I am 29 years old and have never been in a relationship. Which means yes, I have no experience in the sack. Is that such a bad thing?

It seems like these days men and women only want men and women that have been with other people. I don't understand this. (Maybe because I've never been with anyone? Maybe.) It seems stupid that a woman/man would want a man/woman that has brought all his/her luggage from all his/her previous relationships to this one. (And whatever else) Sure they also bring experience to the bedroom, but does that really outweigh the rest of it?

I would think men and women with experience in dating or in the sack would want to find someone with little to no experience dating or in the bedroom so they could teach the other what they like rather than have someone that is just ok. It seems like to me if both had lots of experience then each would always be compared to the EX. Where as if one or both had little to no experience you would rarely to never be being compared to an EX. Personally I would think that would be better, but that's just me I guess. I personally don't want a woman that has been with more than 1 maybe 2 guys in her life. Surely there are still some out there somewhere.

I guess I will continue (maybe for the rest of my life) to be single until I find someone I think is worth while.
bakkenguy bakkenguy
31-35, M
3 Responses Aug 18, 2014

I'm 37 and in the same boat as you (never had a relationship and still a virgin). Aside from a little drunken cuddling and making out, I haven't had any contact with the opposite sex. Too much importance is placed on the superficial. How much money you make, how much experience you have, things like that. It sucks, but it seems as though in order to have any chance of getting anywhere at our age, we have to be somewhat dishonest. I told one girl that I was still a virgin, and after that she was turned off and wouldn't see me as anything more than a friend. I guess that in order to have a shot, you have to fake it until you make it. Simple as that. I'm still trying to figure that part out myself.

i believe it such such a matter of time

You've come up with the idea that people who have dated and broken up bring baggage with them from every relationship. I guess you made up this idea to comfort yourself. No, I wouldn't want to date a virgin who is also a virgin to love. Because virgins are terrible in bed and virgins to relationships don't know what they want or how to conduct themselves in a relationship.