I Have Never Been In a Relationship
To tell the truth, it might actually be a good thing in some ways. To me, having a long list of exes might say more about poor decision-making skills than how successful one has been romantically. But clearly society doesn't share that view with me, as most people use their relationship status as some kind of badge of honor, like "Oh, yeah? Well, I have a girlfriend!" As if that's a good thing in and of itself, just like how people view their loss of virginity. I think it's people's natural need for affection and attention that leads them to believe that relationships are somehow intrinsically good, like a magical, life-saving elixir. We're social animals, so, naturally, any time spent alone is going to put a strain on one's stress levels and make them feel like they have to close the gap somehow. They start picturing the gap being closed by their being in a relationship where everything's all cute and perfect. They start picturing those kinds of relationships with almost everyone they see, which leads to either desperation or foolhardy "young love" which only lasts a couple of years at best. That is, unless they can evaluate the situation and realize what's happening and why they should stop it.
So, my point is yeah, maybe I haven't been in a relationship ever, but that doesn't really mean anything. It's certainly not a bad thing by itself. It might be bad for people who let their natural cravings for attention get to them and become personal, but it's not impossible to be single and fine with it. Self-control is always an option. I've seen opportunities to get a girlfriend in the past, but never ones which seemed like they would lead to relationships based on compatibility which would last very long. That's my main priority for relationships now, is compatibility. Liking somebody does not make you compatible. You can like a member of the opposite sex without being that person's soul mate. In fact, it happens all the time.
Now, that doesn't necessarily mean I've gone cynical and think love is impossible. I think it's very possible, and so is the notion of me being in a relationship eventually (hopefully a happy, healthy one which lasts). But, even though that kind of relationship is always a possibility, it doesn't always happen. In the long run, it's all going to boil down to happenstance, coincidence, and choices which may or may not seem consequential at the time. So that's my view on relationships, and why being in one isn't necessarily the better way to be.
So, my point is yeah, maybe I haven't been in a relationship ever, but that doesn't really mean anything. It's certainly not a bad thing by itself. It might be bad for people who let their natural cravings for attention get to them and become personal, but it's not impossible to be single and fine with it. Self-control is always an option. I've seen opportunities to get a girlfriend in the past, but never ones which seemed like they would lead to relationships ba
Now, that doesn't necessarily mean I've gone cynical and think love is impossible. I think it's very possible, and so is the notion of me being in a relationship eventually (hopefully a happy, healthy one which lasts). But, even though that kind of relationship is always a possibility, it doesn't always happen. In the long run, it's all going to boil down to happenstance, coincidence, and choices which may or may not seem consequential at the time. So that's my view on relationships, and why being in one isn't necessarily the better way to be.
By:
siamul
Age:
22-25
,
Male
