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23 Yr Old Step Daughter Having Gastric Bypass Today!!!

I am concerned bc I so don't think she is a good candidate,she had lost approx 25 lbs while living with us about 2 1/2 yrs ago,bc I had the right foods in the house and she ate 4-6 small meals a day. She walked,swam and was doing well,then she went to live with her mom for awhile and she & I both felt she was sabatoghed?? She now has a 18 month old and weighs about 300 lbs,her eating habits are terrible and she never excercises. She was at our home 2 days ago was eating what her son didn't eat (mashed potatoes,beef,gravy,carrots& yorkshire pudding),she was doing it secretly,or trying to. I am concerned that she will not succeed and will just go back to her same habits.She is engaged and her fiance' and her both love to cook and bake. I think she feels this is a quick fix and hates to excersise so I guess I am venting bc I think this is a waste of time and I am concerned for her health.Has anyone else had a child/friend or yourself that has had this done and how did they manage it,and did they fail or succeed? Looking forward to a response?
macey151 macey151 41-45 2 Responses Aug 15, 2011

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I did not have a gastronomical bypass, nor do i know someone that had...however, they wanted me to do one, and i revused. the first time they sugested it i said let me think about it, and when home i did some research...and as above you can see the result; taking food sublements for the rest of your life, a lot of things can go wrong...and i do not have a problem keeping the same weight, i got a problem loosing weight. at least since a year or so, because before that i lost weight just fine..till the docs gave me medication! My food is alright, according to a diatrician. also the balance of how many times i eat and what i eat. <br />
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So i revused a bypass. there is however a good alternative that is relatively save, and is a quite good way if normal diets and sports dont help that much....and thats a adjustable gastric band. Some people get trouble with it, and then its just a matter of a few hours in the hospital to take it out again. <br />
However! you do need to dieet and sport....and as i read thats something your daughter harldy does anymore.<br />
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what i readed about the bypass is a lot of negatives against only one positive; you loose a lot of weight!

I've been good friends with (or in relationships with) several women who had gastric bypass surgery. To be perfectly honest with you? I'd tell *most* people the surgery is a bad idea. For starters, it really messes up a person's ability to digest/process foods properly. One of my ex-g/f's who had it done (at age 21) came fairly close to death because they didn't properly inform her of the need to take vitamin and mineral supplements for the rest of her life. (It probably didn't help matters that the surgery itself was arguably not done in the best fashion, though. If you look it up online, you'll see how surgeons have modified the procedure several times over the years as they discovered complications with their methods.) Without keeping a close eye on things, it's really easy for someone to run into iron or calcium deficiencies, post bypass surgery, though.<br />
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I'm no medical professional so this is just ba<x>sed on personal observation (and a little "common sense") -- but I strongly suspect men tend to have better long-term results with gastric bypass than women do. I think that's because women already tend to have more problems with deficiencies (like calcium) and pregnancies are so demanding on nutrients being available in the body in sufficient quantities too.<br />
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Beyond that? Yeah, gastric bypass actually does provide kind of a "quick fix" for fast weight loss. That's why it's so darn popular and doctors are making so much money off it. What it DOESN'T do is provide a LONG-TERM solution, unless the patient makes serious changes in their diet and lifestyle. The other bad thing about it that's not often emphasized is once you lose so much weight that quickly, you wind up with all sorts of ugly flaps of loose skin. To really fix that part, you have to spend a lot MORE money going under the knife for plastic surgery.<br />
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The "results", long-term, annoy me too. Here's what I mean. Example 1: My 29 year old female friend had it done at a weight of about 310lbs. and height of 5'9". After a year or so, she weighed about 180lbs. 2-3 years later, she's probably around 230lbs. After she had the bypass surgery done, she was basically guilted into going to the gym several times a week, since they emphasized that was "required" for it to be successful. So in her case, I have to ask why it would REALLY have been that tough to just combine some dieting with going to that same gym with the routine she has now, minus the surgery? Pretty sure she'd end up in about the same place, physically-speaking, and NOT have all the side-effects for life that the surgery brought with it.<br />
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Example 2: A 40 year old woman I know got the surgery, and while I don't know her weight just before she had it done, I'd guesstimate she was around 350-400lbs. at 5'3". She lost a *dramatic* amount of weight, looking like a completely different person within 6 months to a year. BUT, 2-3 years later? Because of her eating habits and love of food, she stretched the remaining part of her stomach back out and I'd say she's with 50lbs. of her pre-surgery weight. Only "interesting" thing is that she still has the idea in her head that she's "much thinner" than she used to be. So I guess she got some false positive sense of self-image out of the deal, but not a lot of real effective long-term weight loss.