I Wrote This For An Assignemnt For School, Thought I'd Share :)
Look in the mirror and ask yourself if you are the type of person you want to marry.
When I first chose this step, I originally thought the answer would of course be “no”. I thought of all negative things, my flaws. But then instead of just deciding on that answer, I truly stood in front of the mirror and asked myself that question. Is it conceited or self-righteous to say that my answer is now yes? Does it make me a bad person to actually like things about myself? Am I a stuck up teenage girl who only thinks about herself? Those are the questions that ran through my head when I decided I did like the type of person I was. But the truth of the matter is, no it doesn’t make me any of those things.
It seems like society has practically programmed us to think negatively about ourselves, like we shouldn’t feel confident about ourselves. I am usually pretty confident with myself; I stand up for what I believe in, I am usually the first to raise my hand and volunteer to do something no one else does. Those are not the things I think of first though when I “evaluate” myself. I first think “Oh I have frizzy hair” or “I am not a size 4 so therefore, I am not pretty.” I am not even entirely sure how to describe what I am trying to say because I even confuse myself sometimes. Yes I think those things, but I immediately correct myself: “I may have frizzy hair sometimes, but I have curls many girls want and natural highlights.” Or “I may not be a size 4 but I have long legs, I am pretty comfortable with whom I am, and my body is not what makes me, ME.” I move on to other things, my sense of needing to make a difference and not to be just a face in the crowd, my ability to be friends with all types of people whether they are “jocks” or “the nerds” or the “populars”. I am generally friends with all groups. I can adapt well from moving quite often which has also led to me making friends easily.
Most importantly though, I am loyal to my friends, I have integrity, I am religious and that is something that I really want in a future husband if I am to get married. Religion is such a big part of my life, so much so I question almost every day if I am being called to the religious life or not. I also am serious but I can also be a goofy, motor mouth best friend.
I still come back to that haunting question: “Does this make me a conceited person?” I learned that if I am confident in the right way, then no it does not make me a snob or stuck up. I like who I am and who I am becoming. We are forever changing aren’t we? And I hope I will continue to become a better person, someone that people associate loyal, caring, intelligent, loving, etc with.