Not All People...

For the most part I have found that people suck. If you allow them into your life they stab you in the back. They pretend to be your friend yet seek to destroy you if gain is possible. They are greedy, lying, dishonorable bastards and ******* and it is truly difficult to find a reason to like most of them. I prefer animals because you know where you stand. Even rattlesnakes are safer than humans because you know without doubt the bastard is gonna bite you the first chance it gets. Even family members will **** you the first chance they have of reaping benefit and those who say I love you (like a brother or sister) are usually the worst of all because you tend to think you can trust them but ... that is so untrue. They will think nothing of stabbing you at the drop of a hat.

Jesus says I have to forgive. He commands me to love my neighbor as myself. That's easy because I have never loved myself; forgiving is the tough part. The good thing is He doesn't command me to forget, that would be impossible. To error is human, forgiveness divine; neither is Marine Corps policy.

This is difficult for most people to admit to themselves - there is an inherent evil in humans. Once you honestly realize this, life improves all round. History is loaded with incidents and examples of the destructive nature of the human animal. The idea that there is "a plan" and that evthing happens for a (good?) reason is fecal in its reasoning. People are also capable of actions that are sublime. Yeats: "Beauty is the beginning of terror." He refers to the polarity - the rose and the hangman's noose coexist, always side by side. Eating animals is not helpful. Humans who choose to do so would be better served to eat each other and allow allow all sentient beings to enjoy the earth as god would have intended if he had chosen to have his head up his arse. As Gore Vidal pointed out "The gods can't bear the happiness of humans."

I hope this helps.

Somebody once told me "never trust anyone 100%" very wise words

I got so hurt by people that called themselves friends and used the word love like it was nothing that I can't even say I even have one friend...and its not like I'm not friendly or easy to get along with and trust but I much rather stay alone than have fake friends with half trust where only few of the cards are laid on the table. Too exuasting and fake....

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Let me tell you, life itself is a rough sea. Psychologically, the moment we step into this society, we have to be well prepared. The world is full of uncertainty. Don't expect everyone to be the same. When there is a success, definitely there would be a failure to a certain extent. If you are born lucky, everything works well to your favour. Don't lament over spilt-milk. Whether it is friends, love or relatives, just look forward for the better, but, don't be disappointed on any failure. Treat every failure as a lesson and learn from there.

Be happy.

This reminds me about what a priest had said to our community during a sermon: Man changes his mind all the time because he is man.Seek somebody that never changes his mind: God. When God said "I love you" that word stays true forever, for better or worse.

Hi, yes i guess you can not always see what some people are really like. I have had "friends" & family that made me think they love me as i did them for years, the mask does come off eventually and u find out it was an act of self gratification. it hurts when people play games with other people's feelings, and they dont care what damage they cause. The only positive thing about it is that you learn to be more carefull and tend to spot those fakes easier. The experience could also help you to help friends, in situations like these, who dont have a clue that they are being taken for a ride.

So many people losing faith in each other... Where's the love, compassion, and forgiveness? What goes around, comes around! It's easy to love those that love you back, but a genuine and perfect love is being able to forgive and love those that hate and persecute you. Talking about being a friend? No greater love is there than that of a man that will lay down his life for his friend.



I cherish my friends, they are a big part of my life and they have always been there for me in my time of need and I would take a bullit for any one of them. I'm the type of person however, I would take a bullit for a complete stranger just because of my love for people in general. I'm not afraid of dying, because I know when this life is over is when life really begins.

It's hard in these times to find a true friend. When you do It's almost like finding buried treasure.

They are gold. I myself have a few friends but not a really true friend. I guess I haven't searched

in the right places. But I'll keep digging.

AT LEAST ON FEELS NOT ALONE WITH THIS ISSUES. I LIKED THE POST THAT SAID THAT WE SHOUDN´T PUT ANYNONE IN A PEDESTAL AND TO KNOW THAT THE ONLY UNCONDITIONAL LOVE WE CAN GET IS FROM GOD. WE TEND TO PUT PEOPLE IN PEDESTALS, AS IF THEY WERE GODS. THAT THE BIG MISTAKE.

Keep looking for those true friends, there are good straightforward people out there. Know what you want, don't let other people's hurtful ways affect you, your better than that. It takes some time, but if you search it out, be honest with yourself and what you want, you will find others looking for the same thing. I truly believe that.

I recently was wronged by a female friend (I bit my tounge) did not lash out and proceeded to see her even though I was hurt. We had a long talk after the third date (im male) and she explained why she had been evasive. We are now bossom buddies, we plan to hike, camp and party with both our group of friends, with neither exerting pressure on the other re the realationship.

I feel very fortunate to have found a new friend.

I have been hurt by people so many times I can not count. Rarely do I get an I'm sorry. My uncle who was dying of cancer was one who asked my forgiveness. It was so real and sincere it was easy to totally forgive. I let him know that and asked him to turn to God with his eternity. Even God needs a repentance to reconcile. Don't feel bad for needing that accountability. It would be a great world if we stopped hurting each other. But we won't. Know that God Loves You.

You are not alone! It's very difficult to find a "TRUE" friend. They are mostly "Fair-weather" friends. When the chips are down, they are not available. Also true of family members. It hurts deeply, because you do feel betrayed by the people yuo love and thought loved you back. Even though you have been there for them through good and bad. If there's is nothing for them to gain, then they will not be there for you. Good post--thanks.

It is very difficult today to find a TRUE friend. They are mostly "Fair-weather" friends and when the chips are down, they disappear. It hurts mostly because you have always been there for them through good and bad times. But if they cannot get anything out of the relationship with you, then they are not available for you. It's sad and it hurts. The same thing with family. Thanks for your post. You are not alone.

"People come into your life for a reason, season or lifetime....when you know which, you know what to do."



These wise words I have come to know are true and relevant - however the quotation they stem from does not deal with people who will act in a deceiving way - or, maybe it does? In that case it is up to you, yourself to learn those painful lessons and move on and still continue in having a positive outlook on all the new travel companions you meet on your travel on this specific aspect of your existance' journey we tend to call "Life".

It is disappoiniting to realise that poeple now use the words friend and love very loosely. These words have became the new black as it is used with no thought and concideration of the other. i have tried my best to be good and honest to others as i would like them to do the same, unfortunately very few 'give and take' most just take take take take. We are all human what you wish for yourself there are trillions who wish the very same thing.

Let us not be selfish and think of the other that breaths the same air as you.

I feel the same as you do about the people in my life. I think that all over the places are people and people and that if you allow them to know you, if you undress your soul, sometimes, most of the time, you get hurt. Maybe because some people are shallow, without feelings, self centered and they do not even know how much they can hurt you. But as far as the other side of the coin, you see, if you choose like I did to hide from people, to be alone in order to protect yourself, you will suffer much more than when you think about someone that is good and it happens for him or her to be bad.. I have an age now when if I choose to allow someone to know me better if it happens (rarely) for that person not to betray my trust, I am very happy for that. I do not count anymore those who hurt me, because I know it was my mistake when judging them ( maybe because I am not a very good psyhologist and I not know people very well). At the same time they will never have the second chance to hurt me. But you are so, so right when you say that we are here for a reason. We have to learn it, we have to accept it, we have to live with the pain and the happines of life.

i know exactly how you feel. i have grown a tough exterior over the years too and now people see me as someone who is really mean and bitter. im not mean at all. im actually a really kind and affectionate person, i've just been scorned so many times by humans and their lying and disappointing ways. just dont give up- things will get better, eventually

The Bible is God's written Word and you dare to call it BS? God is in complete control and uses His inspired written Word to teach and guide the people who do have faith. God's being in control means He will not let His words to be defiled. ANYone who reads the Bible can see it is consistent all the way through from Genesis to Revelations. Yes I said anyone who reads it, however the true believer will understand it even more.

Trust is hard to build and easy to break.

Trust is something that is really hard to build and that can be easily broken, just like a castle of cards.

You are not alone. People can be very hateful, and there are a few "genuine" friends. We have to be a friend to have one. I am not saying you are not. I have suffered heart break too and I blame myself. I once read a book that Jimmy Carter wrote, and remember from it, that he never told anyone he loved them, until he met the right one, Rosalind. I know the word is used loosely and that "talk is cheap". But it takes so little and costs nothing to encourage one another, and who doesn't need encouragement nowadays... I have found unconditional love in my pets.

I trusted and got screwed also. I learned. I have maybe 3 friends. Maybe.

Two years ago I began to test my friendships for their truth. I must say it was a painful experience because so many where not true, so one by one I stopped friendships with those who could not be real friends. This began a work inside me somehow it caused me to become a more compassionate person to people in general. Some of the hardness of heart that used to be there had gone away. I feel as if it has made me a better person. So now I make friends more carefully and slowly I also make no bones about phony people and how I will just cut them off. I don't hesitate to explain my friendship is a gift I choose to give. Some can handle that others can't and that is not my problem. I do like the fact that I can relate and talk to people from all walks and levels off life. I do find that those who have money are less tolerant of other people and that they mistakenly believe that they can't learn from me because I have less than them. The loss is there's because there are interesting people everywhere. I choose to work through my issue and develop me so that I can be a friend that others would be glad they had me in there life.

English is not my first language so I apologize for any grammar or misspelling errors.



I choose to only trust 3 people in life even if they take me to my grave. That's my daughter, mother and father. I am not antisocial or live a miserable life; I just won't trust a soul; I just live life. I've lived in a country where people would kill for a piece of bread and have gotten to know the true evil sides of good/bad human beings. If I get into a relationship, I enjoy it to the fullest knowing it could end tomorrow, by me or my spouse. Most people don't think that way. Most people believe their wedding vows and end up dead or heartbroken.



NEVER TRUST A SOUL, ever! People will try to take advantage of you if they see that you are soft. Your lovely spouse today can be your bitter enemy tomorrow. Those women/men who believe their spouse would never cheat on them, those are the ones most likely to get hurt and be made a fool of. If you find yourself thinking "no my wife/husband is different and has never/will never cheat on me. You have to know him/her like I do", check his/her computer, follow him/her around, listen to his/her conversations. You have been or will be cheated on. If he/she has low self esteem (i.e. teachers), the worse. :-) That's life.



Like an old man once told me, life is to enjoy it, life is a high school. Cheat on your spouse if you can get away with it. Nobody has to know. Everybody cheats on their spouse. Whether mentally in the shower or at the mall or physically, we all do. That's what humans are all about. We are all hypocrites.



There is no God. God was created by humans out of fear. When you die, you die. The bible was created by a nutcase at a time when drought was considered a punishment from a malformed tree. Churches are full of hypocrites fearing something, running from something. For "God"'s sake, most pastors have a problem in the "after school" area if you know what I mean.



Trying to keep it real. Enjoy life, be nice, social and all those nice things but DO NOT trust anybody. People will take advantage of you if you are weak. We are just a little bit "advanced" species, but still animals.



For those of you who live in a fantasy world (NOT you Whitefox), at some point in your life you'll agree with me. Live your life. Life is a high school, a game. We are on this rock for a very short time.



Voice of the experience.



Thank you.

My soapbox moment: God. Really? What exactly does God have to do with interpersonal relationships? What exactly does God have to do with free will? People please... God didn't have **** to do with the lies that spewed from my ex's mouth. God didn't have **** to do with my ex having a physical and emotional relationship with another woman. My ex is a Roman Catholic who thinks all he has to do is "confess" and he will be free to continue to do the same thing over and over again without making any changes in himself. I forgave the ******* twice. Three strikes, your out. Period.

GOD knows why we are here.We are all part of His plan!!! BY GRACE - THROUGH FAITH......

So very true and right to the point. I feel the same way as you. Ive had my share of loves gut wrenching pains in my life, but i do have one different theory about it. Walls are good for self protection, but they have to be flexible. Look at it this way. What is true love?? It is a sharing of the non physical "hearts", thats inside of our souls. Too many of us put up a shield to protect this heart, from the experience and pain of being hurt. With a closed heart, you can ward off pain of the heart from others. But the downside of that, is you wont be able to tell, see, hear or feel real love that another heart is trying to give you, which also robs you of the peace of sharing and giving peace and comfort back from your heart. Remember, its not your mind that communicates love....Its your hearts. If one phone line is unplugged, the hearts cant communicate. I had to make a decision years ago. Do I go thru the rest of my life, with a closed heart and miss out on the chance of experiencing real and true love, w/o a broken heart, or do I leave my heart open and easy to get it hurt from others. To me it was an easy choice. The chance of sharing true and everlasting love with someone one day with an open heart outweighs the loss of a chance of never having it. So I accept that my heart may get broken several more times, before the right love comes along. That love may never come, but at least i give myself hope that it will............mississippi joe

So very true and right to the point. I feel the same way as you. Ive had my share of loves gut wrenching pains in my life, but i do have one different theory about it. Walls are good for self protection, but they have to be flexible. Look at it this way. What is true love?? It is a sharing of the non physical "hearts", thats inside of our souls. Too many of us put up a shield to protect this heart, from the experience and pain of being hurt. With a closed heart, you can ward off pain of the heart from others. But the downside of that, is you wont be able to tell, see, hear or feel real love that another heart is trying to give you, which also robs you of the peace of sharing and giving peace and comfort back from your heart. Remember, its not your mind that communicates love....Its your hearts. If one phone line is unplugged, the hearts cant communicate. I had to make a decision years ago. Do I go thru the rest of my life, with a closed heart and miss out on the chance of experiencing real and true love, w/o a broken heart, or do I leave my heart open and easy to get it hurt from others. To me it was an easy choice. The chance of sharing true and everlasting love with someone one day with an open heart outweighs the loss of a chance of never having it. So I accept that my heart may get broken several more times, before the right love comes along. That love may never come, but at least i give myself hope that it will............mississippi joe