Material Things

why is it that material things are only a short-term fix? why can't they just make things perfect? I have such low-self esteem and I have struggled with it for what seems to be all my life. I have currently gotten the fake nails and a pedicure to make me feel better about myself. I've also started tanning. But JEEZ these are only short term fixes. How can I love anyone else if I can't love myself?? I suffer from depression b/c of how hard I am on myself. Even though I've lost 40-45lbs in the past 10 months or so i still feel horrible about myself. I know the physical issues are fixable, but what about the inside?? I need too much gratification from everyone else to make me feel good. Sigh..why can't I just not care what everyone else thinks?? Only if material things could fix self esteem issues permanantly...wouldn't that make life so much easier? hahaha

tlee9832 tlee9832
26-30, F
2 Responses Mar 31, 2008

I agree with the above, expect good things from yourself. Be the loving parent, say the loving things inside, find new creative outlets. Rather than looking on to others with respect and envy, watch as they do that for you. Surround yourself with the people who make you feel good. Discard the others, if they are family, be friendly but do not let them in TOTALLY. They may hurt you. <br />
Have nice things, but dont NEED nice things. If you break something, you loved, say thank you for being there when I needed you - no need for tears. <br />
Yes congrats with the loss of weight, if you can do that - that tells me you are disciplined and on the road to happiness FELT.

Hey there, I think it's just basic human nature to crave approval, often linked to craving or needing love, friendship, etc etc!<br />
A hundred years ago we were too busy, exhausted, whatever it was, to have time to feel some of the things that we experience today.<br />
So is life better or worse, who knows?<br />
All I know is everyone is special and everyone deserves recognition for themselves, so keep up the good work(weight loss!)<br />
And try something new everyday!<br />