She's More Of A Friend - And Not A Very Good One*sighs* I had a birthday recently. I had to call my mother about some upcoming plans. Called her on my birthday.
She did not tell me "Happy Birthday."
I called her again later to discuss some things, again, nothing.
I called her the day after my birthday. She answered the phone, "Oh Hi, Happy Birthday! I realized last night that I talked to you twice and never said Happy Birthday!"
"I know," I said.
"Oh, are you mad at me?" she said.
"No, it's just a birthday....not a big deal" I said.
And really, it's not a big deal.
But on the other hand, she gave birth to me. She can't even remember to say Happy Birthday?
In the world of mommy issues, mine aren't that big. My mom is fun, smart, easy to talk to about many things. She gave me a good childhood, a good life.
But she's just not a very good mom. I want a mom. Always have. Someone who will just take care of things without being asked or needing a whole lot of fanfare. A mom who wants to be a good grandmother. Wants to have the grand kids, be a part of their lives.
I realize it's just not who she is. I sometimes wonder if my expectations are unfair to her.
But really, I don't think it's too much to hope for your own mother to remember to tell you Happy Birthday.