Well-meaningWhen you confess your feelings of worthlessness and general helplessness, or mention that you suffer from depression, there are always well-meaning people throwing advice at you.
"You just need to learn to love/accept/value yourself." - Well, if I knew how to do that, I wouldn't have low self-esteem, would I?
"Just believe in yourself." - I have low self-esteem. Belief in oneself doesn't come easy to the likes of me.
"Just be positive." - Here again, easier said than done - any sentence that begins with "just"... it's never "just" that easy!
I know they mean well. But it doesn't help. It makes me feel like my depression is somehow my fault, like I SHOULD be able to "just" snap out of it, and it adds more guilt to an already burdened heart.
I do want to learn to believe in myself, to love myself, to be positive. But the whole point is, I don't know HOW to do that. So unless you have an actual tip on how I can do it... don't tell me to "just" snap out of it.
DancingFox 31-35, F 5 Responses 1 Feb 19, 2011