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But Seriously.... What Exactly Is Kinky??

Sure, I have lots of fantasies...  some I can't even find **** online to match up with!   Does that make them kinky because others haven't come up with the idea yet? (at least publicly that I can find?) Most of my fantasies are things I'd never really want to try in "real life" is that what makes them kinky?  Some of the things would even be too embarrassing to share with another person because they are not "morally acceptable"- is that what makes something kinky??   But honestly, in my opinion, I don't really think ANYTHING is kinky if it's agreeable by both/all parties involved or just remains a fantasy in your head.....

Can someone please define "kinky" for me? 
Creamsicle Creamsicle 41-45, F 78 Responses Mar 12, 2011

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Kinky is pretty much what you want it to be - one persons debauched kink would be another persons boring normal.
As long as it's consensual just go for it and have fun with him/her/other.....
You sound fun and just remember that most people have a secret desire to break whatever bounds they've set for themselves.
Love to compare our depravities...:))))))

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I think that kinky is what some other people are not willing to do or enjoy.

I like the saying, "It's only kinky the first time".

nothing is kinky if both of you want to try it i would love to hear some of your kinky ideas as i love kinky

Kinky is what is not "normal" But event that is hard to define. One persons kink could be another persons normal. As long as all involved agree, enjoy it !
Would love to her what some of your kinky/fantasies are. PM me if you want to share ;)

Its all up to your needs anf wants

I think in this day and age "kinky" is an out dated term. There was a time when Lingerie was kinky... oral sex... anal sex... now these things are just normal.

I like feet. Is that kinky and if so can I have yours?

I wouldn't consider that kinky... and I need my feet for walking. lol

I promise to return them

I agree

The only difference between kinky and perverted is one uses a feather and the other uses the whole bird. LOL

Well it is like this. Imagine a warm spring day, the sun is shining bright and feels warm on your skin. You are standing outside when the urge strikes you. You go get the garden hose and turn it on, you wander out into the garden with anticipation. You find a good spot, yes this is the place. You squeeze the nozzle and nothing, no water at all. I guarantee the hose has a kinky in it, you need to fix that before you can water the flowers

It's only kinky the first time, after that it's normal lol, just enjoy everything you want to try, there's always someone somewhere who wants to try the same things you do.

Kinky is when you are getting it right! 'Straight' sex is of course lovely but deviance for pleasure takes it to another horny level!

I hear you all the way on this one.

I'm with you on this one, Creamsicle. ;)

I think "kinky" in the sexual sense is something that simply is not the social or societal "norm" - with varying degrees of extreme.<br />
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For example... Having sex in a public place, in front of other people, could be considered kinky - just as much as a discrete sexual act in public (maybe like, ************ in a restroom stall).<br />
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As for a personal fetish interest... I think whatever arouses you can be exciting - kinky or not. I think the only barometer needed is to consider if anyone may be hurt (physically or emotionally) by the experience...and if it's legal ;)<br />
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Hope whatever it is that you are considering turns out satisfying :)

For my friends and I, we all have differing degrees of what we feel is kinky, naughty, nasty, disgusting, etc. Some of the things I view as kinky they do not. Ex. I always kid my sis about being kinky and "out there." She shared a few of her kinky ideas with a couple and after they shared she came to me informing me that she was clearly NOT kinky. They were into scat and the what not, I had never even heard of that and once looking it up determined, kinky for some, disgusting for others, normal for that couple . We each have our own individual scale for how we measure what is kinky.

Also I agree there is a limit of sexy pics online I'd like to show my husband. I am unable to find what I am interested in doing.

kink is kind of a buzzword, how about we talk science, and use the term fetishes. As for your husband, life is too short to be conservative, but maybe he has some preconceived notions about kink, or maybe he secretly wants to dress up in sexy lingerie and and be used by several men like a fu@k toy. Point is, like somebody above me said kink is relative to your own set of beliefs, and pushing your own boundaries of what's "right, wrong, moral, or immoral". Personally I am not one bit into BDSM, but there's a thriving community and culture in most places, get what I'm saying, you might be into anal *******, and that's your "kinky" activity, but for some that me be their normal sex life.

lall depends what you think is
taboo,family sex family fololing around,animals,dogs cats,bondage,spanking
i have try alot in my time

What I’m curious about is what are the fantasies related to the videos you can’t find online...

There is no 1 definition to kinky, what is to me may not be for another. You talk about moral acceptance, is that by you and the mind frame you were brought up to believe or morals of others on you?

Kinky is just anything out-of-the-ordinary, sexually speaking. It can be bondage. It can be using Redi-Whip as a sex toy. It can be spanking. It can be almost anything.
But you have piqued my curiosity! Just what ARE your kinks?

My husband ironed out all my kinks. None left anymore - he doesn't like kink.

Too bad... kinks are fun!

Share that...

everlast kinky = out of the ordinary?no way.... again the definition or limit of what is ordinary is different for each

So how would YOU define "kinky", HedoZen?

Kinky or its different levels are different for each. During sex, 1 bite another’s skin for his excitement or tries strangling while the one being bitten declared that was pure violence.

I call myself kinky by my stories writings, on how I give BJ’s, the way I moan when really excited or even the man who I did a Tandem parachute jump with I *********** during our jump. Another may say I’m totally sick...so I say it is for Creamsicle and her mind or imagination limits to identify what is kinky to her and her mate

When I said "out of the ordinary", HedoZen, I meant relative to the mainstream. I think we are saying pretty much the same thing, just in a different way. Most of us have our kinks, and what is kinky to US is a very individual thing!

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Just remember this... it's only "kinky" the first time! After that, it's just more of the same...

Kinky is simply anything sexual out of the ordinary that OTHER people do.

to me it is doen your wildest dreams no mater what it may be

Its anything out of the ordinary, which in my mind is different for everyone. And dont be afraid to share your kinky fantasies cause by doing so it only holds back your sex life from its true potential!

It is rare in real/world to find a woman who will admit to even having fantasies.Online more are braver,simply because of the annonimity.It is only kinky in anothers eyes,not your own.Morally acceptable to whom?We all draw our own line in the sand,dont we?If you find your fantasies to embarrassing to share with your s/o,do you know for a fact he/she wont be into it.Or you making the call cos you think he might call you KINKY........lol.........fantasies are in the mind the best sex tool we have,dont be afraid to explore it.............role/playing them out is a buzz to

Kinky to me is sharing those thougths , fanaties. But like you i have to find that someone to share those with..My wife doesnt even know some , simply because she claims she has no fanaties .

Kinky to some is normal to others . It's anything that you personally consider on the edge.

Yeah, now I wan to know what they are. I'll tell you mine!