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I have a very low self esteem. It became worst when my ex made me feel that I wasn't good enough for him because I'm not equally attractive as him. I mean I already know that I'm ugly, he does not have to rub it on my face. I know you'd probably say that I should not give him the satisfaction to see me get affected with it but I did and I am. I avoid mirrors as much as possible because it pulls me down every time I see my face. When people say I'm pretty, I think they are just being nice. It's like no one would ever like me for me because most people look only from the outside. People say that I can't find someone to love me if I can't love myself first but I don't know how to love myself. I hate myself. I don't know anymore.

justcantlivealie justcantlivealie 18-21, F 6 Responses Nov 14, 2009

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don't blame yourself , you were just with the wrong person . when things don't work with me I say that I am just in the wrong place , there is better place for me , it is the same with relationships , sometimes we think that we were rejected from others because we are ugly , that's not true we are just in the wrong place with the wrong people .<br />
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just accept yourself and be yourself then you will meet the person who can make you happy and you cam make him happy as well .<br />
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if you can't accept yourself how can other accept you ? .. I think when we are proud of ourselves then other people will be proud of us without even know why they are proud of us .<br />
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you are the person who should start accepting itself and then you will see the change in your life :)<br />
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I think I have accepted myself lately .lol.<br />
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I hope you can understand my English and have a good day :)

thank you boby6...

**** ur ex ppl say anything when they wanna break up. Also lonelygyrl101 u asked ur bf a question and he told u the truth isnt that better than just lying to u? Anyway i feel same way as u, no matter how many ppl tell me im cute i dont believe them. Same as if im in a group of 2 ppl or 100 ppl i always feel alone. I no this didnt really help u out at all but i have found talking about it helps a lot. Even if its jsut telling ur story and having ppl comment like this

i am a man, but i find myself to be quite unlike the rest. i actually don't care what people look like. to me it is not important. what i do find important is the personality. just today, i was talking to my friend who is looking for a girlfriend and i asked him what kind of person he was looking for. he said he didn't want someone who is fat and i said why not and the only answer he could come up with was "i don't know". i told him that was really stupid and hopefully i won't offend anyone here but i said to him "so you only want the ones that are skinny and have a nice body now? you know that will fade and then what do you have? if that is the only reason you like her you are in for a shock 10 years down the line". my point is: don't listen to those guys. all they want to do is get into your pants. i know it is not really realistic but try meeting somebody online without letting them see you until about a week later. i think that is probably the best way to get around this "looks" thing that seems to be so important to people for some reason. also, i don't believe in the word ugly. everybody is beautiful in their own way regardless of what society thinks.

I can relate. I recently asked my boyfriend if he found me boring, cause I think I'm boring, since I don't do much. And he asked do you find yourself boring, and I said yes, and he said well you have low self esteem then. And I just felt horrible, it really wasn't the answer that I was looking for. <br />
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Yes, men can be jerks. But sometimes we can't help but listen to their comments.

Your ex is a jerk (sorry but he is). Men say some horrible things when they want to break up with you. If he is 'attractive' on the outside then he is just plain ugly on the inside, you were good enough for him at the start weren't you?<br />
I know it's hard but don't let his words effect you because quite frankly he's not worth the bother but know one thing, you are a better person than he'll ever be.