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Worried About Everything

As well as being paranoid about my looks I also worry about things as small as going to a new building - I worry that I'll look like an idiot when I can't find the door or I'll be trying to push it when it says pull! I have no idea why I worry about this I don't judge others when they do something like that -actually I go out of my way to make them feel comfortable about it- so why do I think that someone else will be looking at me saying look at that tool who doesn't know which way to open a door? I even hate it when my husband finds us a table at the shopping centre and I have to find him cause I think I'll look stupid standing there trying to find where he is! I can't pee in public toilets or even at work unless there is alot of noise or I know there are people around as I'm afraid someone will hear me- I have even flushed the toilet and prenteded like I've gone then I've had to go straight home so that I can go for real!! The thing that makes that really wierd is that I've had 2 kids - there is no dignity in that so why does something absolutely normal bother me?!! Is anybody else wierd like that??
mum08 mum08 26-30, F 14 Responses Feb 21, 2007

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I feel the same. But being too self-conscious wouldn't get you anywhere. I know you don't want to look like a fool or being laughed at by but it's natural to make mistakes. But if you really want to avoid committing those small mistakes, then try to be sharp and always look around you. Use your eyes more and don't get too distracted by your surroundings.

You're over-worried, sweetheart. Stop going on high-speed,slow down and think your current situation through - one at a time. There is no need to obsess about everything all at once. Take it as it comes and the day and evening progress. By bedtime, you should be a little more relaxed.

I used to be like you. Then I did like I suggest above. It works - trust me.

What can I say? There is nothing at all from what you have said that should make you anxious, paranoid or unable to just get on with things. Get a grip springs to mind but I do understand that this is a real problem for you. So I would advise you to realise your own inner strength, decide you can do this , practice in your head, 'I am able' repeat until you are convinced, then go for it. Only you can do this, and you know you can. Go for it. xxx

Start to trust yourself. Look around and see the most weird, unusual, crazy, overconfident, drunk, drugged, rude, ignorant people. See U are just right. There is no such thing as normal, What is normal and who decides?<br />
U decide about your normal. U are U and expect others to accept U for U., Trust yourself. U are just right. Say it to yourself several times a day look around and say I am lucky to be myself and normal by my standard look at some of those poor bastards around......................... I am lucky to be me.

I can't say that I have worried about those same things but I feel your pain. I have been a worry wart all my life. I just have for some reason I wish I could change it, I am trying and have gotten better over the years. I wish I had some magic words for you but i don't, I can say that for me 9 times out of 10 what ever I am worring about when it is over I realized it was not that big of a deal. I hope you find the courage to work through yours.

I can relate... especially the door thing. the best thing to do is probably laugh it off first before anyone else can.

Your appreciated...........God bless you...:)

i understand that..........but slowly,slowly,maybe u can control it.hugs

I get the same paranoid feeling. I make sure I try to do everything right when I am in public for fear people are judging me constantly. And I also worry a lot. I worry whenever my boyfriend talks to a new hot girl in fears he is going to realize he can do better then me. Or I worry I am never going to graduate college and accomplish nothing in life. I graduate in Dec. and am scared if I don't find a job close to home that he will leave me if I move away. It is hard to set these worries aside and understand it is almost like something you can not control, that no matter what these thoughts pop into your head.

I can totally relate. One of my awkward feelings come when i am standing in a fairly long line waiting to check out, I feel like I don't know what I'm supposed to look at. I cant look at the people in front of me for very long or they might think I'm staring or being in patient, I can't look at the cashier because of the same reasons, so if I don't have something to distract me (like my phone) I feel like I am constantly and aimlessly moving my eyes around, which makes me look impatient or crazy or both. Fitting in sometimes is so much easier said than done.

Sound so familiar:) I have similar thinking n reaction sometimes!but i try to get rid of it by doing new things every now and then.In my case,it can be related to the way i grew up.so many rules: don't do this or that, u r a girl,it's a shame...what ppl will say about us...!:S.I think i've been pushin over my limit tryin to look acceptable in the eye of my surrounding that i forgot to enjoy the moment and be relaxed in what i do(that's my priority now!).

I feel like you are describing me! When I go shopping, it is only to familiar places that I know. I will drive out of my way to go to a gas station that I have been to before, even if I am parked right in front of one! I know that I am nuts for being this way, but I can't help it. I always feel that people are staring at me and giving me funny looks, but I think it is because I look so damn uncomfortable and awkward trying to fit in!

I also can relate. I refuse to ask for help or directions. I'm afraid of being humiliated publically.

I think it is anxiety. I think many people feel the way you do. I am very self conscious about many things. I don't like to draw attention to myself. I am really trying hard to fix this in myself. This can be so debilitating. I really do understand. Email me any time.<br />
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Cassandra