Herpes a Part of My Life Forever


I was diagnosed with herpes in April 2008. I had blisters on two previous occasions and my doctor said it just looked like in grown hairs. On the third outbreak I went back and told him I wanted to do a herpes test. It came back Positive. I was shocked but instantly I told myself that the best way to deal with it was to be positive and admitting to myself that I already have the disease and there is no cure. The only persons that know I have the disease is my doctor, my partner and myself. My partner does not have the disease but he loves me and decided to stay with me. We have been together since August 2006. We were together because I knew I had the virus but luckily he did not catch it. As soon as we found out he got a test done and we taking precautions to reduce his rick of contracting it. I don't tell anyone else that I have herpes because of the stigma surrounding herpes. I don't trust my friends enought to tell them and although I love and trust my family I believe that they would see me as a disappointment. On many days I hear people at work, at school and in my community share their knowledge about herpes and it is always negative. I sometimes share my views positively and negatively. When I share it negatively knowing I have herpes I wonder if those other persons I am talking with has the disease......laughs......its just funny because I can say I don't have the virus to people when I know I have it so it makes me wonder that they could be lying as I am. In my country Jamaica, having a disease is a disgrace. People will talk about you, disgrace you and hurt your feelings to the point where you are ashamed to walk in public and for this reason i will keep this secret as long as I can. I am a very happy person. I don't allow herpes to get in the way of my life. I thank God for my partner who supports me 100%. Living with herpes is not so bad after all. I live a normal life as anybody.

Emmee Emmee
22-25, F
4 Responses Feb 22, 2009

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Wow, I'm sorry people aren't more understanding. the most important point you made was that your partner knows. I wouldn't stress about anyone else. It's not like you run around in a t-shirt telling the world. <br />
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It is awesome that you are not letting it stop you from doing the things you want to do!

Actually, unless your family is made of total dicks, they wont see you as a disapointment at all...my family was the first people I told. I was with a guy who cheated on me. and it was also the first man I had ever been with sexually. I was 22 when I first had sex because I was so afraid of catching an std...and I cought one anyway...so no. anyone who thinks you would be a disappointment ain't even worth ya time. Sounds like Jamaica is very backward..and I live in the southern US! So that's pretty bad...lmao! I'm sure there are plenty of folks there who have it. At least you have someone who understands you and loves you anyway...Here, it's almost impossible for me to find a mate..they all want sex on the first date! And I can't do that, not without telling them straight away that I have herpes! So, I've been single for a very long time.....

Thank you for sharing your story. Alot of STIs like herpes are a real taboo to discuss in a lot of cultures - unfortunatly that sort of avoidance contributes to the spread to infections and diseases as people are ignorant about how to protect themselves.<br />
Im glad your partner has stood by you and wish you both all the best of luck for the future :)