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But Seriously.... What Exactly Is Kinky??

Sure, I have lots of fantasies...  some I can't even find **** online to match up with!   Does that make them kinky because others haven't come up with the idea yet? (at least publicly that I can find?) Most of my fantasies are things I'd never really want to try in "real life" is that what makes them kinky?  Some of the things would even be too embarrassing to share with another person because they are not "morally acceptable"- is that what makes something kinky??   But honestly, in my opinion, I don't really think ANYTHING is kinky if it's agreeable by both/all parties involved or just remains a fantasy in your head.....

Can someone please define "kinky" for me? 
Creamsicle Creamsicle 41-45, F 69 Responses Mar 12, 2011

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Id say a word to describe kinky is taboo. But thats just my opinion. Everyone has different likes/dislikes and they have different boundaries to but as long as its fun for the both of u then i think its all good.

Fantasies that you can't find ****. Wow

Kinky is pretty much what you want it to be - one persons debauched kink would be another persons boring normal.
As long as it's consensual just go for it and have fun with him/her/other.....
You sound fun and just remember that most people have a secret desire to break whatever bounds they've set for themselves.
Love to compare our depravities...:))))))

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I think that kinky is what some other people are not willing to do or enjoy.

I like the saying, "It's only kinky the first time".

Kinky is what is not "normal" But event that is hard to define. One persons kink could be another persons normal. As long as all involved agree, enjoy it !
Would love to her what some of your kinky/fantasies are. PM me if you want to share ;)

I like feet. Is that kinky and if so can I have yours?

I wouldn't consider that kinky... and I need my feet for walking. lol

I promise to return them

I agree

Well it is like this. Imagine a warm spring day, the sun is shining bright and feels warm on your skin. You are standing outside when the urge strikes you. You go get the garden hose and turn it on, you wander out into the garden with anticipation. You find a good spot, yes this is the place. You squeeze the nozzle and nothing, no water at all. I guarantee the hose has a kinky in it, you need to fix that before you can water the flowers

It's only kinky the first time, after that it's normal lol, just enjoy everything you want to try, there's always someone somewhere who wants to try the same things you do.

Kinky is when you are getting it right! 'Straight' sex is of course lovely but deviance for pleasure takes it to another horny level!

I'm with you on this one, Creamsicle. ;)

I think "kinky" in the sexual sense is something that simply is not the social or societal "norm" - with varying degrees of extreme.<br />
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For example... Having sex in a public place, in front of other people, could be considered kinky - just as much as a discrete sexual act in public (maybe like, ************ in a restroom stall).<br />
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As for a personal fetish interest... I think whatever arouses you can be exciting - kinky or not. I think the only barometer needed is to consider if anyone may be hurt (physically or emotionally) by the experience...and if it's legal ;)<br />
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Hope whatever it is that you are considering turns out satisfying :)

For my friends and I, we all have differing degrees of what we feel is kinky, naughty, nasty, disgusting, etc. Some of the things I view as kinky they do not. Ex. I always kid my sis about being kinky and "out there." She shared a few of her kinky ideas with a couple and after they shared she came to me informing me that she was clearly NOT kinky. They were into scat and the what not, I had never even heard of that and once looking it up determined, kinky for some, disgusting for others, normal for that couple . We each have our own individual scale for how we measure what is kinky.

Also I agree there is a limit of sexy pics online I'd like to show my husband. I am unable to find what I am interested in doing.

kink is kind of a buzzword, how about we talk science, and use the term fetishes. As for your husband, life is too short to be conservative, but maybe he has some preconceived notions about kink, or maybe he secretly wants to dress up in sexy lingerie and and be used by several men like a fu@k toy. Point is, like somebody above me said kink is relative to your own set of beliefs, and pushing your own boundaries of what's "right, wrong, moral, or immoral". Personally I am not one bit into BDSM, but there's a thriving community and culture in most places, get what I'm saying, you might be into anal *******, and that's your "kinky" activity, but for some that me be their normal sex life.

lall depends what you think is
taboo,family sex family fololing around,animals,dogs cats,bondage,spanking
i have try alot in my time

What I’m curious about is what are the fantasies related to the videos you can’t find online...

There is no 1 definition to kinky, what is to me may not be for another. You talk about moral acceptance, is that by you and the mind frame you were brought up to believe or morals of others on you?

Kinky is just anything out-of-the-ordinary, sexually speaking. It can be bondage. It can be using Redi-Whip as a sex toy. It can be spanking. It can be almost anything.
But you have piqued my curiosity! Just what ARE your kinks?

My husband ironed out all my kinks. None left anymore - he doesn't like kink.

Too bad... kinks are fun!

Share that...

everlast kinky = out of the ordinary?no way.... again the definition or limit of what is ordinary is different for each

So how would YOU define "kinky", HedoZen?

Kinky or its different levels are different for each. During sex, 1 bite another’s skin for his excitement or tries strangling while the one being bitten declared that was pure violence.

I call myself kinky by my stories writings, on how I give BJ’s, the way I moan when really excited or even the man who I did a Tandem parachute jump with I *********** during our jump. Another may say I’m totally sick...so I say it is for Creamsicle and her mind or imagination limits to identify what is kinky to her and her mate

When I said "out of the ordinary", HedoZen, I meant relative to the mainstream. I think we are saying pretty much the same thing, just in a different way. Most of us have our kinks, and what is kinky to US is a very individual thing!

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Just remember this... it's only "kinky" the first time! After that, it's just more of the same...

Kinky is simply anything sexual out of the ordinary that OTHER people do.

to me it is doen your wildest dreams no mater what it may be

Its anything out of the ordinary, which in my mind is different for everyone. And dont be afraid to share your kinky fantasies cause by doing so it only holds back your sex life from its true potential!

It is rare in real/world to find a woman who will admit to even having fantasies.Online more are braver,simply because of the annonimity.It is only kinky in anothers eyes,not your own.Morally acceptable to whom?We all draw our own line in the sand,dont we?If you find your fantasies to embarrassing to share with your s/o,do you know for a fact he/she wont be into it.Or you making the call cos you think he might call you KINKY........lol.........fantasies are in the mind the best sex tool we have,dont be afraid to explore it.............role/playing them out is a buzz to

Kinky to some is normal to others . It's anything that you personally consider on the edge.

Yeah, now I wan to know what they are. I'll tell you mine!

Something tells me you have the kinky part covered, the question is are you going to share??

Steven

Kinky is something out of the normal for anyone, so it depends. Taboo is a different area.

define what is normal?

Normal depends on the person or persons, having sex while naked could be un-normal for someone.

wish I knew up i'm just starting out sexually and i really don't have an idea to be honest...I would like to find out though...some of the stories I have read here seem to me to be what you would call kinky...i'm learning I guess.

I would say "kinky" is anything considered outside the normal sexual practice of the society or group you are in. Usually it involves activities or positions that your run of the mill couple doesn't try during a boring old **** session. A lot of times it likely involves the use of toys or objects or locations that are unusual. Likely, the definition varies a lot between people. What you think is normal may be the ultimate kink to someone else.

I'm agree with you. i thought the same.

This is a great thing to bring up. It made me very curious as what it was you liked. I am very open anyway, so I would like to hear what you thought about. I would share some too along the same definition as you posted.

Creamsicle - We can all define our own version of kinky, but you are the only one who can define it for you. Why don't you be brave and take on the challenge of teasing out your own inner thoughts and shock yourself by actually sharing your own ideas on kinky?

KINKY mmmmmmmmmmmmm other than avarage normal mainstream i guess

When I think kinky, I think of something that the average Open Bi-sexual guy/girl, wouldn't openly admit to doing or wanting, but I am Bi.<br />
I suppose it would be different for everyone depending on your experiences, religious beliefs, family background and so on. <br />
I guess a more broad definition of kinky if I were writing the dictionary would be, a sexual act or desire that you would never consider bringing up over drinks at your favorite bar with your best friends.

In the 1500's and 1600's people in Europe were sick and tired of this rule or that moral and ran all the puritans off to America. It was not until the 1800's when England was trying to express its cultural dominance over its "savage" colonies buy reinventing the uptight moral codes which brought about the Victorian era. Roughly 100 years later we are now in the modern day. If it were not for the Victorian era, we would not have had Marquise De Sade among others, and most of your "Perverted Kinkiness" would be the cultural norm.

'Kinky' is a lot like 'Normal', it's an ideal set up by the prevailing culture to out line what is desired and undesired. Whereas 'Normal' is an unrealistic ideal of perfection for that culture 'Kinky' is the term given to out lying desires of (seemingly) the minority of the population. It's just another form of cultural control. Many cannot get over the fact that something is not culturally acceptable so they call their discomfort 'revulsion' to give it a moral guise and reinforcing cultural beliefs. But as is the case with a lot of kinksters being outside the bounds of acceptance gives it a greater thrill.

You are completely correct - kink is whatever is in your mind, whatever gets you off... in My opinion what makes something kink/kinky is exactly what you said - something that you have thought of which you cannot seem to find others thinking, something that is so exclusively perverted that it is outside of the common erotica.

Kinky definition - something that excites you - there is nothing that could not be construed as kinky. Why, why, do people have to label everything. Society call people homosexuals, lesbians, cripples, four-eyes, always hurtful labels. We are human beings, here to experience and enjoy, and I am not a bible puncher. I have been fortunate in having a Mum who understood that what I did wasn't 'kinky' but a way of showing the only emotion wirth openly displaying, love. Beling able to see my Mum and her friends on the toilet made me love them all the more. I love your definition of kiny best of all because what you are saying deep down is that you love people, you love things that some don't - perfectly normal and natural. I ********** every day, I go to the ladies toilet every day and always hope to listen and sometimes [special treat] see a lady on the toilet. I love to be at work and go to the ladies with my secretary, we have a wonderful happy, loving relationship. Before you ask, she is married and has four lovely children, she is just a loving person I appreciate for her talents at work, for her love and affection for me, for the way she would never label anybody 'kinky.' Steffi x

The old joke is, kinky is when you us a feather.Pervert is when you use the whole chicken.

Nothing is kinky if we all enjoy them. It's kinky if you want and can't get.

If you figure it out let me know because I feel the same as you do.

Kinky is just something different from what some one else might do.

I think nothing is kinky. I would love to speak with you call collect 4168362427. If we are close I would love to rape you!

Kinky is me, I am straight, but have a lot of fantasies all the time about two girls getting it on, yes kinky is in the eyes of the dreamer

Its only kinky the first time next time its fun!! Would love to hear what's on your mind if you want to tell i am really open minded and will probably have some of the same thoughts!!

Not sure who said it first, but "that which arouses ME is 'erotic'. That which arouses someone else and NOT me, is 'kinky'."

Some would say that loving a very fat man is kinky. I just know it's right!

Why should you let others determine what is best or right for you. You don't have to tell the world what you are doing and have their approval. You should think only of your own wants and needs, it's nobody elses business. If you have a fantasy, look around. You can always find someone who will help you live it out and you would probably be very satisfied and pleased with yourself. You would probably be amaised at how many people out there feel just like you do and would give anything for the chance to fulfill fantasies if only they had a chance. I carried out some of the fantasies I had had for a long time and they were fantastic! Maybe you and I could talk about it?

Kinky is the difference between the feather and the chicken.

Creamsicle, you think women's kinky fantasies or fetishes are different than those of men. Once I brought up a "so called" kinky fantasy and it was like no one had ever heard of it. So I said to my self, oh well I like it and so I would continue to fantasize. So you are right.. I'll keep mine to myself and not be embarrassed by mentioning in public.

kinky = interesting and fun !

I find that sex toons/ comics/ drawings can get close because there are no rules or laws in la-la -land. Just don't put anything you fantasise about on paper. Find a group you can fantasise with. Don't inhibit your ideas... don't hurt anyone. Let yourself go. To la-la-land...

This according to the Oxford English Dictionary: Kinky 1. a. given to or involving abnormal sexual behaviour. <br />
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b. (of clothing etc.) bizarre in a sexually provocative way. 2. strange, eccentric. 3. having kinks or twists.<br />
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I really like kink, and I like the 'idea' of kink. I disagree that consensual kinky sex negates kink and somehow makes it 'normal'. For instance I too wear knickers (panties) 24/7 (mildly kinky) and my girlfriend and I like peeing on each other, spanking, being creative with my **** and nipple piercings, and other lovely kinky (deviant) highly pleasurable activities...

I think Kinky is just often times fun fantasies. I have alot of fantasies that I'd never really actually do. But I'd consider them kinky. Having a woman take off her top and tell me to ********** while I look at her boobies. There.... I said one. LOL

i would love to flash our panties at each other. i am a guy and wear them 24-7 mostly see through.would love you to add me thanks

i too have some very taboo fantasies, won't comment in fear of being in some sort of trouble, some involving young etc...

LOL -convince me, BIGM!

whisper it in my ear, I'm MUCH more pervy than you are, I'll tell you where to find the right ****!

Kinky is what we'd like to do or try but are so afraid of being found out. besides one person's kink maybe some elses matter of fact.<br />
Want to know about repression, ask a ***.

It's only kinky............... the first time...............

i love that line!

Sexy is using a chicken feather during sex. Kinky is using the whole live chicken.

If you're not using the whole thing, you're just wasting it.

Fantasies are useless if you're not going to share them or intend to act them out!

I keep telling my wife...."It is only kinky the FIRST time! After that...." Does not seem to work.....DAMN!

Yep, the wanking is still fun, the kink needs to be renewed !

i am a guy and wear panties 24/7 it feals fantastic and i often get off walking around stores from them going against my equipment. if thats kinky i guess i love kink

I'd say kinky is just what you said it is... something that you wouldn't share with others.

If you start of with the laws and morals of Puritans in mind, then a woman showing her knees is blasphemy.<br />
If you go along with the Marquis Donatien Alphonse Francois deSade, then chopping delicious looking women to pieces is peanuts.<br />
Somewhere in-between are me and you and a whole bunch of others, each with their own morals and standards.<br />
I say that whatever I like will never be kinky. The same goes for you and what you like and for every civilized human out there and what they like.<br />
The only ones who fall off this wagon are the hypocrites. They're the ones who invented kink in the first place, just like they invented blasphemy...

kinky is different for different people