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Putting His Dirty Clothes Inside The Hamper

     We have a hamper for our dirty clothes in our room.  Would you believe it! That instead of throwing his garments in the hamper, he leaves them on top of the bed, the floor, or even on top of the dressers.  I yell and scream until I turn blue and noting changes.  I pick up after him and sometimes I even leave the clothes on a ball.  Day one passes by and the clothes is still on the floor.  Day two comes by and the ball is still waiting to be picked up.  Finally, day three begins and I tell my husband, "Aren't you going to pick up your clothes"? His reply would be Oh! So, that's why it's there.  I thought it was because you wanted to let it grow for a full load.  I stared him in the eyes with my evil dirty look.  He just smiles which causes me to blow! And I tell him, Yeah! Right! Since when do I wash dark, and white clothes together.  He tells me never. I'll pick them up for sure tomorrow, which he never does. Man I get so upset I start throwing clothes all over the place and all he does is walk away calling me a crazy woman.   

mytruthonanysubject mytruthonanysubject 31-35, F 10 Responses Sep 13, 2010

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Is the hamper anywhere near where he undresses?

The floor anywhere on the floor is his hamper. The hamper is in the wash room where I have to throw my clothes as well.

That's why. If you put a basket/hamper somewhere along his path of destruction, one with an open lid, in arm's length of where he undresses, he'll have no excuse. He probably never goes in the wash room unless he passes through it into another room. So he never connects the two in his mind.

Its a man thing we are just hard to train. ; )

Good excuse but, not good enough in my book. Lazy is a better answer.

You are right! I did realized after reading many comments people make that mine was insignificant. This is why I stopped mentioning the dirty laundry in my home. Somthing else this is not only one problem that exist but, many. Needless to say that we do love each other as I mention in the answers I provide. One thing though I stopped picking up after him, and things only got worst. The difference is that I don't argue, get annoyed, or complain about the mess. He is an adult and he needs to be responsible for his mess. I take of the house duties such as cleaning, washing dishes, doing laundry, and others. I only need some of his participation, so I ask him to hlep and if he doesn't it stays where I left it. I put my stuff away to avoid the tiffs, if he leaves in the basket after two hours. His things can stay since it's not important enough to put away. There are many situations that are done this way. He leaves what he uses where he's at. Some people have it worst but, to me in my marriage since I am blessed that he isn't an abuser, or others. I expected assistace in the house from him as we had agreed upon when we got married. People change sometimes not for the best, but for the worst. For me it's a bad problem not worst, but pretty bad in my eyes. I'm still hoping for change, he tells me that he will when he retires he'll have all the time in the world. I just laugh! Right!

What is important as in my world. Is that my spouse has been cleaning a little after himself. Somehow, tellining him how it annoys me and that I am talking about it to strangers has made a difference. He gets upset that I am throwing out the laundry to people. I tell him it is important and affecting me enough that I have to talk about it. Since, he isn't listening. He has been helping out more. I wrote this comment almost two years ago. Changes do happen if two people work at it. Thank God! There is a window for change. Keep communicating with your spouse; great things will happen. Peace, Love, and God Bless.

I think you may be to easily annoyed with your spouse-try taking answers u give to others and apply them to YOUR life,,,,, MY questions reply by u says more or less there are many people worse off than me. To be honest I dont believe in self pity but u aint got a clue about domestic problems - or u wouldnt be telling others about his dirty clothes! it pales in comparison to most peoples stories ive read........ Maybe it is YOU who should be counting her blessings

I am still working on it. But, I know that patience will win in this case for his advantage.

OMG MY BF DOES THT TOOO I DRIVES ME INSANE HE DID IT BEFORE WE MOVED OUT TOGETHER!!!! I AM IN EXACTLY YOUR SHOES!! HE SAYS ILL PICK IT UP RIGHT NOW....SO I PUT IT IN THE MOST INCONVIENIENT PLACES I CAN THINK OF FOR HIM AND HE ENDS UP PUTTHING IT IN THE DIRTY CLOTHES...IF I CATCH HIM IN THE ACT I CORRECT IT ...I SAY YOU AINT THE ONE ALWAYS CLEANING I SUGGEST YOU TURN AROUND PICK THAT UP AND PUT IT AWAY IT ENDS UP IN AN ARGUMENT AT TIMES BUT HE GETS OVER IT...EVEN IF I ASK HIM NICELY HE DOESNT GET IT....SLOWLY BUT SURELY HES GETTING BETTER AT IT SINCE WE MOVED IN TOGETHER (BUT ITS BEEN SEVEN MONTHS SO FAR).....I TRIED THE IF ITS NOT IN THE HAMPER ITS NOT BEING WASHED AND HE IS LEARNING THE HARD WAY, BUT GETTING BETTER...I WISH U LUCK GIRLY

Sixteen years and still waiting to get results. Glad to hear from you too!

hmmm...is he into basketball? Maybe get him one of those with a hoop over it that they make for little kids? At about our 27th year of marriage, my husband began to realize that he needed to do a better job of picking up after himself...so - there is hope? haha

I've been married to my man for fourteen years. And to this date I still have to ask Please ! put your dirthy closthes in the hamper. He throws it in another room, under the bed. That's another story I'll add on another day.

Yes, he does but, so do I. Don't you think a man should at least clean up after himself or is it just being lazy.

does he fill your gastank?does he pay the rent/mortgage?does he buy the food,did he buy your clothes<br />
??

Yes! What does that have anything to do with picking up his clothes. I do alot too! Good to hear from you. You are my first and you are the best. Sorry to have resonded so late in time. Thanks