People grow apart sometimes and it hurts when you realize that....but somewhere in that pain are some very good memories and two beautiful children who are there because of that love. I am sure you would do it the same way than never having to have known that. The best revenge is to live happy and move on despite it. You cannot make someone love you....but you have the capacity to experience true love with someone else if you realize that you did not fail and are not to blame for someone else's actions....give yourself a break....you earned it!