7 Years And Counting

I've been in psychotherapy for the past 7 years, I'm also a therapist myself. Two main reasons to begin psychotherapy were: 1. I was a psych student, therefore, I have to know myself, I have to work on myself, and I have to have the proper tools to be able to walk down my own hell; specially if my job is helping others to walk down theirs.
2. My love life sucked. badly. it was failure after failure. Miserable... And hey, I'm single but my life is love-life-drama- free and well, there's been lots of pluses after therapy. :)

My therapist is ... awesome. He's view is transpersonal jungian psychology, and he also has a degree on traditional chinese medicine..the combination of those two subjects allows for many cool stuff to do and read and learn. I reckon he has been a great influence on my psychology career as well.

Before him, I had only met cognitive therapists which I (as a patient) happen to tremendously dislike; so when I met my actual therapist it was all SO refreshing. It was AWESOME not to feel labeled, not feel judged, not to feel like he was about to start writing the next "wrong" thing that I said, tought, did...

He laughed at me plenty times...I could go to therapy with this huge crisis and he would laugh, I'd get pissed, hell, I thought he was a jerk... and then, only then, I finally understood that a sense of humor is too important in life. I learned to laugh at irony, the absurdity of life circumstances, the way life kicks our ***** when we are completely convinced that we finally manage to overcome something... and I can only say I'm proud of having him as a therapist. It's been 7 years of crazy, ups, downs, crying, laughter, fighting, arguing, learning, unconditional regards, love, trust, faith... and I'm sure much more which cannot be described by words.

I hope as well that I can deliver all of the above to my actual and future patients AND friends. I can only hope I can give them love, unconditional regards, trust and the proper relationship so they can keep growing emotionally and spiritually.
paigemarshall23 paigemarshall23
26-30, F
3 Responses Feb 9, 2013

Do you also study the ways in which people are harmed in therapy? What are your methodologies for trying to avoid hurting people?

I have an assessment today @ 1230 to see if I'm a good candidate for an intensive outpatient program for my BPD & I've tried so long to handle things on my own and finally reading so much about the disorder and treatments, there's not much I can effectively do without the help of a professional

Well, I do go to therapy, just not with a cognitive therapist. As I mentioned on my post, mine has a humanistic transpersonal approach, which is the same I work with, with my patients. But please, don't let my experience cloud yours. Go to your session, see if you like it, see if you connect with the new therapist. Cognitive therapy works for some people; it just didn't work for me. Finding a good therapist one feels comfortable with is difficult, it takes a few times around... If however, you'd like to try something else, let me know (private mssage) where you live and I can look for some APA therapists that have a different approach. I know a few and I have given some contacts to people here in case they wanted to try something different.

why didn't you like cognitive therapists?

They experiences I had with them was feeling labeled and feeling constantly judged by what I said or did. I felt they were always trying to fit a diagnosis into whatever experiences I talked about and I just don't share that perspective; not as a person and not as a therapist. I respect the work they do, and some of the stuff they have given to psychology; but that world view and theory just doesn't fit properly with me.