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Too Early For The Drama....

I have posted once before that my mother wasn't talking to me until her birthday came around. Now the friday before her birthday came she had called me but I was in clinical (im in nursing school) so I wasn't able to answer the phone. She left me a msg talking about she tried of trying to contact me and that she was just gonna stop calling...so I called her back and told her that I was at clinical so I couldn't answer. My cousin's birthday dinner was that same weekend so of course she was there and at first she acted like she didn't want to speak. That sunday she called me and we talked for a few minutes. The 13th was her birthday and she was mad because I didn't call her first thing in the morning to tell her happy bday. Once again she leaving msgs saying that I should be calling her cause its her bday....funny thing is I did call and she didn't answer her phone. So when I talked to her later on that same day...I told her I had just came from the movies with my husband and she said ok and she hung up. Now this morning she calls my phone at 7 in the morning talking about Im changing and Im out shopping and going to the movies and how her co-workers asked her "so what did your daughter get you for your bday?" And she like she didn't get me anything, but that's ok. So I called her back and I really let her have it. I told her first of all how can I go shopping and Im in school and I work prn (as needed) and if I do go to the movies with my husband that is my business.And that Im sick of her telling me Im selfish like my grandmother (my fathers mom) but yet when she needs a favor she calls her. I also told her that just a week before her birthday she said she wasn't calling me anymore and now because her bday is coming up she wants to be friends because she wants a gift...she worried about what her co-workers think and they don't even know the whole story. I told her she needs to cut the crap.
reene198321 reene198321 26-30, F 5 Responses Nov 16, 2011

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WE HAVE SOOOO MUCH IN COMMON CHICK SECOND POST I SEEN I CAN DEFINITELY RELATE TO BUT OK Y IS SHE SAYING U DONT ANSWER N THIS &THAT BUT WHEN U DID RETURN HER CALL SHE DOESNT ANSWER DATS CRAZY &HOW R U CHANGING BECUZ U R GOING SHOPPIN OR GOING2 THE MOVIES WIT YOUR HUBBY..OH WOW REALLY DATS JUST ENJOYING YOUR LIFE!!! HAVE U SPOKEN TO YOUR MOM AFTER HER BDAY? CUZ ITS WEIRD THAT SHE SUDDENLY CALLS AROUND HER BDAY!

Hmmmm.....funny way to show your love. Not buying that one!

Yes....my mother wouldn't let us three kids have an opinion either and completely dominated the entire family, my father included. I married and moved out at 20 years but I was 46 years before I could speak to people because of my traumatic and violent childhood. When the phone rang I wouldn't answer it because I would be terrified it would be her and I'd have to listen to hours of ranting and 'poor me' stories. It never occurred to me to just simply hang up, probably because of the complete brainwashing I'd had. Plus, I'd never hear the end of it. We didn't have Caller-I.D. back then. Once it was coming up to Mother's Day and as usual she'd scream at me ".....and if you think that giving me a gift on Mother's Day will make it alright, you're mistaken".....(I think I'd put the soap in the wrong place on the handbasin that day). So come Mother's Day I didn't give her the beautiful brooch and card I'd bought out of my wages....I'd spent hours reading all the cards in the shop too, trying to find one that didn't say "I love you Mom", or something equally sentimental, because I was always frightened of my mother's violence and hair-trigger rages. I wasn't earning enough to leave home, so I just stayed out of her way. She'd hold the carving knife to my throat as well while screaming into my face, so now I have a 'thing' about knives. Thanks, Mum. Yes.....Mothers! The only show in town when you're small and/or dependant. They can have a big positive or an even bigger negative effect on a person's life.

My mom is the same way as soon as you don't agree with her she says that you are "disrespecting" her....I used to try to apologize but after a while I realized that I wasn't doing anything wrong! And your right parents can have a negative or positive effect on their children..and honestly that why I don't want any. You should just stand up to her and let her know how you feel

Wow, and I thought MY Mother was cuckoo..

Lol... we could probably take a whole day and then some swapping stories!

I am so sorry for all youve been going threw , ive been threw the same kind of thing, my mother only thought about her self .

Thank you lunnas