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Unfortunately I Do. ...

unfortunately i do. i try to raise it, but i find ways of "coping" that are unhealthy. i have justified myself as a human being and as a woman by having brief relationships in order to feel validated.
lostcancerian lostcancerian 26-30, F 8 Responses Apr 26, 2007

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There are times in all of our lives when we feel as though no one truly knows us.God bless you...:)

hi everyone..i think im dealing myself with low self esteem recently and it happens me any time im in a relationship...cause i figure our myany of my inperfection and i feel confused and afraid to go throught this retalionship...its difficult

YOU HIT THE NAIL ON THE HEAD ...YOUR PROBLEM IS PERFECTIONISM NOT LACK OF ESTEEM.... PERFECTIONIST'S ARE PEOPLE THAT WILL NOT TRY ANYTHING BECAUSE IT JUST WILL NOT BE PERFECT...STOP DEFEATING YOURSELF...WITH GETTING IT RIGHT . YA KNOW THERE IS PRETTY MUCH ONLY ONE RIGHT ANSWER TO ANYTHING AND A MILLION WRONG ONES...THE ODDS ARE THAT IT WILL NEVER BE PERFECT...(SORRY FOR THE CAPS)

YES; i too have periodical very brief relations to feel validated as a woman. mainly. also, for intimacy with a man that i need. otherwise-----since i havent been in a long-term relationship in eight years------well, u get the idea.

That is so true.....but why do we still need validation from others? Knowing and believing are 2 different things. I guess those of us that lack self esteem need to work at...one step at a time....

the dichotomy is ....<br />
you are the only one who REALLY knows how amazing you are.....

Me too! All my life I have taken a backseat to others because I have decided that I was not as worthy. But on another level (as a musician), I have also put myself very high! So I guess I should be writing about being complicated, but I'm not. Go figure...

Self esteem is so easy to breakdown .. there is a website that has self help material on it called coping.org and also setting small goals for yourself and completing them and taking the time to nurture yourself on a day to day basis these are things i have done to cope with my self esteem issues i hope it helps

I can tell that you are a very intelligent, kind and caring person. Its amazing that some of the best people out there actually do suffer from low self esteem. I am going through that same little roller coaster myself. Between a job and relationship that ended in the last 4 months I am feeling a serious rejection theme around my life now. Its weird really even of of my guy friends who is strictly just a platonic friend I feel like has started blowing me off. I don't know for sure he is I mean I know he has been busy but even my girlfriends people are either busy or distant. I feel very alone but maybe we need that sometimes to pick up the pieces of our lives so we can move on and do what we are supposed to be doing. I have spent a lot of time trying to be pleasing in everyone elses eyes and ignoring my own needs. I think thats how we get lost and lose a sense of self. Do you think this is what has been happening with you?