound and saw the heart beat, it was at 8wks 1day and died the next day. It wasn't until i went in for my 12wk appointment that i found out that i was talking to a baby who couldn't even hear because he was gone. My husband told me he believed God was telling him that our little one is a boy. I was really devastated when the doctor told me the bad news and it felt like my heart actually broke in pieces at the time. You see i have been trying for 6yrs and that is the first time i got pregnant. It took me a about a week with spotting and then when the bleeding started about three hrs to pass tissue and the placenta(the most painful experience ever for me physically,mentally and emotionally). My husband and i started trying a couple weeks after when the bleeding stopped and no success yet. I want to believe that God will soon bless us with a baby that goes to full term and that i won't have any problems next time, but it is really hard. I really don't have anyone to talk to, to encourage me the way i need. I guess it is also that my cycle has been pretty off since i first got pregnant. I used to be 7 days with spotting, medium flow, heavy flow , medium and back to spotting and i was pretty regular 28-30 days sometimes a few days later but very rarely. Now it's barely a day or 2 of heavy bleeding and than goes to spotting, stops, and than few days later after (m/l)with hubby some more spotting. Than there is the aching breasts which seem to every other day with a bit of twinging in my groin area. I guess i just want to know if anyone else has felt this and or if this is normal. Thanks everyone and for those of you ttc after a miscarriage i pray lots of baby dust to you all.<br />
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Lila

Hi mmabaso,<br />
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First, let me say I am so sorry for your loss and second, you have no reason to feel guilty. I didn't save any products of conception either. I even threw out my sono grams. I was so distraught at that time that anything that reminded me of the fact that I no longer had my baby was too painful to deal with. Everyone deals with grief in their own way. But, we can still carry the memory of our babies in our hearts forever. And that's good enough. Right now you have to concentrate on getting yourself better, both emotionally and physically. Believe me, you will get pregnant again and you will give birth to a healthy baby. And with time the pain will become much less until it disappears altogether. In the meantime if you should ever need an ear to listen please feel free to email me at anytime. (cstark@kenyon.com). And that goes for anyone else too. If anyone should ever need someone to talk to please feel free to contact me. Talking to someone who understands what you're going through can make a difference sometimes. It did for me.<br />
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Good luck.<br />
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Clare

Congrats Clare. I had a miscarriage 2 Sundays ago. Now everybody keeps saying I should have asked for the products to bury at home. I am crying as I'm typing this because now I feel guilty that I just threw my baby in the bin to go with the Medical Waste. He was only 2 months and not fully developed. I do believe that life starts at conception but I had no one there to advise me and Doctors were just doing their job. I was in so much pain and didn't think to ask for my baby.....What did everybody else do? Am I a bad person? Was I wrong?

hi i'm nikita and i lost my son on my 24th weeks preg last June. I was just told i'm having a healthty baby boy on my detail scan just 9 days ago when I had this painful day. When I found my boy was not moving, i was so worried and went to see doc the next day and hope to hear my doc will tell me my boy was fine, but unfortunately i was told that his is sorry for me as my boy have no more heartbeat and was not moving around thru the ultrascan. I hardly can accept this truth and I ignored to see my boy who was lying still on the screen and my tears starting rolling down. This was my first preg and I was so depressed then, I have many friends get preg together and they are all well and all having healthy babies and going to due soon, but not me...why? i always asking why, not even doc can tell me the reason of my miscarriage, am i done something wrong and god need to take away my boy? now already 3mths passed but i still can feel the pain in my heart and i also will think of my baby everyday. few more weeks will be my 'actually' due date to my boy. I really miss him a lot!

I had a miscarriage 4 days ago. The baby was neither female nor male, even the hospital was unable to determine that. Very traumatic experience. It died 27th August at 3:30am. No fetal heartbeat and the baby just passed through. My hubby was extremely supportive as no nurses were ready to come and support in the ward. He had to urge me to push the baby out. Since that day, I've been calling him a doctor, just trying desperately to look on the bright side of things. I want to know when can I try again. Unfortunately my boobs are still sore and still feel pregnant. Luckily the uterus is returning to its original shape, so the tummy bump is dying down, but its just as hard. Just want it all to get over real fast. The pain was excrutiating, when my baby was delivered and when my water broke. Cleaning the uterus manually was even worse, when the doc just put her entire arm inside of me. But thanks to her, today there is no infection and I'm healing slowly. I can't rest at home, just feels like I'm pregnant and tired, so i tried resuming work and cleaning around the house myself but the cramping just gets worse after the miscarriage. I have faith in Jesus and pray but thats the only thing humans can do anyways...Pls. keep me in your thoughts and let me know wehn can I try again...

I had a miscarriage 4 days ago. The baby was neither female nor male, even the hospital was unable to determine that. Very traumatic experience. It died 27th August at 3:30am. No fetal heartbeat and the baby just passed through. My hubby was extremely supportive as no nurses were ready to come and support in the ward. He had to urge me to push the baby out. Since that day, I've been calling him a doctor, just trying desperately to look on the bright side of things. I want to know when can I try again. Unfortunately my boobs are still sore and still feel pregnant. Luckily the uterus is returning to its original shape, so the tummy bump is dying down, but its just as hard. Just want it all to get over real fast. The pain was excrutiating, when my baby was delivered and when my water broke. Cleaning the uterus manually was even worse, when the doc just put her entire arm inside of me. But thanks to her, today there is no infection and I'm healing slowly. I can't rest at home, just feels like I'm pregnant and tired, so i tried resuming work and cleaning around the house myself but the cramping just gets worse after the miscarriage. I have faith in Jesus and pray but thats the only thing humans can do anyways...Pls. keep me in your thoughts and let me know wehn can I try again...

Hi all,<br />
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Thank you so much for all of your encouragement and positive words. Luckily I did get through that tragic time and soon after I became pregnant again and now have a beautiful little girl. She turned 15 months today. Nothing will ever erase the memory of that day awful day, however, but it has been a much easier experience will the benefit of such kind and compassionate souls as your selves to give me just positive feed back. I too, am so sorry for all of your losses as well.<br />
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Clare

I am so so sorry for your lost. I completely understand what you are going through. I too lost my baby boy Gabriel on February 22nd 2010 and it was the absolute worst day of my entire life. We had just found out a week before that our baby was a boy and the next Monday I started to spot but went on to work called my doctor to be seen. I got to the doctors office and found out I had a bladder infection and to start drinking ore water. I was about to go when my doctor suggested that she check me while I was there. Low and behold I was 9 cm dialated and was sent downstairs to be watched. We saw the baby on the ultrasound and 30 minutes later my water broke and we had to deliver. My whole soul died at that very moment. I was lost without words. It was as if all my hopes and dreams were robbed from me in that very instant. We could not believe that everything was gone that quick, our dreams future accomplishments for Gabriel everything gone. It is going to take time but you will get through this. You will never ever ever get over your child but you will be able to go through the days and be able to live your life because that is exactly what your child would want. If you ever want to talk I am here for you. This is a very tragic incident and I wish this on no one. It has taken me a long time to through my miscarriage and I am still struggling but I am able to talk to my friends and family and communicate with individuals without bursting in tears. I took a long time off of work because I did not feel that I was 100% ready to come back. All I ask is that you do not do as I did and push people away from you that love you. This is the time that you should draw closer to them and let them help you to begin the coping process. But let no one time you how long or when you should mourn over your child. I hope some of this will help you on your journal. I have created a blog to just help me not hold things in the inside maybe you should try as well. www.Gabriel22210.blogspot.com

I am so sorry for everyone's loss. In january of this year i miscarried twin identical girls. They had Twin to twin tranfusion syndrom. the consisted of separation of the placenta and withdraw of amniotic fluid of one of the twins. 5 days after the procedure i started leaking amniotic fluid. I also had the most hacking cough ever as well when i was released from the hospital they gave me H1N1 vaccine, which right after made my cough so much worse. I don't know if it was the procedure the cough the or the vaccine. But one thing i do know that considering that one of the babies had a small leak they seemed to overcome the TTTS. But even then after being in the hospital for 5 days and on the 5th day i was told i was going to be released the next day as i had not caught and infection or gone into preterm labor. Things just changed overnight within of couple of hours i started with a fever and then about noon i went into labor. 3 hours later i delivered my girls and they past away in my arms. The hardest part of all this is that they tell you your babies are not viable under 24 wks but they may do life saving procedures at 23 sometimes. My babies had just turned 22 wks, one lived 15 min the other 10 min. it is so devasting to see that they don't do anything for ur child. I understand the risk and all, but i just wish that maybe they could have done something. Its been so difficult and even all this i would still like another child. I already have a handful, but even then after the loss it just so hard. i have been trying and for about 4 months without success, and even now after being so regular on my period my cycle has been slightly irregular. instead of 28 day its gone to 19 days. which is so odd. my physcian says it could be stress. i hope so because i would really like one more child even though i know that wont replace my girls who are in heaven. My children help me so much. but sometimes there are things they do and i wonder what i will miss. It is so much. I decided to go back on the pill this month and see if it will regulate my period, but i am not happy with that cause i really would like a baby. Its hard to decide what is the right thing to do... I am also scarred , what if i get twins again. i know what happened to them is like ten percent. the dr said the likely hood of happening again is very slim. but it worries me.. I pray to god it happens soon and if it don't i guess it is not meant to be...my prayers to everyone

I'm sorry for everyones loss that has posted. As for mysefl, I lost my son, Connor, at 5 months, went in for a routine apointment and there was no heartbeat. I had him August 17, 2004. This past may I was hospitalized at 22 weeks pregnant with my daughter, Lexie. I had her at 24 weeks gestation May 13th, she fought for 6 days... both my babies are angels. I am terrified to get pregnant again, but want more than anything to have a child. ... I'm so depressed I don't know what to do with myself. I have the most supportive husband in the world, who never left my side thoughout everything... but I'm still scared to try again

Sorry To Here About Everyones Losses.. I Was 5 Months And 3 Days When I Lost Mine, It's Only Been 2 Weeks Since I'm Still Bleeding But Also I Have Got An Infection In My Womb Cause By This As I Did Not Know I was Pregnant Or That I Had Lost It At First My Doctors But It Down To A Stomach Bug.... I Hope Every One Get Another Chance At Been A Mum And All Your Losses Will Be Looking Down On You... Good Luck In The Future

i had a miscarriage about 2 months ago. I was 5 months pregnant so i know how you feel it was my first pregancy, i havent seen my periods since and i'm sorry for you lost

I'm so sorry for your loss as well. It really is an awful thing. The worst that's ever happened to me but there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I did get pregnant again and I did have a healthy pregnancy and a healthy baby. Trust me, you will too. And when you do the the awful experience will be just a painful memory.<br />
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good luck and if you need a shoulder or a fresh ear to listen I'm always available.

I'm so sorry for your loss,I also lost my baby at 5months, same scenerio I went into the Dr's office and there was no heartbeat. I feel your pain.

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Hi Leys2311,<br />
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I'm so sorry for your loss as well. It was the most depressing thing that ever happened to me too. I hope this doesn't seem lame but time will take away some of the sorrow and once you get pregnant again and give birth to a healthy baby you will never forget your first baby but the pain will be a distant memory. Good luck and if you need an ear to listen I am available for you.

hey im so sorry for ur loss it happened to me as well in june 08 and its the most depressing thing ever in the world i was almost gonna be six months!...

Hi Mommy CA,<br />
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We most definitely have been blessed! The thought of you sitting at the cemetary waiting for another mother to come by so you could talk to someone who understands what you're going through is so sad. I'm sending a big hug your way. Again, I certainly did not go through the tragedy of having to bury my baby as you have but I can certainly relate to losing a baby and again I am available any time you get the need to chat with someone. My mom lost three boys and buried three boys. One was two years old and died on his birthday so you are definitely not alone. This tragedy has happened to many moms in the past, the present and unfortunately will happen in the future. Luckily, time does heal suffering and with death also can come new life, as it did with us and our baby girls. Enjoy your baby and take care of yourself. And remember any time you need an ear to listen I'm available.

Hi Mommy CA,<br />
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We most definitely have been blessed! The thought of you sitting at the cemetary waiting for another mother to come by so you could talk to someone who understands what you're going through is so sad. I'm sending a big hug your way. Again, I certainly did not go through the tragedy of having to bury my baby as you have but I can certainly relate to losing a baby and again I am available any time you get the need to chat with someone. My mom lost three boys and buried three boys. One was two years old and died on his birthday so you are definitely not alone. This tragedy has happened to many moms in the past, the present and unfortunately will happen in the future. Luckily, time does heal suffering and with death also can come new life, as it did with us and our baby girls. Enjoy your baby and take care of yourself. And remember any time you need an ear to listen I'm available.

c2323,<br />
Congratulations on the birth of your little angel as well!! We have truely been blessed!! I also thank you for sharing your story!! I agree that hearing the stories of others who have been through similiar experiences is comforting. After burying my son, I found myself sitting at the cemetary waiting for another mother to come visit her child just so I could talk to someone who had been through losing a child also. I just needed to know that I was going to be okay!! Now after some time and most important after the birth of my baby, I know I will be okay!! I will always have my son in my heart and as an angel of mine!! Thank you for reading my story!! I am also hear if you ever need someone to talk to!! I know I have those moments(even in my busy life) where I want and need to talk about the son that I lost!! Again, THANKS!!

Hi Mommy CA,<br />
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Thank you for sharing your story. I have also been blessed with my own little angel. Four and a half months ago I gave birth to my daughter Casey Angela. You're right, no matter what happens I will never forget my first baby but giving birth to Casey did ease the pain. congratulations on your new daughter! I'm so happy for you! Anytime you need to talk I'm always ready to listen. Sometimes it feels just as good to listen to others that had the same experience as it does to talk about your own experience. Enjoy your new little angel!

Hi Mommy CA,<br />
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Thank you for sharing your story. I have also been blessed with my own little angel. Four and a half months ago I gave birth to my daughter Casey Angela. You're right, no matter what happens I will never forget my first baby but giving birth to Casey did ease the pain. congratulations on your new daughter! I'm so happy for you! Anytime you need to talk I'm always ready to listen. Sometimes it feels just as good to listen to others that had the same experience as it does to talk about your own experience. Enjoy your new little angel!

I too miscarried at 5 months..I had two beautiful daughters when I found out I was pregnant with the son i've longed for..My whole pregnancy was plagued with panic attacks(i'd never had),I was in a car accident(some idiotic lady was on her cell phone when she crashed and wrecked my stopped car),and I was told my baby would probably have DS(which an amnio proved to be wrong) Each obstacle I got through I knew that my baby was going to be okay..Then on my follow up after my amnio..I went 2 dr and upon getting a sono I was told my son no longer had a heartbeat..I WAS DEVASTATED!! I just remember collapsing to the floor in disbelief!! This was on April 12th 2007..I was admitted to hospital and delivered him April 14th..One of the WORST moments was leaving that hospital without my baby..It still hurts(i'm crying now as i'm talking about it).. <br />
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After that experience I didnt want anymore children, so I immediately got on bc..So it was to my surprise that I became pregnant 6months later..I wont lie and say I had a great pregnancy, because after such an experience its very hard.. I was paranoid and cried if they didnt find a heartbeat right away @ drs visits.. On the 1 year anniversary of my sons funeral(April 20th 2008) I went into preterm labor because I was so upset.. Luckily after a hospital stay it was stopped & my baby and I were ok.. On July 8th 2008, I gave birth to my Angel from Heaven..Gianna Evangeline..I named her after her brother Giovanni.. That day changed my life in a major way!! When I lost my son I had so much hurt & anger that it made me a bitter person.. I wasnt the same mom to my daughters either.. <br />
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Many people say you should wait to have a baby after a miscarriage because of the emotional toll it has on you..but in my experience i'm thankful for my baby.. She is definately not a replacement, but she did help mend my broken heart!! I always tell my baby that God needed her brother in Heaven & so He sent me an Angel to help me in such a difficult time!! <br />
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Sorry, I know this was long, but even now I need to talk about it sometimes.. I guess people may think that since i've had my baby i'm over it.. But no matter what..i'll never be over it..i've just learned to cope & move on!! I pray for all you in similiar situations..& I pray for your happiness..if that means having a baby then I hope that for you!! Give it time..things dont always happen right away..but it will & your hearts will have joy!! Take Care!! & talk to people..that helped me alot when I miscarried..& I cried alot too.. It is also normal to not want to be around pregnant woman or babies..A couple friends had babies around that time & I couldnt even bring myself to visit..It takes time..But HANG IN THERE!!<br />
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One more thing..I put myself through alot of stress while pregnant with my baby girl.. Although I know those were normal feelings..I couldve risked something happening to her due to my stress level!! So..just take care of yourself and thats all you can do..Sometimes theres no reason for a miscarriage but stressin definately can cause one.. So when you do become pregnant TRY to ease up & enjoy it..or you could regret it later..

Hi Meanlyfe,<br />
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I'm truly sorry for your loss and want to say once again I know exactly how you feel. I cried every day for months afterward. And yes, I would wake up and realize I wasn't pregnant anymore and feel like it just happened yesterday also. The only thing that helped me was talking to someone who experienced the same thing I did. I talked to two friends who had the same thing happen to them and they got me through the really tough days. If you need a fresh ear to listen I'm always available to chat at any time. You can reach me by email at cstark@kenyon.com or you can call my work number at 212-908-6227. Hang in there because it will get better and you will get pregnant again and have a beautiful, healthy baby.

Type your comment here...hi i just mis carried 4 months ago and i was also 5 months with a baby girl this moth is my due date and i cry everyday because everyday i wake up i relize im not pregnant anymore and it tears me up as if the nightmere happed the day before. i feel your pain and everyone elses up here. i can go on and on about this but i kno the one who been through kno exactly how oyur left to feel and its not something i can easily explain in so many words i can say it hur more than a man breaking your heart and as for the lady who said she's jealous when she see a pregnant women or a baby its not that ur jealous although that is the word that can describe the feelin its that u resent the fact that theres made it and not mine and i feel the same way i had to sisters who were pregnant the same time i was and they have their baby and i cant even look at my necies and love them because im soooo hurt. im getting off because im cryiing because once agin im feeling like my nightmare happened yesterday.

Hi Rosynshawn,<br />
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I'm so sorry for your loss and hope and pray that you will get pregnant very soon. Hang in there and it will be ok. I promise, it will get better. I will keep you and your boys in my thoughts and prayers.

i too miscarried at 5 months. i was having twin boys here it is 7 years later and i still have not gotten pregnant.i know it will happen im on clomid my boys came out alive and then died on my chest thats really hard to get over. but baby dust to you

Hi Laura,<br />
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I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss. I wish I could give you a big hug. I'm sure you've been told this and probably don't want to hear it anymore but you will get pregnant again and your baby will be born happy and healthy. I felt as if it were the end of the world when I lost my baby but 4 months later I was pregnant and my little girl is 2months now. The same will happen for you and although you will never forget your little girl that is no longer here it won't hurt so much as time goes on. If you need a fresh ear to listen I'm always available. My email address is ccomardo@hotmail.com. My phone number at work is 212-908-6227. Good luck.

My name is Laura, I have experienced a loss as well. On January 9th my little treasure joined God in Heaven. I was just about 23 weeks. Friday evening before I lost her I was spotting, which had happened at 12 weeks as well. I went to emerge, they simply told me that It was nothing to worry to much about, they did some urine tests and checked my Beta count and checked her heart beat with the portable ultrasound. The next day when I started to cramp, I returned to emerge, they simply passed it off as a result of the exam from the previous day, then sent me home with instructions to come back on Monday when their woman's health clinic was open (my doc was out of town in conference). Five o'clock Sunday morning I was awaken from my sleep with contractions, my husband rushed to get our one year old up and dresses and called for an ambulance but in a matter of ten minutes and before medical help could come my little girl was born and in the hands of God. This has been on of the hardest things i have lived through but I'm getting through it.

Hi there,<br />
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First, I would just like to say how incredibly sorry I am for your loss and that you had to go through such a traumatic experience. Losing my baby was the worst thing that's ever happened to me but it would have been so much more difficult if I had to see my baby and bury my baby. I would also like to say how angry it makes me that your doctor had no concern for your well being or your baby's well being but was only interested in whether or not you could pay. I'm horrified when I hear things like that. You've been through so much and I can't imagine the pain you must have felt having to bury your baby. Remember that it's all still very new and although it sounds lame time does make things better and clearer. You're afraid now but after a few months when your mind and body have had time to heal you may feel differently. I know when I lost my baby the only thing that made me feel better was the thought of getting pregnant again and having a healthy baby. And i did get pregnant again. I am due in May and so far the baby is doing very well. Believe me, I still have my moments where I worry that someting will go wrong. And every doctor's appointment I go to I'm nervous until I can hear the baby's heartbeat. It's been a very long road and it's not over yet but I'm certain that it was the right thing to do to try again. When you have time to adjust and emotionally heal you will know what decision will be right for you. If you should decide to try again believe me, there's a great chance that you will have a very healthy baby and what happened last time will not happen this time. If you should decide that you don't want to try again that's ok too. You have to do what's right for you. In the meantime if you need a fresh ear to listen I'm always available. I will most definitely keep you in my prayers.

I too had a miscarriage at 22 wks during my 21st wk I was having stomach cramps and couldn't eat so 4 days before I found out what my baby was I scheduled an emergency visit and due to job loss my doctor's office did not accept medicaid I was mishandled by the nurse practioner. Instead of being concerned with my baby the only concern that the np had was how was I going to pay for my visit and when was I going to switch doctor's. I informed the np of my stomach pains and I was told that I was my ligaments stretching and just to watch it. That was on Monday 2-2-09, the rest of the week the pains continued this being my first pregnancy I assumed that everything was still ok and on 2-6-09 my water broke while I was using the restroom and on 2-7-09 @ 1:42am I had my baby. On 2-14-09 I buried my son 2yrs and 2 days after I lost my sister she was 32 when she died on 2-12-07. This was the worse experience ever, I had to stay with my mom during my bedrest time and my nephew who is 3mths was there and everytime he would cry I would think that it was my baby. This affected me emotionally and physically I wouldn't put this on my worse enemy. I'm afraid of doing it again bc I don't know what to expect. I am so sorry for everyone that went through this experience. Well I've talked enough I will keep you all in my prayers for more strength and please do the same for me.

HI my names arlene, i had 2 misscarriges.. I was 22weeks when i lost both baby boys...I no excately what your going through..Its so hard to see other woman pregnant..Its been 7weeks since my misscarriage...One of my close friends just had a baby boy yesterday...I want to be happy 4 her but i am so jealous....Its so hard....I have irregular periods aswell so its much harder to tell if im pregnant or if im just late...it took me 2years to get preg with my 1st and 3years to fall pregnant with my 2nd...To loose both of them is extremely hard....I really want another baby now so fingers crossed im preg...Its been 7weeks and still no period...

I AM SOOOO SORRY FOR UR LOSS. THE SAME THING HAPPENED TO ME JULY 17, 2008 I WAS 5 MONTHS PREGNANT AS WELL. IM STILL DISTRAUGHT OVER DAT SITUATION I NEVER THOUGHT IT WOULD HAPPEN TO ME. I WAS TOLD THE SAME THING ON MY LAST ULTRASOUND WHICH WAS JULY 17 THAT MY BABY HAD NO HEART BEAT N THERE WAS NO ACTIVITY ON THE SCREEN I BROKE OUT IN TEARS I COULDNT BELIEVE IT, IT WAS MY FIRST LITTLE GIRL MY ANGEL . I GAVE BIRTH TO HER ON JULY 18 AT 8:54 AM I WAS SO SAD I LEFT THE HOSPITAL WITHOUT NO BABY IT WAS THE WORST DAY OF MY LIFE. GOD WILL SEND ME ANOTHER ANGEL SOON I BEEN TRYING SINCE AUGUST AND NO BABY BUT IM BELIEVING GOD AND I KNO I WILL B HAPPY AGAIN 1 DAY.

Im so sorry that happened and im also sorry that you still haven't gotten pregnantyet . Im going through same king of problem too, but the pains have left me ,Im now more of my safe than 6 months ago,I am believing God that this month Oct will not pass me by .So have faith in Jesus and believe that another baby will surely come.Babies are gift s from God .God will give you and I good babies in Jesus name Amen.

I'm so sorry for your loss also. Whether it's 5 or 3 months it's still tough. I'm also sorry that you still haven't gotten pregnant yet. That's a fear of mine also. But don't give up hope. My doctor said it's not unusual for a woman to take several months to get pregnant again after a miscarriage. I'm sure it will happen when you least expect it and you'll carry full term and have a healthy baby. Thanks so much for your support. If you need an ear to listen I'm happy to do so anytime.

i am so sorry for your loss:( i too had a miscarriage..although i was only 3 months along. its very hard to go through and takes a long time to feel even a little bit better:( u will get through with time and next time u have carry a healthy baby full term.im still struggaling to get preggo and i miscarried in nov.